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By pon-3 - / Friday 22 June 2012 21:13 / United Kingdom - Derby
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  Drigr  |  8

What if they weren't ready at that time? Like financially and stuff, and they don't believe in abortion? For all we know, one of OPs parents got promoted in those 6 months, opening up enough money to raise a child. And this is from someone who has an older brother who I've never met because it's exactly what happened to my parents. My parents have talked to his parents, and the kid has turned out just fine.

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  littlem91  |  29

6 months later to conceive plus a 9 month pregnancy - 15 months can change a lot. And perhaps they just couldn't go through adoption again. It sucks for you but I doubt they just did it on a whim either.

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  tjv3  |  9

OP I adopted too my biological dad died when I was 6weeks old and the female genetic donor wasn't worth a shit. I was blessed with 2 amazing parents. I hope you were as well. Adopted kids are special since our parents chose us. I hope that helps. Also it's you biological parents loss for not being able to raise you.

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  AKGirlinSD  |  20

While I agree that it sucks, at least you were given an answer, whereas most adopted children never find out why they were given up. I hope you had a better life, with your adopted family, and maybe you can be lucky enough to have two families now :-).

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  CaroAurelia  |  12

Depends on what you mean by "ideal time." I mean, if you're not in a time in your life where you can support a child, then, yeah, you should put the child up for adoption.

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  Climaxx  |  11

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  hatesfate  |  6

2 - seems like good people to me... I personally would have hated to see them keep a child they didn't want and possibly show animosity to that child throughout his lifetime..

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  egc573  |  40

Well, it's kind of hard to tell whether they're "good" people or not. Most of the time, you have to save up for a couple of YEARS to be remotely financially ready for a child. Six months seems a little hard to believe. On the other hand, a lot can happen in six months. It's not common, but it is possible. I hope the OP comes back to explain this one a little more.

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My boyfriend actually had something like this happen to him. He had a brother conceived like a month after he was born, then two more brothers a couple years after that and they all got taken from their biological parents. The day he turned 18, they started hounding him for contact. A year later, less than half of them are actually speaking to him. People like op's parents and my boyfriends deserve the parent of the year awards... Not.

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  AKGirlinSD  |  20

Adding to adoption stories, my oldest half sister was given for adoption because my mom was 18 and the guy bailed. My mon knew she couldn't give her daughter the life she deserved. My mom chose the adopted family but couldn't meet the parents, due to adoption laws, back then. In 2000, my sister contacted my mom and now it is as if my family doubled. My sister doesn't hold any anger towards my mom. My sister's adopted parents told her, growing up, that my mom did it out of love for her. Sounds like a movie from the Lifetime network but I'm really glad my sister chose to contact my mom.

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  ant1078  |  7

Hopefully their answer gave you some closure and reminded you that you don't need them in your life and I agree that your adoptive parents are the only ones who should matter. gl OP

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  Tempest559  |  12

I hope 4 is right. Just look how your brothers turned out and see who's life if better. And on the bright side of things at least you gained two brothers.

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I know I'm grateful I was put up for adoption. My parents have been fantastic and I know I had more opportunities than if my birth mother would have kept me.. She was 19 and the guy bailed.

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  l23VIVE  |  17

Both of my parents are adopted, doesn't really relate to this but i have no clue what nationality I am, but since i feel cynical... OP your parents could have decided to get an abortion, and therefore we wouldn't be here discussing this get over it, your real parents are douchebags i hope your adoptive parents are better. Have a nice fucking day everyone

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146 well whatever nationality you are... you look hot! Good thing your parents were adopted and able to live a decent life with their adoptive parents. They were given a chance to make their own decisions and both decided to give birth and keep the precious gift they conceived! You were born into very special circumstances :)

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  igive  |  28

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By  naas12  |  2

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  xgetxbentx  |  13

It doesn't sound that way at all how op worded it, they said the mother got pregnant again 6 months after the adoption, so 6 months after OP's adoption was finalized (which would be about 30 days after the birth) the biological mom CONCEIVED her brother and a total of 15 months later, he was born. Conception and birth are not the same thing. You are pregnant for 40 weeks.

By  nelds  |  12

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Ya at the time u were born they were probably having money problems and it took a few months for maybe one or both of them to gets jobs.. Don't be so judge mental of people when u don't know the whole story

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  l23VIVE  |  17

Well i am going to be cynical and point out that OP shouldn't complain because at least he wasn't aborted. I hope his adoptive parents are better than the real douche bags, that's all i have to say about that.

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OP should be grateful the he was placed in hands of a good set of parents. Your biological mother carried you for 9 months, your real family carried you for 18+ plus years. (for those who don't know, in most countries you legally have to be 18 to meet your biological parents). So which one seems more relevant to your life? Lol

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  ohmandapants  |  16

^ yes because sex is only for procreating right? No. Accidents happen, contraception can fail. Just because there's a risk, doesn't mean you shouldn't do something you enjoy. They couldn't handle a child at the time and gave OP a chance at a better life. There's nothing wrong with that. Good God get your head out of your ass.

By  olpally  |  32

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