Today, I now need to include in my prerequisites for a potential date, "Must not pull a knife out on one of my guy friends for hugging me." I'm so done with online dating. FML
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OP here. For some clarification, it was only our second time hanging out. I did introduce him to my guy friend so he wouldn't feel insecure. We were all leaving, I hugged my friend bye since to me, that is just a casual thing, and he went crazy. I'm just glad I found out what he's like early on.
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sarah2453 17
Next you'll be including things like; wears clothing on a daily basis, brushes teeth, and can pay for the bill on our date. Given the way society is going nowadays.
RusticChick 27
Online dating? I think it goes beyond that in todays world. Sorry for your luck, OP.
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Debauchery7 17
Maybe next time you won't include 'Likes bad boys' in your profile eh?
lulinator 40
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I'll probably get thumbed down for my opinion on this. While your date's reaction was exceedingly extreme, hugging another man while on a date with someone, regardless of your relationship with the friend, is disrespectful. Imagine if the roles were reversed, how you would feel if some gorgeous girl walked up and threw her arms lovingly around your date's neck. In the past, I'd hug anyone I wanted in front of a date/boyfriend, until one of my friends quickly pushed me aside, walked up to my boyfriend, shook his hand, and introduced himself because he saw the reaction in my boyfriend's eyes of another man's arms around me. I thought it was strange at first until I thought about if a girl ran up to my man and did the same thing, I'd probably knock her the **** out.
interesting33 37
I get where you are coming from but I don't agree. OP was on a date with that man, not with her friend. She had already chosen her date over her friend romantically. Hugging is just a form of affection between humans, it isn't specific to romantic love by any means and although it might make the other person a bit jealous, it doesn't mean the girl is gonna run off with her guy friend or vice versa. I don't think it is disrespectful, you aren't excluding the date from any affection, you are just acting normally.
Sammeydw 22
Hugging is one way to show / celebrate a close bond. It doesn't have to be romantic. Lovers aren't the only ones that hug. Parents + children, siblings, and best friends hug without it being romantic.
johncage 14
Personally I wouldn't think twice about a hug; it's really not a big deal. But if you (#35) are doing something which you acknowledge would make someone you love jealous or uncomfortable, why are you doing it? There is subservience and then there is empathy. There is a big difference between the two and the latter is not a bad word. If we're talking about the early dating stage, jealousy before emotional investment is what I like to call an extra bigass red flag.
klutz44 28
Just curious, but since I'm married, does that mean I'm not allowed to hug another guy ever again? I definitely agree that while on a date, you shouldn't be hanging all over another guy, but a hug to say hi or bye or to congratulate your friend on excellent news (got a promotion, etc) is very normal and should be totally ok.
ohSNAPyall 27
I think it's odd that you're praising a guy friend for pushing you aside. Yes, it's polite that he introduced himself to your beau and shook his hand, but to shove you aside first suggests that he's shaking the guy's hand to seek approval, and the permission to greet a friend. That is not polite, and it dismisses the fact that you and your date are equals. I doubt your friend intended to disrespect you, but it sounds like he's deferring to your date because your date is a man.
MzZombicidal 36
You are not someone's property. Someone else is not your property. You're allowed to show affection to other people without it meaning anything romantic and vice versa. If you can't even handle your significant other hugging a friend completely without any romantic feelings whatsoever, then you've got some serious insecurities.
el_bell3618 29
Sorry for the bad luck. Hopefully your next try won't be quite so frightening! Keep at it OP :)
AlohaSnackbar 11
Just done? You just started!
Geckosrock99 33
I hope you guys reported your knife wielding date, OP. He threatened your friend's life and deserves to be locked up and away from you. He obviously doesn't know or care whats right and whats wrong.
vikky538 29
Shower daily. Didn't they include that in prerequisite
MG73 9
OP here. For some clarification, it was only our second time hanging out. I did introduce him to my guy friend so he wouldn't feel insecure. We were all leaving, I hugged my friend bye since to me, that is just a casual thing, and he went crazy. I'm just glad I found out what he's like early on.
friday9733 11
What a douche.
higgysaurus 18
Hopefully later on in life you will be able to laugh at how crazy the dude was.
KamiyaHaine 18
The right guy will come along at the right time. Enjoy your single-hood! Go travelling alone, buy what you want, &/or learn a new skill. It's really fun!
oreoeater 21
What did you friend do?
wordygirl 11
I thought online dating is for super desperate people. That guy was super desperate because he's a psycho. What on earth is your excuse?? Get out from behind your computer to date, it's not safe.
Sandman2015 12
Hope you and your guy friend were alright. I don't even want to know what site you went on to find that nutjob.
Quicky5_ 16
I feel a needed restraining order in your future, but hopefully not! Best of luck