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Even when it's expected, it's always hard to react as you planned when it's something that effects you so much on an emotional level. Hang in there!

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Even when it's expected, it's always hard to react as you planned when it's something that effects you so much on an emotional level. Hang in there!

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I prefer muts over any other type of dog. Plus in my experience they have less health problems and live longer lives.

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#52 In general, that's actually not true. (I'm not trying to argue with you, it's just that a lot of people believe the myth that mutts as a whole are healthier than purebred dogs). Here's why they're not. Purebreds that come from a reputable breeder that health tests properly and does everything they're supposed to, are in general quite healthy because the breeder is doing everything possible to breed the best dogs and lines together to minimize health and behavioral problems later in life. Of

It will pass, of you'd made a decision to not get back, stick on to it OP. The fact that your losing her will make you want to do a lot of things that you might regret later.

Five years. Hrm. You can't be prepared for something like that even if you think you are. Something in a highly emotional situation like that can't exactly be the easiest thing. Sorry for that to happen bud. But hey, now you can find someone new and better! When you're ready of course.

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Why on earth would you assume she's a bitch? People don't always stay in love. OP said nothing about her being a bitch about it. And after 5 years, I would think OP needs time before just getting another girlfriend.

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I know you were just trying to support OP by insulting his ex girlfriend, but it's really inappropriate. She sat down and explained to him that the relationship wasn't working out anymore. That sounds exactly like what you're supposed to do in that situation.

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She's a bitch because she didn't lead him on or start cheating on him while pretending to still be in love ? Makes sense. And girl's are not cars, you don't just get a new one and forget about the one you had before. I doubt OP really wants to get with someone new after ending a five years long relationship.

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She did the responsible thing by telling him when she started getting those feelings. Just because you start dating someone doesn't mean you'll be together forever. She did the right thing.

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Ugh cut the crap with the whole "be a man" bullshit. Men have feelings and should be able to express them and be upset without being emasculated. Don't be a dick.

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They DID talk it out, what more do you want? Should OP rip off his shirt, pound on his chest and pee on her to show an appropriate amount of masculinity? He and his girlfriend just ended a five year relationship. Even if he saw it coming and didn't avoid the issue, it's a big life change. He has a right to be distressed about it. The only reason he probably thought he had to 'play it cool' is because of people like you who tell men that it's girly or gay to have feelings.

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I don't see why he needs to talk it out anyway? I think op's way of going about it was perfectly fine. If the relationship could be saved, he was willing to talk about it, but if it was too late it would probably just cause more pain.

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unfortunately, society is against you. as are some of the more "manly" men. i myself support the "manly" man image, because it trains me to get over things myself without support. rather useful.

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While I don't see anything wrong with wanting to be a manly man, letting your "manly" demeanor become too important is unhealthy. Holding all your emotion back without properly coping will eventually harm your psyche and you'll wind up having an intense emotional breakdown.

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I think #7 meant OP should be a man and talk about it. OP said he had planned to say, "If it's something we can't fix I don't want to talk about it." No talking about his feelings will probably take OP longer to get over his girlfriend because he will be thinking about all the things he could have and should have said after the fact. Break ups are hard, that macho bullshit just makes it harder to have a good relationship in the future because of all the things 'macho' men bury instead

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I went through that alright. Emotional breakdowns are nasty. But I lived, so it's ok. Now I know how to prevent it from happening again. Besides, I never got any support anyway, so I had to do it all myself.

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Real manly men are the ones who stand up and fight for things they think are right, who don't let fear and foolish pride get in the way of going ahead, taking the risk, and getting what they need. Manly men let themselves have feelings, because they know that they won't be ridiculed, because everybody has feelings. They talk about things, to make it better. They cast away doubt, have ambition, and travel to places they have never been before, because they are true explorers. They stand by the on

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Ugh. I hate it when my ex agrees to be friends with me and then refuses to talk to me afterwards. Couldn't you at least tell her that you were going to block her? This has happened to me three times; two of those times, they were my best friend before the relationship started, and it did fuck-all for my self-worth when they refused to acknowledge me once we stopped having sex (we were usually friends-with-benefits afterwards, because having sex with someone you've mutually broken up with is grea

Expecting it and hearing it are two very different things. It cuts so much deeper once it actually comes out of the person's mouth. Your reaction is understandable. So sorry for the pain OP.

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