Today, I came out to my mormon mother as a pan enby, and told her I wanted to change my name. She asked how I came to this conclusion, so I told her how I’ve been secretly doing research on the topic. She says she supports me, but claims I broke her trust by lying for so long to avoid possible homophobia. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, I came out to my parents as lesbian. Surprisingly, they were OK with it… just as long as I still marry a dude, give them grandbabies, and keep the whole lesbian thing a deep, dark, shameful secret that we never talk about again. FML
Today, I came out to my mom as a lesbian. She told me that it was impossible, because since she isn't one, she therefore couldn't have given birth to one. She still won't believe me. FML
Today, I came out to my therapist as gay. Claiming that my parents "can't be that homophobic", my therapist outed me to them. They kicked me out of the house. FML
Today, I introduced my girlfriend to my parents. My mother turned to me and said, "Wait you're actually gay? I thought you were just saying that to piss off your father." I came out to her when I was 16, and have confided in her about my past relationships. FML
Today, I came out to my mom. I had an epic speech planned, and when I tried to tell her, it all fell apart and I started crying and just said, "I'm gay." After a few seconds silence, my mom sighs and says, "Duh." FML
Today, I, a demigirl struggling with her identity, have decided to change my name. When I told my dad in therapy (of all places) that I was a demigirl, he struggled to understand me. When I told my mom I was changing my name, she yelled at me and refused to call me it. And she wonders why I don't trust her. FML
Today, I came out of the closet, after years of fear and shame, thanks to my mom making me to go to a church full of fundies my whole life. In the end, I was in tears. All I got was a frown and a "So? Want a medal or something?" FML
Today, my mom called me into the living room to say that she had something important to tell me. She then explained how she and my dad had "talked things over" and wanted me to know that they accept me and love me no matter what. Apparently my mom thinks I'm lesbian. I'm not. FML
Today, I found out that my mother has been telling everybody that I’m a lesbian, because both of her best friends have at least one gay child each, and she was feeling left out. This explains why people have been treating me differently the last few weeks. FML
Today, I told my mom that I’m a lesbian. She was fine with it, supported me 100%, and it was a huge relief, until she followed up with, “Until you find a husband, then you’ll obviously have to stop all that.” The reason I even told her is because my girlfriend just proposed to me, and we’re engaged. FML
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SirEnigM0nk 22
That went better than expected. To those that may be wondering: enby is shorthand for nonbinary. (Yes, I bit the bullet and looked it up).
RichardPencil 32
I've never heard of "pan enby" and I'm not going to look it up. Does that mean you like to diddle raccoons, or something like that? Ick. Please don't answer -- I'll stay ignorant on this matter.
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RichardPencil 32
I've never heard of "pan enby" and I'm not going to look it up. Does that mean you like to diddle raccoons, or something like that? Ick. Please don't answer -- I'll stay ignorant on this matter.
SirEnigM0nk 22
That went better than expected. To those that may be wondering: enby is shorthand for nonbinary. (Yes, I bit the bullet and looked it up).
RichardPencil 32
Good work! I was going down a New Balance rabbit hole. The ASICS trolls are getting pretty nasty!
Crowned Sataness 12
if you had to research it, chances are you're not it. you either feel it by nature or you don't. you don't just decide you are, no matter what it looks like on TikTok
Marcella1016 32
Probably just researched how they felt inside trying to figure themselves out and found a term for it. They weren’t googling “What cool weird groups can I be a part of” lol
Nazmazh 18
Honestly, her response leads me to believe that you were right to be hesitant to open up to her. Her "broken trust" line is probably a cover for her ****/transphobia [Even if she's not frothing at the mouth, spewing hatred, there could still be some level of it there. She's just got enough sense to "know" that it's impolite to express it (unless she's absolutely certain that the people she's expressing it to share her beliefs 100%)]. And even if that's not the case, the proper response to someone saying they didn't open up to you sooner because they weren't sure they could trust you to be supportive isn't "I dislike you for lying to me for as long as you did", it should be something more akin to "I'm so sorry that what I've said and done previously made it seem like you couldn't trust me to be supportive. What can I do differently to make you feel more comfortable going forward?" As the kids say, her deflection there is a bit sus, and I'd keep my eyes and ears open for other red flags, or possibly if she course-corrects and actually does things that are outright supportive. Here's hoping for that latter circumstance.
noonereally 6
You're a what? I swear people are just making shit up now.