Today, my mother-in-law asked me when my fiancé and I were going to start having children. When I told her we weren't planning on having any, she went on a tirade about how selfish and cold I am for denying her precious grandchildren. Now she hates me. FML
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Today, my mother-in-law insisted we go to a baby clothing store. When I reminded her that I don’t want children, she sat on the floor, crying, kicking and screaming. She then said I was denying her grandchildren because I hate her. Well, I didn’t… FML
Today, my mother was guilting my wife and I for freezing embryos as a delay tactic to deny her grandchildren. Fed up, I told her, "Why don't you throw in a 'You'll miss me when I'm dead' to finish this guilt trip?" Now, she's crying and my father wants to murder me. FML
Today, my mother-in-law said: "People who don't have kids are children of the devil." I'm infertile, she knows this. FML
Today, I visited my in-laws, whom I thought I was on great terms with. I soon learned that wasn't the case when my mother-in-law yelled at me about how I've been abusing her for years. Ten minutes later, she hugged me and asked me for grandkids. FML
Today, my awful future daughter-in-law went off on me and said that I'm just jealous that she's marrying my son and I'm not. Furious, I told my husband, expecting him to side with me, but all he said was, "Well… are you?" FML
Today, my future mother-in-law finally admitted that I'm "not the girl for her son" and that she will do anything to break us up. FML
Today, my mom had to go off on my grandmother because I don’t have kids yet and she, "wants great grand babies before she dies." My grandmother was going to gift me a baby outfit for me to get another hint. I’m 25 and can’t conceive because of health issues. I may never have my own kids. She knows. FML
Today, after the topic of grandkids came up yet again, my fiancé confessed that we've been having trouble conceiving. Later, I overheard his mum telling him to take my engagement ring back to the store and get a refund, because apparently I'm not worth marrying if I can't give him kids. FML
Today, my mother-in-law told my fiancé that I had to leave and wasn’t allowed to live there anymore. I own the house. She’s mad because I locked the door so she couldn't walk in anytime she wanted. FML
Today, my future mother-in-law started shit-talking me on Facebook, and we got into a heated argument. She called me later in the day, saying I'll be lucky if I ever marry her son and that, "You'll suffer to your last breath." I'm now terrified to set foot outside. FML
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Mynamewontfi 40
You should do whatever seems best for you. I never understood why people pressure others to have kids.
timb1234 13
Mother-in-laws are always a pain. Do what you want and dont listen to her
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Oppression_fml 19
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Family is important. I hope both of you change your minds!
xxmollyxx 25
I hope they do whatever feels right for the two of them, it's their life after all.
steffi90 13
It's their decision if they want to have children or not. No - one should ever feel pressured into having children, especially not by a (seemingly) overbearing mother-in-law
lexos 16
Why? Just so she can satisfy her selfish mother in law. I can totally understand why people don't want kids it's a huge responsibility.
Lexipants 21
Surprise, #1! You're the problem. Don't EVER do this to someone IRL.
leogachi 15
I love how nobody caught on that your username is Opression. Nice trolling.
Zarcissa 34
If both of them change minds, then its not a win either. It would mean that the M-I-L wouldnt want grandkids while OP would... Go figure.
chocolatelover96 14
It's not compulsory for everyone on Earth to reproduce, I for one respect people who admit they don't want kids. There's more to life than that ,I hope you come to realise that :)
Sheh_fml 25
"Family" is not synonymous to "children". They already have a family: Each other, parents and parents-in-law, probably siblings and cousins and grandparents, aunts and uncles.
vuduguru 5
life is everyone's choice to decide, i have 2 wonderful children and wouldn't give them up for the world, but just because that's what i like i respect everyone's decision for what they want just as well
LakersGirl_fml 5
#38- no no no. #1 was saying they hope that she and her fiancé change their minds about having children.
Brandi_Faith 34
1, I assume you were trolling. But if not, you definitely don't want people having children if they don't want them. There are enough parents out there who don't know how to discipline their children, who are mean to their kids, and lots of kids that are abused or unloved. People should only have kids if they are ready for the responsibility, are prepared to put their kids first above themselves, love them unconditionally, and are ready to discipline and be a parent instead of a best friend.
timb1234 13
Mother-in-laws are always a pain. Do what you want and dont listen to her
WhoopteDo 26
Woman Hitler (letters of mother in law rearranged for those of you who don't know, though I'm sure most do) at it again, ready to dictate your life as she sees fit. To each their own OP. sorry she hates you but hold your ground indeed.
incoherentrmblr 22
Well, as long as she doesn't become a Monster-in-Law, you should be fine...
Brandi_Faith 34
I disagree. Despite what we hear and all the movies we see. There are awesome in-laws out there. My sister-in-laws love my mom so much, one of them actually prefers my mom to her actual mom. They have group texts, hang out, and see each other a few times a week. Agreed, my family is a rarity, but it can happen. We're very blessed with a huge family that all love each other a lot.
JMichael 26
What you should have said is we're not planning on having any yet.
leogachi 15
Why? They shouldn't have to pretend that they want kids just to please a person who wouldn't have raised them anyway.
JMichael 26
It was meant as a joke. Damn people on here take things way too seriously.
newzealand 28
That's a tad ironic #36 don't you think?
Algorithm 24
Your joke was unfunny.
naddousha 14
It certainly is their life choice not to have kids, however, when addressing parents and in laws in regards to this, a little bit of care for their feelings is appreciated. Bluntly answering never is harsh as one always dreams of holding the offsprings of their own child
Lexipants 21
That's not their dream to have or force on other people.
Frammy007 7
Some care for OPs feelings from the M.I.L. would have been nice. And no where does it say that she was rude or blunt to her M.I.L. about the choice not to have children.
WaltzingPhanthom 23
People like your granny keep the population alive.
boshbish 14
The world is already grossly overpopulated. Regardless, their life, their decision. FYL OP
Lexipants 21
No, people like monster-in-law destroy families and blame it on their victims.
chinaski7628 32
I have a genetic kidney disease. Both my mom and my grandfather (and probably countless other family members) died from this disease. When my mom was first diagnosed (I was about 10), I decided I would never have children because, especially after watching what the disease did to my mom, I would never want to pass that on to my children. My mom spent a lot of time feeling guilty because she passed it on to her children. I'm 38. I like kids (I'm a teacher, for heaven's sake), and if I ever change my mind, I would adopt, but honestly, I like my life without children. I get really annoyed when people pull the "survival of the species" card. There are a lot of reasons someone may not want children and it's nobody's business except for that person and his or her partner.
NicoleP1993 29
@57 I feel you. Everyone on my father's side (yes, EVERYONE) has had a bypass before their 60th, so I decided to never have biological children too. Doesn't stop anyone I know from telling me that I "shouldn't let that stop" me. Like, are you serious? I think you're making a wise choice, I'd never want my kids to start a cholesterol diet at 18 like I had to, or have to start meditating to stop blood pressure from becoming a problem either. Not every gene needs to be passed.
WaltzingPhanthom 23
I'm so sorry guys...
Brandi_Faith 34
57 & 85, I totally get that. If I had a genetic condition like that, I wouldn't want to pass that on. Especially when there are so many kids that are unloved out there and longing to be adopted. I have a stomach condition and deal with chronic pain and they say it's idiopathic (they don't know why I have it or how I got it). But I've wondered if there's any way it could get passed on, even though research seems to show that it never is. I certainly wouldn't want any kid having to go through what I have.
Mynamewontfi 40
You should do whatever seems best for you. I never understood why people pressure others to have kids.
NostalgiaFreak9 43
Because most are desperate to keep their family going.
NicoleP1993 29
@26 it's more a society thing. You're supposed to have kids and if you don't want them at 20... you'll want them at 30 "trust me". I've got my half brother to keep the family name going and my mom has 7 brothers and sisters. I'm still just 'expected' to have kids, even though our family name(s) is in no danger of dying out.
Metthew 15
Stick with what you want the most and don't worry about her hating you. She's clearly too stuck up to be a person you'd want to please - please just be happy with you future husband. ü
abNormal62 23
Parenting isn't for everyone. respect a person's choice to know what is best for them There are enough unwanted and/or unplanned kids out there to tell you the same thing
Cads1 24
Well, how dare you! FYL.
Lexipants 21
Can't tell if sarcastic?
Cads1 24
Don't care.
Khepre 22
Some people just don't want kids. I know some parents who should not be parents, and are. Sometimes the kid is better off not being born than growing up in a shitty household, with a parent/s that don't look after them to the full extent. Just ignore your mother in law OP!