By InsomniacToBe / Thursday 19 July 2012 15:55 / United States - Saint George
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  Quikraptor  |  8

A fictional character put it best. "The law is only a protection when everyone agrees to be bound by it."

OP, if I were you I'd talk to your ex and let him know. It sounds like you may have a case of guilt on your hands. Since I don't know the details of why you broke up with him, I'll offer my sincerest "good luck."

  jweezy89  |  4

I'm pretty sure if he is a serial killer a restraining order won't help. I mean, why would he obey the order but be ok with murder? If anything the order would only aggravate this guy, not your best move.

  munchy22  |  5

#113: Very true. OP should be very careful and aware of all surroundings. Restraining orders don't stop psychos. Last week a lady got shot in the head outside my apartment by her ex. She had a restraining order against him..

By  kakarot2  |  11

Well, it seems that you are going to be forever accompanied.

  lopsop  |  12

Not exactly for if that were to happen there is a lovely thing called a lawsuit that can easily be bestowed and if that doesn't work just like 36 said restraining orders make the world go around (well not really but in this case I guess it does)

By  iknowimawesome  |  13

I know people aren't generally fond of the whole, "Time for a new boyfriend!" thing, but I feel that's exactly what needs to be said right now...

By  kyleekay  |  25

How bad was the break up if you're now fearing for your life?

Seriously though, if his temper is that scary, you should take precautions to ensure your safety.

  Keliosan  |  6

I imagine it was his fault if he is so close to serial killer status.

If he gets all stalkertastic on you though I suggest the old knife under the pillow.

  kyleekay  |  25

I've dealt with a couple situations similar to this, where the guy's temper is unbelievably scary, and each time it's boiled down to mental illness. For me, it's a gray area to say such reactions are entirely their fault when there is something wrong with them mentally.

Definitely a scary situation for OP, though. A knife under the pillow might not be a bad idea.

  kyleekay  |  25

41- True! I didn't immediately think "gun" because they make me so nervous. I'm always afraid of accidentally hurting myself with one.

43- The ex being a sociopath is plausible, definitely. I just generally associate murder with anger, or other strong emotions. If the ex were to murder OP due to a breakup though, it would likely be considered a crime of passion, which would indicate that he does in fact have a spectrum of emotions (unlike sociopaths who are generally emotionless).

  itsame0987  |  18

Actually 47, it would not be a crime of passion. Crime of passion has to happen immediately, with no time to contemplate vengeance. Typically crime of passion murders will happen right when the girl or guy ends the relationship, or if one partner comes home and catches the other in be with someone else. Considering the fact that op had time to fall asleep and dream about it, the breakup at least happen a couple of hours before, therefore crime of passion could not be used, it would be premeditated.

  kyleekay  |  25

50- Oh, really? I honestly didn't know that. I always figured any crime borne from a negative incident in a relationship was under the "crime of passion" umbrella.

Thank you for clearing that up, honestly. :) I hate when I make comments that end up sounding ignorant.


kyleekay, from all the comments I've read from you, I've come to consider you as insightful. =] You're one of my favourite commenters, in fact!

I had the same ideas about crimes of passion as you thus I am similarly grateful for the clarification. =]

  outoftown  |  26

A number of commenters suggested weapons. I was advised to have one only if I got well-trained and was willing to use it (not as easy as it sounds, and takes time and money). Otherwise, you are just giving the bad guy a handy weapon to use against you. Self-defense training is a good choice, with or without an immediate concern or further weapons training.

  downtime  |  12

It was a dream, why are we jumping to conclusions that he is going to try to attack her just because she gets that vibe from him?
A little overboard, don't you think? He's probably just a generally aggressive asshole.

By  no1hasdisid  |  2

It's advice. Make sure he is the one that breaks up with you and then hunt him down.

  onlychildFTW  |  33

Yeah you want to try to stay away from people that seem creepy, or unstable. Sometimes they just need some help but if you do something to set them off it can be very bad.

  outoftown  |  26

95, not for the dream itself, but the dream showed her she has reasons for concern. The local police (or her lawyer, if she has one) can check if the guy has a sheet, and at least advise her on precautions.


#95- She said that it wouldn't surprise her if he did it in real life. I meant that if he was exhibiting stalker-like behavior or being otherwise creepy, THAT'S when she should take steps to protect herself. Not solely because of the dream. :P

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