Today, I told my boyfriend of three years that I wanted to get married and have a child within the next five years. He responded by packing up my things and showing me the door. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, I told my boyfriend of two years that I wanted to get married eventually, and there's no way to talk me out of it. He broke up with me immediately. FML
Today, my boyfriend told me he wants to marry me and be the father of my children. Five minutes later, he told me he wants to experience death. FML
Today, I told my boyfriend of five months that it's time he stopped fighting for custody with his baby mama, and to start focusing more on my kids, whom he said he would take responsibility for. He responded by telling me to pack my things, saying we should all leave. FML
Today, I told my boyfriend of 3 years that I wanted to marry him someday. His response was, "Oh, OK, thanks." FML
Today, I finally worked up the courage to tell my boyfriend that I wanted to go separate ways. Before I could say anything, he proposed. FML
Today, my boyfriend of 3 years announced that he is not ready for marriage, and won’t be for 'at least' another 2 years. Of course he waited to tell me this 2 days after he had proposed to me in front of hundreds of people, I said yes, and we announced it to all our family members and friends. FML
Today, I asked the person I love to commit to me. Instead, he packed his shit and moved out. FML
Today, I finally cracked and told my boyfriend that if he didn't sign full custody of his evil, manipulative 3 year-old daughter to her mother, then I would leave. He picked me up and literally threw me outside his apartment, slamming the door in my face when I tried to run back inside. FML
Today, I found out my boyfriend of 5 years cheated on me and now has a 4 year old, and as he’s told me, we should get married. FML
Today, my boyfriend of two years proposed to me. Less than two minutes later, he decided he wasn't ready for the commitment. After I had already said yes. FML
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xxmollyxx 25
Lucky that you found out now and don't have to waste five more years on someone who doesn't want the same things in life as you.
PANDORUM89 21
I'm sorry that happened to you. Did y'all previously talk about your future? maybe he didn't want kids or he panicked when he was given a time limit. Again sorry to hear this as that was an extreme reaction.
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niiickk_ 7
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you'll find better, OP!
Nessco 36
Sorry that happened. It's not an easy conversation to have with someone. Hope you find someone who will let you achieve this goal of yours.
Nessco 36
Just saw that you're only 23 too. Perhaps the time limit freaked him out. Maybe discuss one thing at a time. Don't be so hard on achieving this in the next 5 years. You have lots of times still. Perhaps we wants to get a few other things in order first. Seems really heavy conversation for someone of 23, even if you have been together for 3 years already.
Arwen_Evenstar 37
I'm 23, a lot of my parents generation were married at 23 - kids by 28 isn't actually that early. And she could have a condition that she knows will limit her fertility. I think if he was just thinking a couple of years later for kids this would've been a longer conversation.
Nessco 36
I know our parents her married and had kids younger, that's because their life expectancy was also much younger. We're no longer in that position anymore. Whilst OP may be happy with that, perhaps it freaked her partner into doing something completely irrational (like kicking her out of the house). Just saying.
R2Y2 22
If he doesn't want a kid then he doesn't want it. Probably better that they're apart, she was asking for a LOT of commitment and that dude doesn't seem ready.
Redgy22 26
You're assuming the maturity level of OP. I knew what I wanted when I was 16. Good for you OP. You know what you want. I'm glad you found out now instead of spending another 3 years in this relationship. Seems hr should have had SOME idea before now.
Redgy22 26
Life expectancy? There's not much difference from one generation to the next. Maybe over 50 - 100 years.
Razell 13
Life expectancy may have increased, but the fertility window hasn't. Having kids at, say, 35, still qualifies you for the term "geriatric pregnancy". Besides which, kids are much easier to keep up with if you have them when you are young and energetic.
cupcakebruh 21
@28 my sister is 22 and already has two kids and is getting married in less than a year. I'll admit she did have her first kid at 16, but she is extremely mature for her age and her and her fiance are perfect together. And then there's me, I'm 19, been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 years, we're about to get our first place together, and we have both decided we'll get married in 2020 and wait till he's at least out of grad school to have kids. My point being that everyone matures at a different age, and the fact OP knows what she wants at 23 doesn't surprise me at all.
ManBearPig44 11
You deserve so much better, FYL OP.
PurpleMyth 28
I fail to see how not wanting kids makes someone a bad person #2
sophiehelen 32
#37 the fact he acted like a dick head is what makes him a bad person
toaster87 19
I don't think he acted like a dick, but more information is needed. If they have never discussed this before, then she shouldn't be telling him and setting a time limit, they should be discussing it.
okokalright 15
So packing up someone else's things and basically forcing them out isn't a dick move. He could have of asked time to think or grew a pair instead of ignoring the problem. It's completely understandable that he doesn't want a commitment but that doesn't justify his actions
chosha_fml 27
#53 Ah, but he didn't discuss it. He just ended things. Whether it not he wants a kid or even if they did eventually decide later to break up, that isn't any way to treat someone you've been with for three years.
Saraishi 25
#37 Kicking your partner out the door with all their belongings after three years together is beyond being a dick and downright cold and cruel.
PANDORUM89 21
I'm sorry that happened to you. Did y'all previously talk about your future? maybe he didn't want kids or he panicked when he was given a time limit. Again sorry to hear this as that was an extreme reaction.
HerMischief 21
Not really too extreme of a reaction, I'm almost sure if he had said that he never wanted to have kids and he wasn't going to change his mind that she would have left him. Not everyone wants them. I personally hate children. I would rather focus on my career and not spend the millions of dollars i could be spending on myself and my SO.
DoomedGemini 38
Forcing op to leave DEFINITELY is an extreme reaction. If they just broke up, then that would be understandable and probably for the best, but that isn't just it. Kids and marriage is something to discuss and if you can't compromise or decide on the same option, yes it's probably best to break up, but give them time to get things together and find someplace to go. Throwing them out, especially over something like this, is terrible.
TallMist 32
And you, #105, are assuming that OP didn't have anywhere else to go.
xxmollyxx 25
Lucky that you found out now and don't have to waste five more years on someone who doesn't want the same things in life as you.
zobara 29
Now you know! Plenty of time to archiv it with someone who has the same goals in life
AviKerensky 17
Then you're better off without him. It sucks, but be thankful you didn't waste more time on someone who didn't want any of the same things you do.
MrThump 16
Owch, sorry to hear this op! Guess he wasn't wanting the same things you were. Hopefully you can move on and meet 'mr right'
MrConcise 35
Better than when you're pregnant. Although that could be a future followup just waiting to happen if you already are and haven't found out yet.
GhostFox 34
OP should probably get a pregnancy test, now that you've pointed that out. Especially if she wants them in the specified order...
Jeffo193 13
I think it's a bit harsh for him to just kick you out without talking about it, but this doesn't sound like it's the fault of either of you, you're just two people who want different things in life. It's sad for you OP and I hope you're not too upset, but don't worry, one day you'll find that one person who wants everything you do and you'll wonder how you ever considered marrying anyone else :-)
gunzerker 8
His loss!