Love, Break-ups and Abuse: Same

Same

By Anonymous - 05/12/2021 23:01

Today, I realized that because of my past abusive relationship, I will never love anyone fully. In the back of my mind, I will always have a doubt, thinking that they don't want me or that I'm just a goal to achieve until they're ready to leave. It's to the point where I don't see a reason to try; everyone will leave and I'm OK with that. FML

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By Anonymous - 05/01/2024 16:00 - United States - Buffalo

Today, I realized I'm trapped. I might be heading into an abusive relationship that I won't be able to escape, but I can't leave because then I'd break his heart and I love him too much for that. FML

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Faith

By Forever Alone Girl - 13/11/2023 06:00

Today, the guy I’ve been in love with for almost a year, who told me he “wasn’t in the right headspace” for a relationship is actually dating some girl. Every time I try to get close to a guy, they make up excuses. I’m starting to lose faith in love and think I’ll never be good enough for anyone. FML

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You deserved it 158

Emotions on shuffle mode

By Anonymous - 30/11/2021 22:58

Today, I've been single for years because I felt I could never trust anyone again. I finally opened up to someone, after she told me how much she'd loved me for quite a while. Now she ignores me like I don't even exist. Crash and burn. FML

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You deserved it 118

Trauma dumping

By Anonymous - 20/06/2023 04:00 - Canada - Belleville

Today, my partner of 4 years has told me that trying to be emotionally present and initiate affection from time to time is too much of a change for them to handle. I wish they had said that the first time I brought it up, instead of stringing me along. Oh, but they "love me". Just not enough to be a better person. FML

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You deserved it 175

Projection

By killmenow - 14/06/2022 06:00

Today, after crying after remembering how horribly wrong it went, 10 years ago, with the only person I was ever able to trust enough to let them get close to me, and how no amount of therapy seems to help me, I read an FML about how nobody wants to date a 30 year-old who has never dated. I'm 29 and might as well give up. FML

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The grass is never actually greener

By Anonymous - 08/03/2022 06:00

Today, I felt a fear that my relationship with my boyfriend isn’t going to last. There’s nothing inherently wrong, yet I find myself thinking of breaking up with him. A lot. I love him and feel like I’m already part of his family, and that's something I don’t want to let go. I don’t know what to do. FML

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You deserved it 323

Pity party cancelled

By Anonymous - 02/04/2023 04:00 - Philippines - Makati City

Today, and every single time someone I actually feel comfortable with comes into my life, I end up fucking everything up. Whenever they don't reply, I won't for a while too, just to see if they'll check on me but they never do. Am I really that shitty? Is it so bad that I want to feel wanted? FML

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You deserved it 657

Attitude

By Anonymous - 17/02/2024 15:00 - United States - Port Orchard

Today, I've decided that I am destined to be unhappy. I seem to get too invested in the ones who don't care. Including my current marriage, which is inevitably doomed no matter how much effort I put into it. FML

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Alexa, play "Trust" by Low

By Anonymous - 09/11/2022 08:00 - United States - Berthoud

Today, I figured out that I've maybe never 100 percent completely trusted anybody, and that it's been sabotaging all my relationships. Several weeks back, my dad said something along the line that I've never trusted them. I'm 27 and my life's a mess maybe because I can't make people feel like I do. FML

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You deserved it 216

By silentsuzie - 12/02/2010 15:23 - United States

Today, I realized I can never live with my fiancée. A childhood of systematic teasing, abuse, and humiliation has made me terrified to use a bathroom around a guy if there's the slightest chance I can be heard, seen, or even have anyone know what I'm up to. Therapy has yet to fix anything. FML

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You deserved it 5 439

manb91gb 15

Sunday 5 December 2021 23:09

Not sure this counts as an FML, but I would highly recommend speaking with a therapist to deal with your issues. There's always light at the end of the tunnel, you just need to fight you way through the darkness.

cuz803 44

Sunday 5 December 2021 23:13

Since this is on FML, this a complaint. Highly recommend talk therapy. If it's really bad, maybe prescribed medication can help like antidepressants. Physical exercise, healthy diet and good quality sleep also helps with mental health. Don't wait, OP. Act on your problems soon so they can get better.

Comments

manb91gb 15

Sunday 5 December 2021 23:09

cuz803 44

Sunday 5 December 2021 23:13

RichardPencil 30

Sunday 5 December 2021 23:25

Of course, you'll be free to dump people when they no longer benefit you. We've become very transactional.

Billiebobbob 1

Monday 6 December 2021 3:01

you’re amazing and he’s not.

Royal Sataness 4

Monday 6 December 2021 6:07

same honey, same. I started solo poly dating, I'm not even trying to build with anyone anymore

electraliv 13

Monday 6 December 2021 10:23

Me too OP, me too

ittybittyannie 12

Tuesday 7 December 2021 7:58

The abuse is not your fault no one deserves that. It is however your responsibility to work on yourself & seek therapy if you want to recover because no one else can fix your self esteem problems except you

Becca198915 2

Friday 10 December 2021 10:44

Not everyone is the same just work on your self and heal your self and the right one will come! But you have to put in the work the damage that previous relationship caused will not heal with time! It will only burn into you! Trust me I’ve been there and healing the right way and learning to love yourself again sets boundaries!