Today, I came out of the closet, after years of fear and shame, thanks to my mom making me to go to a church full of fundies my whole life. In the end, I was in tears. All I got was a frown and a "So? Want a medal or something?" FML
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Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Same thing different taste
Today, I came out to my mom. I had an epic speech planned, and when I tried to tell her, it all fell apart and I started crying and just said, "I'm gay." After a few seconds silence, my mom sighs and says, "Duh." FML
Today, I finally worked up the courage to tell my mom that I'm gay. She sympathetically patted my back and told me I don't need to make up excuses for me being so unattractive to women. FML
Casual homophobia
Today, I came out to my parents and siblings as gay. They were very accepting and asked me why I waited until I was 25 to do so. I didn't have the heart to tell them it was their own homophobic remarks that kept me closeted since I realized it at 14, and that a previous coming-out to a parent was dismissed as 'a phase'. FML
Today, I told my friends I had been hiding something that I wanted to come clean on. My one friend responds by saying, "FINALLY you come out of the closet. It's about time." I'm not gay. I was just going to tell them my parents were getting a divorce. FML
Today, I finally came out to my dad, who is a priest, as gay. He responded by splashing me with holy water to "banish the demon within" me. FML
Follow the lifescript
Today, I came out to my parents as lesbian. Surprisingly, they were OK with it… just as long as I still marry a dude, give them grandbabies, and keep the whole lesbian thing a deep, dark, shameful secret that we never talk about again. FML
Today, my son decided to come out of the closet by wearing a shirt that said "Mom, I'm gay" to the family reunion. FML
Today, I came out of the closet. Now whenever I'm getting ready to go somewhere with my dad he says, "Lesgo, lesbo." FML
Denial
Today, at 18, I finally told my mom I was gay. She spent the rest of the day bringing up my "future wife" at every possible chance she had. FML
Today, I finally decided to tell my parents I was a lesbian. They spent the next few hours reading me the bible. FML
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pleasedie 22
Well at least it went relatively well. Some people are disowned and thrown out for things like that.
thesunlord 15
At least you have an understanding family
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thesunlord 15
At least you have an understanding family
wyleanda 18
That hasn't kicked you out... got this from a previous fml
squizzlebee 19
There's understanding and there's apathetic. It's great they apparently have no problem with OP's sexuality but it sucks they were so callous regarding how OP must have felt coming out to them.
splinteredApple 36
I wish my mom reacted the way OPs mom did. My mom was kind of like, "oh, how did that happen?" Now she prays for me because she thinks bisexuality is a choice and will go away.
Dynosaur_dollie 38
My mum thinks bisexuality is a lie and I am just afraid to commit to one gender. Strange the ideas people come up with around sexual orientation..
IronMan_Mk43 20
my parents still think im 'their little girl' and that being trans is a choice...
IronMan_Mk43 20
#70 being trans is not a ******* choice. it never has, and will never be a ******* choice. i did not 'choose' to be a man, i am a man. just because they raised me as a girl does not mean that my parents have the right to misgender me, neither do you or anyone else. not a day goes by where i dont wish that i was cis, so that i could look at myself in the ******* mirror and not have an emotional breakdown, so that i could walk down the street without getting slurs and snarky ******* comments thrown in my face. being trans isnt a ******* choice so dont you be going around and saying that it is because i would sell my ******* soul to be cis, even if it was just for a day.
withered 30
I don't get the importance of "gender/sex". I have never put much importance on my sex (or that of another person). It is not restricting me in any way. I don't care if clothes/other products are in the female or male section. If I like them I buy them. I don't care what it says on the bathroom's door, I will pick the clean toilette and/or the one with the smallest line. The only way I would see it affecting anyone is if I was attracted to someone and they had no interest in my sex. And even when it comes to liking someone, you don't like someone because of their sex, you like them because of their looks and personality. I just wonder, why do you restrict yourself by your sex? Why do you want to categorize yourself so badly? What makes you think your gender is different from your sex? Is it simply because you like things that society stereotypes as something that the other sex should like? People are more than walking genitals, you know. I am asking because I don't understand why people put such importance on sex. I care about it as much as I care what color are the socks they put on that day.
bwoolf96 21
And I hope you took that medal with pride! That's a tough situation to be in so well done for getting through it!
NebraskaChick 16
I just wish everyone could just accept everyone else for who they are, instead of making them feel like crap.
ChopSuey444 20
Well it seems to be a sensitivity issue more than an acceptance issue.
tantanpanda 26
I don't know, this seemed to play out better than the many horror stories we've heard. Didn't get shamed, hit, kicked out of the house. To me, I think OP got the better end of the stick.
domolovesyoshi 33
She doesn't even go here.
MattNobles 7
Calm down Mother Teresa
Danne696 14
Which is sad in and of itself.
LolKaleb 14
That's not a big deal. Your family will get over it and understand.
Xamry14 10
The family seems to have no problem with it. That's kind of the point.
crudeandrudeguy 29
Medal, no. I'm looking for some dick.
swtcontradiction 11
OP's gender isn't shown
walker9879 25
Didn't specify if he/she was coming out as trans/bi/gay, or whatever. The original comment was kinda dumb anyway
iamvanillabear 11
I feel this comment has been greatly underrated
pleasedie 22
Well at least it went relatively well. Some people are disowned and thrown out for things like that.
LyingBlood 8
good
youdontsay123456 21
At least she was somewhat understanding. I've seen people get thrown out because of it. Congrats for finally coming out to who you really were, OP. Best of luck to you
truckers_wife 23
what does "fundie" mean?
ChopSuey444 20
It means fundamentalist. Referring to traditional (especially traditional religious) people.
truckers_wife 23
thank you :)
GeneralMotors 23
It actually means that they have a view of the Bible that it is 100% true. A fundamentalist only believes in the Bible, nothing more. (not all traditional religions are fundamentalist)
OptimusSlime 23
Tbh, that's kind of how people should react. No so rudely but like "I'm gay" "Congratulations I'm straight" Like it shouldn't be such a big deal. Although your family WAS rude so maybe not necessarily the way they reacted.
ChopSuey444 20
Yeah this is sort of how I see it. Most people pray for a nonchalant "So?" response. Not as good as "I'm proud!" but not anywhere near as bad as "Leave my home."
DoomedGemini 38
There's a difference though. At least for now, it can be terrifying to come out. Brushing it off like this can still hurt people. Some might prefer that, it depends on the person.
hacksaw246 24
Why would the be proud of their child for being gay?
yerawizardlizzy 27
And if everyone's reaction was that it isn't the end of the world, people wouldn't need to be scared. That's the point they are trying to make.
abbyade 21
At least you weren't insulted. However, they could have been more compassionate. It takes a lot to come out with all these judgemental people out there. Well done OP. Live your life.
Mathalamus 25
They appear tone fundamentalist, or associate with them. A neutral snarky response is the best possible reaction from them,