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By It was the 11 year old / Saturday 21 July 2012 08:00 / United States - Austin
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At least it saves OP from going through the trouble of explaining it without weirding out his/her kids.

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  un1corns  |  15

1 - He's most likely in grade 5/6, so he may have already started learning it in school. They start teaching it at around that age here... not sure how it is in another areas.

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  tehcyberman  |  9

6- Even if they already know, or think they know, OP would be smart to talk to them about sex, puberty, etc. It's an important part of growing for you to hear that from a parent or a parental figure. An 11 year old doesn't fit that description. 7- It was 7th to 8th grade for us, but by then most of us had already had the talk with our parenrs.

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  MoodyBlue320  |  11

Now that I think about it, you're right. When I was in 6th grade, a woman came and gave us a speech about sex and std's. Huh, I never realized how young I was to e learning such things. O_O

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  patrickalamo  |  47

Blame the education system.

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  rageandlove13  |  8

They've started teaching 4th graders around where I live about STIs, and I think that's a little much. They don't understand any of it, and part of the reason is probably because the schools don't tell them HOW you can get STIs...

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  Harpy20  |  24

For as long as I can remember, I had a general idea of the differences between boys and girls and what it meant. My awkward moments only came when I got the talk and my parents were more nervous than I was, not realizing just how much I already knew. Of course I hadn't filled them in until after they were done.

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  peachyFML  |  17

I go to a private school, and we still haven't had any sex Ed in the tenth grade. The teachers always skip anything to do with sex. Yet, we have had 2 girls get pregnant in my class, which only had 11 girls to start with.

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  e_r_i_c_a  |  4

1- Most professionals reccomend starting to talk to your kid about sex related topics as young as that can possibly understand them, or are curious about them. It will make them feel more comfortable to talk to you when they have questions later in life rather than going to friends or the Internet. Of course if your 4 year old has a question you would have to explain it to them in a way they would understand. But being honest and giving apporpriate information for the kids age is important. It shouldn't be one big talk it should be an ongoing conversation where they can talk to you and be open. Although many parents don't want to have to talk to there kids about sex.

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  nado13579  |  12

At my school you start learning about puberty and such in fifth grade but don't learn about sex until seventh. And in grade eight was when we learned about the diseases like AIDS and so on. My school's a little behind.

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  AceArctic  |  4

In my schooling we've never gotten the true sex talk, but we did have an AIDS seminar when I was a freshman. I made things weird by asking if you could get herpes from public toilets. (The answer was no, but I'm still a skeptic.)

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  rattusrattus  |  18

From what I've heard about US sex ed, probably not.

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  slurshies  |  11

as much as I hate to say it, other countries have pregnant teens.. unless your comment was sarcasm O.o

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  LouisianaBob  |  9

#16 sounds like he means the fact that in the US teaching sex ed at all is controversial and that there are a sizable number of people who want to teach abstinence only because of kids don't know what sex is then they won't have it.

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  mike3775  |  29

#16 is probably referring to the fact that sex Ed in the US is hit or miss. My local public school system will tell kids how the dick goes into the vagina, but will not say that a condom over the dick or the girl taking the pill, cuts down the chances of getting pregnant. It's stupid really

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  tehcyberman  |  9

It's not the Sex-ed program's fault that kids get pregnant. There will always be kids who think condoms are "stupid" or that losing your virginity as a teen is "cool".

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  rattusrattus  |  18

Also the fact that I've heard people say they were taught that condoms are permeable. Which kinda misses the point of condoms and is also easily disproved by condom balloons. What's really worrying is that they're thinking of exporting these programmes.

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  eatthemcows  |  4

Condoms actually ARE permeable though. They only allow a very small amount of semen through, but some can cross the membrane of the condom. Just because something is inflatable doesn't mean it isn't permeable.... They are for the most part about 99% effective though.

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  teameminem  |  2

Every country has pregnant teens, but a lot of schools don't teaches kids what they should be leaning earlier in life. First off, they teach kids that sex is penis into vagina, but (at least this is how it is for me) I knew what sex was when I was 10 but I was never taught about sexually transmitted diseases and forms of birth control until I was 15. And also, some kids in my class in 10th grade thought that you can get pregnant on any day, they had no idea about ovulation. I think the real problem is that teenagers don't think about the consequences, and they feel almost invincible, like they can't get pregnant. Teenagers are going to have sex, so we should be teaching them from an early age (when they first find out what sex is; so between the ages of around 8-12) that sexually transmitted diseases are real and will ruin your life and that having children at a young age will be very hard on them.

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  alycion  |  26

I moved from a city to a small town when in high school. In the city, sex ed was properly taught. I don't think they were taught well in the small town. We once found a pack of birth control in the bathroom with just the weekends missing. When we returned it to her and asked her about it she said she only got to see her boyfriend on the weekends.

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  yankfan89  |  27

Actually what I was talking about was that 16 made it sound like the United States is the only country who has pregnant teens. Teen pregnancy has gotten more common everywhere. And some of it is the blame of parents and schools not teaching it properly. But people need to realize that if they feel they are old enough for sex then they should also be smart enough to realize the consequences of sex.

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  jkmartinjk  |  16

@88: Um women can get pregnant on 'any day.' Ovulation is different for every women, some ovulate longer, some shorter. I don't think teaching kids that having sex on 'some days' is safe, that's just downright stupid.

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  chokefrantic  |  9

138: I think 88 was trying to say something more along the lines of "if you don't know how the parts work you shouldn't be using them". Yes, every woman is different but I believe 88 was attempting to highlight how poor the sex education these days is. Girls these days who believe they can get pregnant on any day don't know much about how their own bodies function and therefore shouldn't be having sex IMO.

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  lottievaughn  |  5

None of the other 8 year olds I knew when I was 8, knew what sex was. I think at 8 (or 11) you may know about babies and sex, but you definitely don't or shouldn't know/understand what sex fully is. OP step in there, quick! Since they're both talking about it, give them the sex talk now before somebody else gives them wrong information!

By  Ilikeurfmls  |  13

That's messed up.

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  Justine94_x  |  28

It's not natural for a child of 8 to be given the sex talk. Why would they need to know at that age? They most likely haven't even hit puberty yet.

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  ugh_a_lug  |  7

I remember my best friend explaining what sex was to me when we were 8. It did not ruin my life in any way. It's really not that big of a deal for them to learn about and chances are both of them did not know anything substantial.

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No... time out. I agree a 11 year old brother talking about sex with his 8 year old sister is messed up. How much information about actual sex is what is pending on that fact here though.

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  A7XCamaro  |  19

76 - Texas is really one of the best places for them to start, a northern border state would be to obvious. The only good option would be Hawaii, except for the fact that it doesn't border any other states.

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  Brattyninja  |  7

Yes, you may be right. But the Internet might have nothing to do with it at all. It states that he is 11 so, I'm guessing he is in fifth or sixth grade, and that's usually when kids learn about it in school.

By  CallMeBloo  |  31

Learning about sex doesn't ruin one's childhood. In fact, I'm rather shocked that an eight-year-old wouldn't have had some form of "the talk" already. I know I knew the basics of sex by then, as did my younger brother. I would definitely sit down with both of them to clear up any possible misconceptions and make sure they both have the facts, though.

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  CallMeBloo  |  31

True, which is part of the reason why I support talking to your kids about sex early on. That way they know the facts and you can be straight with them regarding what they should and should not talk about with each other at varying developmental stages.

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  SammyS2012  |  21

I believe in learning at a young age. My first human growth and development lesson was in 4th grade; we were 9. Then after every class, I would go home and talk to my mom where she elaborated and answered any questions I had.

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  KilljoyParade  |  4

40- I had the same kind of thing. My mom gave me a run-down of the basics awhile before I had the class in 4th grade, then still offered to answer any questions I had about anything regarding the class afterward.

By  DocBastard  |  38

You should thank him for taking that weight off your shoulders. I dread having the talk with my kids. I think it'll go something like this: Bastard Jr: Dad, where do babies come from? Me: The same place you came from...Home Depot. Bastard Jr: Really?? Me: Absolutely. I found you on sale for 4.99 between the shovels and rakes. Now go tell your sister.

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  momolee  |  4

I'd probably change the on sale part to "You were very expensive but totally worth it. Unlike the cheap kids that misbehave. They're 0.99 a dozen" just to make him feel special.

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  TheSasmaster  |  9

My parents told me and my brothers the same thing when we were younger! Except since I'm supposedly the "smart" one, I was told that they got me at Smart and Final and bought my brothers at Target and Wal-Mart. :D we knew they were kidding, but it was still funny and we played along. :)

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