By EosThorn - 02/10/2014 01:33 - Sweden - V?xj?
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OP here. I don't know if I'm doing this correctly, but here goes. Thank you for the encouraging comments, even the harsh ones. I'm aware of how ridiculous this sounds... Trust me. I have two good female friends who I'm sure are tired of me harping away on this. It hasn't been years of me staring at him through foggy windows, all sad. I've dated other people and so has he. It wasn't easy because truly, I love him. Circumstances just didn't allow for us to be together... Whether he wanted to or not. So, I chose to keep his friendship and not risk it. We are adults now and things have changed. It's perfect, but I feel like so much time has passed that he no longer sees me as a girl he'd want to be with now that its possible. We have a special bond and as much as it devastates me to think he would reject me, it would kill me to see everything we have just turn into something ugly.
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Why didn't you say something? Maybe he was putting some hints out for you that you just didn't take up.
Op, he's not into you. Move on.
Remember, being in the friend zone just means you're not attractive enough.
YDI for not telling him your feelings for a decade. A healthy Friendship is over as soon as one has feelings for the other. There is no reason to wait especially that long. It will hurt if it doesnt work our but it will free you up for something new and when youre over it you can have a healthy friendship with him.
juturnaamo
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It's always possible she told him a long time ago and he shot her down.
And that's when she should've moved on.
graphicstyle7
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You will hate hearing this, but it's a way to either get past this and move on, or get what you want. Terrifying as it is... sit him down and tell him how you feel. I know, I know, if he does not go for it, you're stuck, but, frankly, you have NOTHING to loose except this wispy, "I'm not worthy" feeling you seem to have. Then get on a dating site or go to a bar and date your brains out. If he DOES go for it, then, success! There were some guys I would of dated, back when I was single, who never approached me. I still have no clue what was going on in their minds, and I would of been happy if they had asked me out, but they never made the first move. Go for it.
Screw him OP things happen fot a reason he simply doesnt deserve you
wow 10 years...when are you planning to tell him...after silver jubilee..??
How about you tell him how you feel? Who knows, take a risk instead of regretting it once it finds a girl and it not being you!
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The struggle is real!
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Make your own profile and get his attention, OP!
These guys are saying to make your own profile, which is cute and all, but what if he finds someone else's before yours? No, the best option is to be upfront and talk to him about your feelings.