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Setting a good example is a much better start than forcing your child to do something that you don't even do yourself. Maybe you should try planning activities that will get you both of the couch, and everyone can enjoy it willingly.

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Surely it's more efficient ways to getting him off of the couch. How about going out and spending some quality time with him ?

Setting a good example is a much better start than forcing your child to do something that you don't even do yourself. Maybe you should try planning activities that will get you both of the couch, and everyone can enjoy it willingly.

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Feels a bit rude to assume the OP doesn't try. What if (s)he plans loads of activities but the child is just a brat who refuses to do anything that doesn't involve the internet?

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I never said that they don't try. Most teenagers aren't brats who refuse to do anything that doesn't involve the Internet, but they stay on it all day because they have nothing better to do and it's a form of entertainment, similar to watching Tv or movies, both of which you can do on the Internet. I was simply offering an idea for OP, because based off what they said and other posts on Social Media, there is no reason to assume he tried to take his kid camping or have a game night.

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Even if he had tried, I'm sure there are things the teenager would like to try that would get him off the couch willingly. Turning off the WIFI does nothing but pushes the kid away, and that accomplishes nothing. Clearly.

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Someone's a bit optimistic. I know plenty of teens who refuse to do anything that doesn't involve the Internet. Not because they're bored or there isn't else to do, because they genuinely don't want to do anything else. There is no reason to assume (s)he DIDN'T try to take his/her kid camping or schedule a game night. Coming from a person who has tried to get teens to do something beside play video games and watch telly.

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A mother who consistently threatened to take away my things and establish 'rules' is why my adult self has psychological difficulties with letting others handle anything I own, people behind my back, etc. Being overly strict just leads to further issues down the road.

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Yeah, don't take away or lock up anything. Didn't get me and my parents anywhere. They stopped doing that, started communicating more and it got better.

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I think this really depends on why the internet was taken away. Like say OP's son has been using it to game on the tv, hasn't done his homework or chores, won't share the tv, plays so much that he lacks sleep, etc...And say OP has talked to him and asked him to do other stuff, and warned him that the internet would be taken away if he didn't. In that case, I think this situation would be reasonable because: a) the rule was clearly defined and had a logical reason (ie: no games till your respons

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I can see where you're coming from but I can also see where the parent is coming from. My uncle used to have to do this with my cousin because she would sit at the computer for hours without taking a break, and I don't mean just a couple hours, like from noon until like 10or 12 at night, which is extremely unhealthy. if it was a situation like this then I can understand where OP is coming from.

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It's not unhealthy, You do realize that as long as you are being healthy for example like eating and taking a quick jog it can be fine. I am a video editor and I spend plenty of hours a day editing so him doing that isn't that bad

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I think if it was similar to your situation, it’d be an obvious YDI…But at the same time, I feel like we don’t have the whole situation. He says his son was on the couch…so it seems more likely he was using the internet for either Netflix or online gaming (not just for listening to music or reading articles or wtv). Plus, just because OP was watching tv, doesn’t mean he wanted the son to watch with him. He might have wanted him to get homework done, do chores, go outside for a bit, spend time wi

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I honestly think this FML was just misunderstood. Pretty sure OP just wanted the couch for themselves is all.

Don't understand your logic "oh my sons on the couch (doing something) lets get him off by turning the wifi, while I'm at it I might watch some tv" it might make sense if you don't have time to do things and that's all your son does but seriously don't take something from someone than do it later.

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Uh, no. Parents are not gods that kids have to obey the every whim of. They are raising children who will become adults who will have to make their own choices. Instead of passive-aggressively turning off the WiFi, OP could have: organized a family outing, modeled better behavior from the get-go, encouraged taking a walk, reading, or, by setting an even better example, turned off the cable his/herself and declared they were going electronics free today. That's parenting.

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Why are people defending the parent? An adult is an adult, you do things for your kids because you need to set an example. If you don't want your kids to watch the TV or use the WiFi, then you shouldn't either. I am very much sure the kid had valid reasons to why he turned it off. When I teach my class, the students do things I don't like when they're not being respected in their classroom. Kids these days putting up with bullshit from adults is ridiculous. They have no respect and believe they'

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They're defending the child because parents can be in the WRONG TOO. And it seems here that the OP was being passive aggressive, and hypocritical, which IS NOT an acceptable way to teach a lesson, you want your kid to respect and learn from you, LEAD BY EXAMPLE. A child does not always have to do everything their parents say, parents aren't infallible and they can be wrong. Saying a child has to do everything an authority says can lead to abuse and stifles free thinking, children are individual

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I agree with you completely. Unfortunately it's an unpopular way of thinking. The youths of today are entitled and don't like to respect authority figures in their lives. It's interesting that most of the comments defending the parent and implying there is more to the story are thumbed down. My suspicion is it's being done by said entitled individuals.

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If you want respect you have to earn it. And the comments being downvoted are either insulting a whole generation(like you) or acting like the kid should follow whatever a parent says whether it's justified or not. Notice in other above comments someone giving the chance of the child neglecting things and already having been warned is up voted. There are reasons this could be justified, but the FML seems like the parent just wanted them to get off the computer to do something else when they want

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If you want respect you have to earn it. And the comments being downvoted are either insulting a whole generation(like you) or acting like the kid should follow whatever a parent says whether it's justified or not. Notice in other above comments someone giving the chance of the child neglecting things and already having been warned is up voted. There are reasons this could be justified, but the FML seems like the parent just wanted them to get off the computer to do something else when they want

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If you want respect you have to earn it. And the comments being downvoted are either insulting a whole generation(like you) or acting like the kid should follow whatever a parent says whether it's justified or not. Notice in other above comments someone giving the chance of the child neglecting things and already having been warned is up voted. There are reasons this could be justified, but the FML seems like the parent just wanted them to get off the computer to do something else when they want

You need to hold yourself to the same standards you hold your kids, if not higher. Anything less is being a hypocrite.

You seem a tad hypocritical here. You're trying to get your child off the couch but then your proceed to sit on it. Perhaps try spending time with your son instead of getting him to stop doing something that you do right after.

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