Today, I got the best advice for my depression and anxiety from my parents and relatives: "Get it out of your head, there's no such thing. And get married!" FML
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Fall
Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, I confided to my dad that since the recent breakup with my boyfriend of 3 months, I feel down all the time and life doesn't feel worth living anymore. His loving advice was for me to "grow the fuck up and get your sentimental head out of la-la land." FML
Today, my parents tried to convince me to get a divorce. My wife and I are perfectly fine. FML
Today, my dad told me that I'm a weak and negative person because I suffer from depression and anxiety, then he told me to just snap out of it. FML
Today, my baby-crazy mother expressed her concerns that I haven't conceived after a whole two months of marriage. Her advice amounted to "get divorced while you're still hot, sleep around until you get pregnant, then marry the winner." When I complained to my father, he supported her. FML
Today, I went to my father for advice. I've been seeing a wonderful girl for the past month, and I feel terrible about it, because I already have a girlfriend. He said "Kill yourself" and that if I "can't even do that right" then to get out of his house, because he disowns me. FML
Today, my wife told me to stop talking about my depression, in case the neighbours hear and think she’s a bad wife for not being able to keep me happy. FML
Today, I told my boyfriend of nine months that depression runs in my family and I think the reason I've been flipping shit so much lately may be that I am depressed. Not five minutes later he decided a break would be "the best thing for us right now." FML
Today, my dad told me that people requiring psychiatric treatment are just weak and pathetic, and what they really need is a kick up the ass and to get a fucking grip. He told me this not 30 seconds after my doctor recommended I spend some time in a facility for my severe depression. FML
Today, I opened up to my parents about my depression. Their response was to have a very heated discussion about whose fault it was. FML
Today, my dad decided that the best way to alleviate my crippling depression is to talk to me in a baby voice. FML
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vinvin2210 15
Hey.. my family said the same crap to me a few years ago and it took me 2 extra years to seek help.. go talk to a professional.. it helps.. just unburdening yourself
Brightside86 31
Getting married to fix yourself is epically bad advise.
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vinvin2210 15
Hey.. my family said the same crap to me a few years ago and it took me 2 extra years to seek help.. go talk to a professional.. it helps.. just unburdening yourself
Brightside86 31
Getting married to fix yourself is epically bad advise.
RichardPencil 32
Getting married will fix everything! No one who is married is ever depressed or anxious. Google it -- it's a scientific fact.
Chazzster 32
It’s hard to know where to start. I’m no doctor or psychologist but I used to suffer from depression and got help. (1) Seek professional help. Depression is a real mental health issue and it takes people who are qualified to help you. You will probably wind up needing counseling or a psychologist for sure and possibly a prescription anti-depressant. The psychologist/counseling will give you the best long term effect and an antidepressant, if medically necessary may give fairly prompt help, but after a while it becomes less effective. That’s why you need both for a serious case. (2) Friends, parents, relatives are not qualified to help you through serious depression. Unfortunately, prior generations saw mental health issues as a stigma and a lot of bullshit “cheer up and snap out of it” advise has been given - But that never helps someone with depression. It only means they don’t want to deal with it. (3) Holidays, if you have a tendency towards depression, are times that are especially prone to unleashing the demons of depression. Most of us have unreasonable expectations of a perfect family, a perfect holiday and that’s not real life. So the difference between what we hope the holidays will be and the reality brings on depression in many cases. (4) It should go without saying - Marriage in itself never “fixes” anyone’s problems. You need to go into that when you and your intended are of a good frame of mind to make important decisions. (5) Avoid alcohol or drugs - The very temporary lift results in much worse problems and reinforces the cycle of depression. You might try dark chocolate, by the way It might give a very minor boost to your spirits just don’t overdo it. Anything can be taken to excess.
justwanttobesocial...butalsonot 9
DBT therapy helps a lot, would highly recommend it
And1 12
Get married, then you will have genuine reasons for depression and anxiety.
Jonkbaby 23
Oh its a real thing. I know that you know this, but thought it would help you to hear confirmation from someone else. People who are strong in the family need time to not be strong. It is healthy