Today, my husband told me that he's letting his mother move in with us. He told her it was alright without even consulting me first. I hate my mother-in-law so much that I'm contemplating divorce rather than living with her. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, my hate for my mother-in-law now outweighs my love for my husband. FML
Today, I can no longer tolerate my mother-in-law. She's not a bad person, but anytime she opens her mouth it is only to criticize, chastise, scold, or blame me. My husband is too terrified of her to ask her to leave our home. FML
Today, my mother-in-law asked if she could move in with us. FML
Today, my mother-in-law yelled from across the house for me to come quickly. She sounded frantic, so I rushed and asked what was wrong. She said, "Nothing." and that she just wanted to remind me that she hates my guts. She'll be living here with me and my wife for the next two months. FML
Today, my husband refused to let my mother move in with us. He said he’d rather buy her another house than let her move in, then he actually threatened divorce before he’d let her move in. He’s never been this stubborn before about anything. I don’t get it. FML
Today, I found out that my unemployed and very needy mother-in-law will be moving in with us soon. And during my conversation on the phone with her, she expects us to buy a house and my wife and I can "live with her." My wife agrees with all of this. FML
Today, my mother-in-maw informed us that she sold her house and is moving in with us so we'll "take care" of her in old age. She's in perfect health. We've only been married for 4 months. My wife can't stand her for more than 2 weeks at a time, let alone living with us. FML
Today, my boyfriend's mother told me she had fantasies about throwing him out a window when he was a baby because she was so depressed and couldn't handle the stress. The worst part is he wants to get married. She'd be my mother-in-law. FML
Today, my mother-in-law told my fiancé that I had to leave and wasn’t allowed to live there anymore. I own the house. She’s mad because I locked the door so she couldn't walk in anytime she wanted. FML
Today, my husband wants a divorce and will be moving out as soon as possible because he can’t stand my mother anymore. He's tired of pushing me to stand up to her, even once, so he's done and is leaving. I’m upset he’s leaving, but I’m equally as upset he’s leaving me alone with my mother. FML
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amkaye 1
Her husband is the one making important decisions without even discussing them with her, which shows just how committed he is.
Celesta 11
I hope you hate her for a good reason, otherwise you're just being irrational. FYL anyway mothers-in-law are such a pain most of the times. :(
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Violent_Kitkat 0
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Well this shows how commited you are to your relationship...
amkaye 1
Her husband is the one making important decisions without even discussing them with her, which shows just how committed he is.
jess2gd4u 0
^agree. it's simple talk to your husband and tell him.
TheWindowLicker 13
44, That doesn't really show a lack of commitment in my eyes; more of a lack of communication between the OP and the husband.
PassTheDutch 0
47. why wouldn't you just wash them? lol
okiidokii_fml 6
#77- that's the point you wash and clean the underwear and it's all better.
jpest17 5
wow, she's probably senile, and needs help.
FreebirdIII 1
It was in the vows right. Till Death or your mom moves in.
PassTheDutch 0
thanks for clearin that up 93
tony1234 0
44, Well said
tony1234 0
I ment 47, Well said lol sorry
TurboTalon 0
I agree. She's a little too willing to just walk away. And if OP hates the mother in law that much it sounds like she needs to do some work on herself. Oh and I'm sorry. But if my wife threw a fit because I offered the person who put me on this earth a place to live when they needed it she'd be in trouble!
vbmg152 19
What?
bebeakacutie 7
deal with a mother-in-law then talk. trust me, they make you want to pull your hair out when they visit. idk if I could deal with her as a live in.
jess2gd4u 0
182. if the she doesn't like the mother in law so much and didn't want her to move in the husband should respect that. when you get married your meant to cleave to each other, not have a 3 rd wheel. it doesn't mean op should be disrespectful, but op's husband should know better. he probably already new how his wife felt, but he couldn't say no to his mum. hubby needs to pick up his balls.
PsySygirl 0
karma will give you a mother-in-law-from-he'll and let's see you then, talking from your high cloud. you obviously have no idea what frustration feels like...
staceysgenesis16 0
thats not lacking commitment .. thats having a dumb ass selfish husband who thinks he can do whatdver he wants and not hav consequences ..
terranman 4
true
lookatthebrights_fml 0
I agree with everyone saying she's too willing to walk away, but I do not think this is so much about the mother-in-law or however you spell that (sorry). If my husband made this decision without ANY discussion, I would have a problem too. Letting the mother move in is probably the right thing to do, but there should be some involvement of the wife in this decision. Period. It's not a small decision that only affects the husband.
yousodi 10
Your just a kid what do u know... Dump his ass the mommas boy, it's what his mother wants anyway
MrsDruidess 23
the reality is when he married her, she became the most important woman in his life. No one should ever be forced to live in a bad situation, like living with someone you hate. Forcing his wife to do that is a breach of their relationship and will have a negitve affect on the marriage. The 2nd issue is he think he can make life altering decisions for the family without consulting his wife. Those are HUGE issues people. OP is right to have doubts about her marriage. #3 If the mother-in-law is in need, maybe a short negotiated stay. If its a permanent thing like health there are places better equipped to handle her needs, she will not be better off if she is in the care of someone who hates her. That kind of strain is a lot to take on even when you love and get along with them. If its not a health thing there is no reason to moch off her son!
spicyasscakes 0
that's nice to hear
Celesta 11
I hope you hate her for a good reason, otherwise you're just being irrational. FYL anyway mothers-in-law are such a pain most of the times. :(
boygeorgebaby 0
oh my....what did she do? it is his mother after all. you need to sit down and have a conversation with your husband about this...divorce isn't necassary. Get a job promotion in Hawaii or something and move far far away! but seriously, do talk to ur hubby. fyl, op.
TookaWooka666 0
Just push her down the stairs and say she "fell" lol.
Riddles66 0
If you live your husband, then it shouln't matter! Why divorce over something little? Try to get along with her! For him! That's TRUE love!
redbluegreen 41
True love, or any love for that matter, doesn't involve letting someone walk all over you. Seeing beyond your comfort and happiness is one thing, but this is definitely an example of something that should have been decided on as a couple because it directly affects the both of them. She may be the one contemplating divorce, but her husband, who we're supposing is completely aware of his wife's relationship with his mother, is certainly at fault here as well.
WallyTheWombat 0
Couldn't have said it better myself. OP needs to talk to her husband and drill it into his head that major decisions such as that should be thoroughly discussed between the two of them.
No_LoveMM 3
25 - True, but if having an in-law living with you is the worst problem in your marriage, then you should be fine
ReynshineCutting 10
It depends on the in law. My fiancé would love to see my dad fall off a cliff. He won't attend any family functions that my dad is at, won't go on any family vacations, and won't go back home to visit with me. He's tried several times to be nice and everything but my dad just keeps being an asshole to him so my fiancé finally just gave up. There are some in laws that you just can't tolerate.
Vito38 0
waaaa waaaa divorce is expensive you would be dumb to do it over that. it can't be for ever!!
aardvarkish 17
Some in-laws are worth divorcing over.
shades1989 6
uhhhhhh NO!
TheIrishJaneDoe 9
rbg is right on. This FML is a red flag minefield.
TheIrishJaneDoe 9
I agree, aard, but I'd have to add a clarification: A monster in-law plus a spouse who tolerates it and refuses to set boundaries could certainly justify divorce. I don't take divorce lightly at all, and it's always a last resort, but sometimes... You have to marry the family, but not the family's dysfunction.
vbmg152 19
You can't get along with some people! I've tried to get along with my in laws for 23 years and they are still douches! You have no idea what OP is going through!
celly18 2
yeah like mine !!!!
CaliGali 9
try to work something out with her if u love your husband divorce is not the answer for your problem... and if she's a pain in the ass kill her with kindness don't let her win lol
jklol11 0
tht sucks.
Leebra 6
Just tell him no. Keep the door locked when she comes with her stuff. She can't move in if she can't get in the house.
WallyTheWombat 0
This seems like a not crazy and well thought out way to handle the situation.
aardvarkish 17
Let her move in, but change the locks every day.
heybizarre 0
It's his house. Quit your bitching.
that_is_Nathy 9
You sound slightly overreacting....although I think, allowing his mother to stay, without asking you (considering he knwe that you hated her, doubles the following) is proof that he doesn't think to much about his actions. That being said, I still won't go with fyl because you can easily uninvite her again, since it is also your place. Also, as mentioned: your reaction sounds over the top
missymoo0430 0
trust me she isn't overreacting. soMe days I can't even look at my inlaws. they can be a pain in ur ass sometimes for no reason at all except they just are.
that_is_Nathy 9
thinking about divorce as soon as something ***** you up IS overreacting. Of course it might be a huge problem to have his mother in the house, but that's too much
vbmg152 19
Amen!
vbmg152 19
I mean Amen to Missy!