Awwwww. I struggle with weight issues too, so I feel for you, but that is not cool of your husband. Tons of people are gonna be on here telling you to " divorce his ass" but don't.

Jokes aside, my advice would be this: Talk to your doctor. See if you are at an acceptable weight, or whether your health is/is going to suffer for your weight. If you are healthy, divorce. Your husband is just a shallow asshole. If you are not or are borderline, try to lose the weight. He has your health in mind when he says those things.

WTF?!? OP DOES need to divorce him. He doesn't think his MARRIAGE is a commitment to stay with her!!!! Which probably means he doesn't think it's a commitment to stay faithful either...

I believe this guy is being shallow. Apparently, now, "fat" is like... three pounds overweight. Most guys seem to want a woman who's anorexic, pretty much. I'm not going to jump to conclusions and automatically assume you gained thirty pounds, because your husband just gave you a warning. Staying healthy is important, and so is staying in shape, but some people...

That's what you get you far tub of goo! No man, regardless of shape, wants. fatty! You have the tools in frint if you, but you'd rather be a stinky lard?!

You deserve someone better. Staying healthy and on the leaner side is good, but if it's all about the appearance for someone, they clearly don't respect you the way they should.

The fact that he said STAY thin means that you probably are thin still and he's just speaking preemptively which is dumb. Also I know a lot of personal trainers and most of them have very unrealistic visions of "thin" If he's going to dump you over a few pounds you need to dump him first

fat people suck obesity is the result of a simple lack of self control

What makes me laugh is all the idiots on here, claiming it is 'in the contract' that you remain thin.... generally a marriage contract doesn't include a weight clause. You marry someone for who they are, and what you love about them. You date someone and don't marry them because they don't have the qualities you want to remain with them for your life for. I'm not saying that justifies someone getting morbidly obese. It's not attractive, it's symptomatic of a deeper problem and a lack of care for yourself and other people. In the times in my life when I've deviated from my 'norm' weight whether up or down it's usually indicative of unhappiness. However there are much better ways to help someone than to threaten divorce. He's a personal trainer ffs. It's his *job* to motivate and encourage people and to understand that weight loss is not easy. If he thought his client had put on a few pounds would he say 'unless you make a committment to being thin, I refuse to make a committment to being your trainer'? So FML. Even if you've gained weight, he is an unkind fool not to have either (a) told you in a better way (b) not spotted the deviation as soon as it happened, and worked with you to find the cause.

Unless he was a dick about it, he's just being honest. Your fitness is likely ONE of the reasons he wanted to marry you, and "letting yourself go" after marriage is not fair to him. He probably never wanted to marry an out-of-shape woman, and he certainly doesn't want to BE married to one.

obviously looking fit and healthy is a big deal and vital to a healthy relationship, but honestly, he just sounded like a total ****. he could have said something a little more nice, pointing out the fact that she needs to maybe lose a few pounds in a approachable way, but dictating whether or not staying with a person just because their outer appearance wasn't what it was used to be is just low and shallow.

I would still be with my fiance if she turned into a troll.....I may not have sex with her after that....but i wouldn't leave her.