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FML - The follow-up

Today, a pharmacist slut-shamed me for taking birth control. I'm still a virgin, and I only take those pills to help with my acne and period cramps. FML

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UPDATE: I called the manager and told him about my encounter. He wants me to come talk to him about it further but I'll admit that I'm still kind of embarrassed to go back to that store....
By CyberPsycho - / Friday 19 August 2016 20:57 / United States - Nashville
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By  InfiniteSunshine  |  32

I'd report her/him, they're a pharmacist, they're supposed to remain professional and helpful. They should not be working in that field if they are going to be a judgmental jerk. Even if you weren't a virgin, the reasons you take birth control is your own damn busniess.

By  Eliiara  |  11

Holy shit. That's super unethical. They should know the all the purposes of BC. I would totally file a complaint against the pharmacy. I would be so livid.

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By  InfiniteSunshine  |  32

I'd report her/him, they're a pharmacist, they're supposed to remain professional and helpful. They should not be working in that field if they are going to be a judgmental jerk. Even if you weren't a virgin, the reasons you take birth control is your own damn busniess.

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Oh, I don't doubt that it can be quite common, especially depending on the views and beliefs of the area, I know Tennessee can be rather conservative. I really hope OP can get this resolved and actually be heard. I don't know if they exist, but there should be some kind of independent board or organization that you can report ANY pharmacist to, remarks like this deserve harsh punishment, and in my personal opinion, I'd want their license revoked.

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  Ise_fml  |  6

Too many negative votes, comment buried. Show the comment

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For the most part, no, the don't have the right to refuse. There's only 6 States that have specific laws allowing pharmacists to refuse filling prescriptions for moral/religious reasons, and even then, many major pharmacy's rules prohibit that. If you're going to work in a medical field, I think you should check your beliefs at the door, you have no right to dictate someone's life, especially in relation to their medication, it is not yours to control.

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You're right, a quick Google search shows which states explicitly have a law that allows refusal. These 6 states are, Arizona, Arkansas, Georgia, Idaho, Mississippi, and South Dakota. Not one of those is Tennessee, you're wrong. And it is not better to boycott the pharmacy, you really think 1 person leaving is going to solve anything, it won't even be noticed. It's better to fix the problem, not ignore it, and if you think it's foolish to have a law against other people dictating and controlling other's lives because of what THEY believe, well progress will never be made.

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  GeeThatSucks  |  9

You missed a huge point there, fucko. Particularly that what you cited only applies to private physicians or practitioners and their agents. Not to publicly or state owned institutions. Mic drop jk, get fucked

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  annnnonandon  |  1

Plus pharmacists are required to register their biases and religious refusals to supply birth control, plan b, etc with their coworkers, employers, and state boards, and that pharmacy then must have a pharmacist willing to dispense whatever at all times. At least, that's the case in Oregon. source: I'm a pharmacy tech

By  Eliiara  |  11

Holy shit. That's super unethical. They should know the all the purposes of BC. I would totally file a complaint against the pharmacy. I would be so livid.

By  MandieL  |  27

File a complaint. Next they are going to be shaming women for taking fertility meds, saying they aren't women enough, or shaming people for having depression because they should just suck it up. Don't people usually go into these fields of work to help people? Sorry OP, that's messed up.

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32- I don't know what you were trying to correct but you failed worse than his very small typo. If you're going to be pretentious and correct people at least do it properly

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#75 they meant "*they" as in a gender neutral term rather than 'he' for the pharmacist as the pharamist's gender was never revealed (as far as I know?). So they didn't really mess up as much as made the error of not elaborating. in any case, I would have just told to let it go regardless. so while they didn't mess up, I'm certainly not gonna give them a gold star for their attention detail. In this scenario the details don't matter and it's not blatant misgendering or whatever because the details are/were unknown. Assumptions can suck yeah but in this case it's harmless. at least this is my opinion /shrug

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  gracehi  |  31

I actually assumed the pharmacist was female for some reason and originally put "her" but when I realized the OP didn't specify the gender I changed it to "him." I suppose I could have used "they," which I did think about doing but technically it's actually grammatically incorrect to use "they" as a gender neutral singular reference. You're really supposed to use "him or her" but that's so wordy, especially when immediately followed by "he or she." Thus I used "him" since historically masculine words have typically been used by default when a person's gender is not specified. I realize that's a bit sexist but since the pharmacist in this scenario is a big jerk it didn't really matter. Have a good evening, folks. :)

By  williamcarter93  |  13

It's Tennessee. That's part of the Bible belt, where religion reigns and sex is an evil no no thing. Just like Mississippi where I came from. Not surprising at all. As a medical professional, that pharmacist should be ethical and just dispense the BC and leave his personal viewpoints out of it. Is there some ethics board or something you can complain to? Because, yes, you might have gotten the birth control, but later on that pharmacist might go farther and refuse to dispense certain medications such as plan B. That's not right

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He didn't say southern he said Tennessee and Mississippi. Those states are known for their backwards bullshit. Sure, there's places here in PA that are like that some...but the south is for sure much worse when it comes to being judgemental

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