Today, my wannabe psychologist of a brother accused me of lying about all the violence and emotional abuse my ex inflicted on me, all because I went into "too much detail" when describing it, which he says is something only liars do. Thanks for the support. FML
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Fall
Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, my brother and I got in a fight and he told my friends that I am mentally disabled. They believed him. Apparently, "everything makes sense now." FML
Today, I've been guilt tripped, ranted at, called names, ostracized and told what a horrible person I am for, "turning my back on family." My former brother is in jail for unspeakable crimes, yet somehow I’m the bad guy for not standing by and supporting him or offering to help pay for a lawyer. FML
Today, I went through my boyfriend’s phone. He'd told his brothers, mom, and mutual friends that I was at a psych ward, after I went crazy. We have been back together for four months now after that situation, so no wonder I got the vibe they hate me. Why lie about something so stupid? FML
Today, at my wedding, my golden child brother gave a speech that was a load of lying shite. He was telling tales of arrests, drug use, sexual antics, the lot. My wife knows it’s not true but her family think I’m scum, and my mother just told me she’s “not angry, just disappointed in me.” FML
Today, my psycho and now ex-girlfriend accused me of cheating on her with my own mother. FML
Today, my brother asked his wife for a divorce, but she got so mad at him that he backtracked and told her it was a prank I'd put him up to. She’s still mad as hell at him, but thanks to his lie my name is now mud in our entire family. I was at work all day, and I did nothing wrong. FML
Today, my brother learned how to fake cry. I've been catching shit for everything I've done and said near him ever since. FML
Today, my brother was telling me about my "sweet" and "pure" ex-girlfriend. Three stab wounds have already proven otherwise. FML
Today, my demented little sister walked up to me and kicked me between the legs. I told my parents, but they just accusingly asked me what I did to provoke her. When I said, "Nothing", they accused me of lying. There is no justice. FML
Today, my now ex-boyfriend accused me of wanting to screw his 11-year-old brother, all because I expressed interest in going to his birthday party. FML
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chrisbeaudoin 26
I think your brother should maybe the one to see a psychologist
RebeccaRFT 18
Your brother probably doesn't want to believe it even happened. It's easier to call someone a liar than to accept the painful truth.
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Comments (49)
khrystwiztidkid 15
Been there too. Its difficult enough to tell someone, must less have them call you a liar. Keep your chin up, opinions don't change the truth.
idk_rose 25
Why the **** would anyone say OP deserved this? It's hard enough for OP to have admit that to her family. Some people are dickheads.
theplaguedkitten 5
you shouldnt answer your question so fast... didnt even give anyone a chance :o
fsomelife 26
Hopefully it's just denial from pain he's feeling for you, sometimes that happens. Maybe he'll come around. If you need someone to listen, feel free to PM. Best of luck in getting yourself and your life back to normal! Good times are ahead :)
Dicebar 10
I'd like to second this. Denial is one of the classical stages of grief. Facing the question: "how did I not notice?" is not an easy one to face.
billboob 21
What an absolute dick. He should not be allowed to practice ( or is it practise ) if he doubts someone straight off, especially a sibling, somebody who he should have a strong emotional bond with in the first place and instantly sympathise with. My father was a psychologist before his retirement and he always mediated family arguments, but I don't think he consciously used his skills as a psychologist in personal affairs. Tell him he should go back to school.
stingray112 24
How would school help him in any way in that situation
billboob 21
As in to study the application and use of psychology. My bad. Not very good at explaining.
Vanderdale 14
He's a 'wannabe psychologist'. So he likely has nothing to do with psychology, perhaps he just read a few books and now considers himself an expert.
Witchylady 18
Your brother is a dick. He sure is going to suck as a therapist.
itsme82 18
Oh honey.. I know the pain. The best thing you can do for yourself is kick him out of your life. Seriously, you don't need that kind of negativity. I've been much happier since I did the same with my mom. Just food for thought. Again I'm sorry.
worldclassrager 41
Perhaps a real psychologist would be better
sallen14 8
He probably just can't believe or accept it. You are his sister after all.
writerchic85 26
Just remember that is why he is a wannabe psychiatrist and not an actual psychiatrist. If he's in school for it, he will either learn better or fail. If he's not in school for it, he will never become anything more than a wannabe and any advice or criticism he gives is just as invalid as anyone else's. Go to a real psychiatrist and don't worry about your ass butt of a brother.
ayyy_bro 26
It's actually quite the opposite. Liars are very vague and leave room for assumptions and fiddle with their hands/legs/face, while people who are telling the truth go into greater detail and sustain eye contact. He needs to study up a bit more.
gilligan_isle 6
There's actually a lot of people that have been abused or assaulted that aren't detailed when talking about it, and there's plenty more that aren't even talked about. I think it depends on the person honestly
9a_1z 12
Yeahh... you can't really divide up people's behaviour into 'lying' and 'not lying' like that. The whole problem with people who have been abused or assaulted is that they often don't react the way people expect them to. Lots of people suffer unfair treatment because they simply don't fit the mould of the 'victim' the people who should be helping them are expecting. I'm sure there's plenty of Psychology textbooks OP's brother can read up about it in. Maybe she should buy him a few.
o76923 8
While true for lying about most things, describing trauma tends to have slightly different norms. Reliving the memories enough to go into details can be retraumatizing so many abuse victims tend not to go into much detail. It's one of those things that I really wish more cops and prosecutors were trained to understand since they tend to assume vagueness means lying and that when a victim resists going into detail that it must be because they aren't good at lying.
Thekbking 11
I majored in psychology and actually u may have mixed stuff up, sustained eye contact actually happens more with liars but fidgeting does happen with liars. going into to much detail can be a sign of lying or truth but it's more so the unneeded useless details that it's more than likely a lie. this is all from a textbook.