Today, I told my parents I don't really like children and probably won't have any in the future. They sat me down and gave me a lecture on how people who hate kids are heartless. FML
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Today, my parents disowned me because I told them I don’t want kids. FML
Today, I was advised to never have kids because they ruin your life, ruin your body, cost you money, stress you out, and the end result is they become an adult you don’t even really like or would choose to spend time with if you weren’t related. It was both my parents who gave me this advice. FML
Today, my mother-in-law asked me when my fiancé and I were going to start having children. When I told her we weren't planning on having any, she went on a tirade about how selfish and cold I am for denying her precious grandchildren. Now she hates me. FML
Today, my parents disowned me because I threw out my wife and son after I found out that the kid wasn't mine. According to them, I'm a "heartless asshole." FML
Today, I told my mom that having watched my sister ruin her life having kids who grew into brats with criminal records before their teens, I refused to ruin my life the same way and will be childless. I then turned to leave and they were in the doorway, my sister and her two brats. I got slapped. FML
Today, my husband ranted about how children are awful, and parents who claim they love their kids are complete liars, and if everyone admitted that we hated our kids and resented them for existing, there’d be a lot more happy childless couples. We don’t even have kids for him to hate this much. WTF? FML
Today, as part of my job, I had to watch a few 5 year-olds while their parents were busy with my manager. It only confirmed my choice to never have children, and yet my mother still insists I should have one, because once they exist and I love them, I’ll see how silly my choice to not have them is. FML
Today, I reluctantly went to a family get together. My nosy aunt decided to try to lecture me on why I should spank my kids. That’s great coming from a woman who was a teen mom, had kids with 3 different guys, and now has grown kids that hate her guts. Yeah I truly need lessons on how to be a mom. FML
Today, I found the courage to tell my parents about my boyfriend. They simply reacted by lecturing me about how much he'll ruin my life, and how much they don't like him. They haven't met him yet. FML
Today, my husband and I recently decided not to have kids, because neither of us like children. Learning this, my dad wrote me out of his will and my mother swore on the Bible in church that she’s never going to speak to me again until I obey God's word and start multiplying. FML
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MDoremis 38
Which is worse? Realizing you don't like children and having them anyway to please someone and end up resenting the kid(s) or to just not have kids and disappoint your parents? I'm pretty sure it's the first one.
HAMY_fml 23
You and your partners decision, not theirs.
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sttylerx7 18
FIRST
HAMY_fml 23
You and your partners decision, not theirs.
Stephencharis 14
its a selfish decision to say you don't want kids... I can only imagine if your parents too hated kids and poisoned you as a baby..you deft won't be here...
UhHuhHoney 20
How is that being "selfish"?
butterfly403 12
how in the world is it selfish to not want kids?
MariaGiovanni 25
20 "if your parents hated kids and poisoned you as a baby" Holy comprehension leap Batman! OP said they probably won't have kids not that if they had kids they'd kill them! Also please explain how it's selfish to not want kids? Seriously I'm trying to connect those dots.
blueyoshi_fml 16
20, my husband and may not have kids, this funny thing where we are drowning in student loan debt, don't make tons of money and work extremely long hours. Every one has different circumstances and reasons for their decisions in life, although I'm glad you apparently have the means to easily have a family.
SheepShoop_fml 20
Selfish? It's selfish to force your kneejerk "everyone needs to want kids" complex down other peoples' throats.
smokecloud_ 37
It's more selfish to have kids you don't want. -Childfree on purpose
carcino 5
It's pretty damn selfish when you have kids that you don't want and end up not being able to support them. Not everyone wants kids. I'm only 15 and I don't really want kids in the future. It's a personal choice.
brengonerogue 18
20. what's selfish is having kids knowing you don't want them. imagine growing up with parents that didn't really want you. they aren't going to magically love children once they have one. think before you speak
withered 30
It's not selfish it's a choice everyone has the right to. It is however EXTREMLY selfish when people try to force their own beliefs onto others. You want kids? FINE! Have them! But don't think you should make that decision for others.
MonstreBelle 29
20- As the daughter of a man who knew he didn't want kids but couldn't be bothered to wear a ******* condom, nothing good comes from having kids that you don't want. The very few times I had any contact with him, he didn't even try to hide his resentment and was often verbally abusive. He has another daughter that I now have custody of. Her mom died in a car accident when she was about a year old. I immediately filed for custody of her because I didn't want her anywhere near him. He never even showed up for the custody hearing. He isn't a part of her life at all, which is better for her in the long run, but she has reached an age where she knows other kids have dads that are a part of their lives and has started asking questions. It's absolutely heart breaking to have a 5 year old asking what is wrong with her and why her dad won't come see her and why he hates her. So no, it's not selfish to not want or have kids. What is selfish is you saying everyone should have kids even if they don't want them. It's their body and their life, therefore it's their choice. Someone deciding that they don't want kids doesn't affect your life in the slightest. You don't have to agree with a person's choice to not have kids, but you have no right to call them selfish and make them feel guilty for making that choice.
Lachie20001 21
It's up to you and your partner. If you don't feel comfortable around them, it's fine.
aacuna8 11
Like the achievement hunter profile pic
MDoremis 38
Which is worse? Realizing you don't like children and having them anyway to please someone and end up resenting the kid(s) or to just not have kids and disappoint your parents? I'm pretty sure it's the first one.
higgysaurus 18
Chances are, the parents would be disappointed in either case, seeing as no one enjoys seeing parents that dont enjoy being parents.
MDoremis 38
Probably. I would much rather disappoint my parents--and I do by not having kids yet, by the way--than to have a child I don't want.
Teacatt 13
Glad I'm not alone
cheeeksss 29
Right? Every time I mention how I do not want kids, people just disregard it like "oh you're young, you'll change your mind later." Or they give me this concerning look followed by a big "WHY?" Ugh... Like, no. I have thought about it. Intensely. I still don't want them.
smokecloud_ 37
It's ok, I've been hearing it my whole life. I'm nearing 30's doorstep and still gladly have none. :D My mother has another daughter who gave her grandchildren and my dad is satisfied with having furgrandbabies.
marcranger 29
56, I'm IN my thirties and only just found a doctor, two hours away from me, who is willing to sterilize me. This whole idea that everyone wants children, especially women who say they don't, needs to die already.
NamesIncognita 15
This... i hate them so much.... Yes. i'm young but. That im young doesnt change the fact that babies are ugly shit machines that drain your money like ceazy and that toddlers will destroy your life and annoy you to death. Ill do anything to be genderless.
Seabass_Chan 33
Besides, not liking kids doesn't necessarily mean you /hate/ them, which is what OP's parents seems to have implied.
vreid 20
Having no heart > changing diapers, dumping your income, responsibility Just do you OP I feel the same way
morley05 11
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maybe they want grandchildren. they probably had you for that very reason
acerredrum 23
If they only had a kid because they want grandkids then they did it for shitty reasons.
higgysaurus 18
#7 dude you struck out twice with two shitty comments on two back to back FMLs. Well done.
morley05 11
#13 they probably had there child cause of liquor
alanna_ann 14
that's not their decision to make
VasilisaUzhasnaj 29
People who tell their children how to live their lives sound more heartless to me.
MrBlackledge 12
You never know your opinion might change over time, don't let anyone guilt trip you into something you don't want to do.
Mightytall 35
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Other people's children is always a huge difference. I didn't like them either... always snotty nose, sticky fingers, touchy touchy everything... Now I that have my own son, all that stuff still happens and it still bothers me, but it's nothing compared to the joy of having your very own child and seeing how he/she develops, starts walking, speaking, dancing and grows a personality.
acerredrum 23
Because parents who hate or abuse their kids don't exist right?
gichikku 14
All those happy emotions of having your own child does not come for everyone. Don't tell people that they will feel a certain way when they could end up feeling complete opposite.
bonermonkey 31
you're just yet another one of the bajillion condescending people who feel the need to tell people who don't want kids why do/should/will/might want kids
fashionbug9880 22
I have met many well behaved, respectful, well mannered children, and I've also met MANY rowdy, ill mannered children. Despite seeing both sides, and the joy children bring to many parents, I don't want kids of my own. I haven't liked babies since I was around 7 years old, still don't like them at 17, and I don't expect my views to change by the time I'm 27, not even if they're my own.