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By  underyourbreath  |  26

I would say trust him, but that's just too suspicious. I say get his texts from your phone company, if it's nothing than it's nothing & you can be happy knowing he loves you. If there are some hints then you can think about how you feel with a man who only commits part of his heart to you.

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Just because her husband texts other women doesn't necessarily mean she's a bad wife. For all we know she could be a wonderful and loving wife, but we can't really say anything since it's not mentioned in the FML. Please don't jump to conclusions and say that "she's probably a bad wife".

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  samanthadude  |  7

Why are you assuming that the OP's husband is cheating? There's nothing wrong with texting another woman. The OP is allowed to get jealous, but she has to realize that her spouse is going to have women friends. He most likely doesn't feel like he has to text her more often because he probably sees her everyday.

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  1990TD  |  25

Ain't it possible to remain friends instead of cursing eachother when you break up? Is it possible that, in fact, husbands and wives SEE eachother enough and do not need to text? ;)

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Pretty much. I know exactly what she's going through, I tend to attract 'torch carriers', too. It usually isn't apparent in the beginning, or her presence is explained as 'she's just a friend', but months or years down the road, the whole story eventually comes out and you find out the whole time you were devoted to him, he wasn't really with you, as he was off with whatever woman he was still carrying a torch for for whatever reason. :/

By  underyourbreath  |  26

I would say trust him, but that's just too suspicious. I say get his texts from your phone company, if it's nothing than it's nothing & you can be happy knowing he loves you. If there are some hints then you can think about how you feel with a man who only commits part of his heart to you.

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  Autoshot  |  16

First of all, Blackberries suck, if you don't have a new droid or iphone 4, your more behind the times than my grandparents. Secondly, following your logic, once you turn 18, you should switch to Yahoo and ditch your ancient device.

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  samanthadude  |  16

That's your opinion. Don't state your opinion as if it's a fact. Everybody has their own preference, and some people prefer Blackberries over iPhones or Droids. BBM = BlackBerryMessenger.

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  Juneyah1017  |  16

Yeah nothing wrong with them txting I'm just goofing around. You ppl take stuff seriously on this site lol. Also blackberrys are hot down here in Canada, but he states may be different.

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  RandomDudeOrRD  |  34

for what you both just said is why America is so immoral these days. divorce should be the very last option. and shouldn't even be a choice, actually. they are both in the wrong but they should work it out.

By  bigredmonkeybutt  |  27

So? Maybe they're friends? Not all exes hate each other after a breakup. And an infatuation in high school probably means nothing now. YDI for whining instead of talking to him about it.

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  boatkicker  |  27

This. And so what if he texts her more? My fiance is probably the person I text least, because usually, I TALK to him. I don't see the need to text him.

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  klutzycleo  |  27

I don't find it appropriate to be texting another man for whom I've had feelings for, only because I know it'd make my partner jealous or feel somewhat insecure. I'd avoid that situation as best I can, because I'm SENSITIVE TO MY PARTNER'S FEELINGS. And him texting his high school crush more? He shouldn't be contacting another woman, even on a 'friendly' basis, more than he does his wife, regardless that he sees his wife every day. And yes, when he starts cheating, guess who it'll be with...

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  boatkicker  |  27

114, it didn't say he contacts other women more often than his wife. It says he texts other women more often than his wife. "When he cheats...." really? This part of your post offended me the most. The word you were looking for is "if". IF he cheats. You don't know OP or her husband, and can't be sure whether or not he will cheat. I can't stand people assuming that someone will cheat. Seriously, it drives me absolutely crazy. While I'm at it, the part about how you don't text other men who you had feelings for in the past because you're sensitive to your partners feelings, and it would make him jealous, that offended me too (jeeze, what a long sentence!). Not everyone gets jealous because their partner text messages people. My fiance is friends with all but one of his high school girlfriends, and definitely texts at least one of them more than me. I have no problem with this. They have been friends for a long time. Just because he and I are engaged now doesn't mean he should have to talk to his friends less. (Woah. I sound like a total bitch.)

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  klutzycleo  |  27

As far as I know, texting falls under the category of contacting. True, I don’t know the OP or her husband. Neither does anyone else here. So we don’t know how strong husband’s feelings are for the old flame, or even if there are any romantic feelings for her at all, whether or not he has cheated in the past etc etc etc See, I’m doing something that usually gets people into trouble: I’m making assumptions. I made that assumption because in my experience, when you’re in contact with an old flame, inevitably, romantic feelings get stirred up, however mild or intense. Again, in my experience - and based on how I sometimes get possessive feelings when a partner is in contact with an ex or old flame - I avoid keeping contact with those I’ve had feelings for, or who have had feelings for me before. See? I’m just tryna not avoid my partner’s pride of feelings being hurt, even slightly. My partner has plenty of female friends, just like I have plenty of male friends. It’s just that I tend to keep away from the ones I had feelings for, you know? And I don’t think your comment was bitchy. Everyone has a right to an opinion, I was just stating mine =) P.S. sorry for the essay!

By  Graawr  |  26

Maybe he's not over her. :( You should try and do something to make him forget her and spice up your marriage. But if he really loves her, idk. :c

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