People do marry people they want to stay with forever. But then real life happens, circumstances and people change, and it can become impossible to be together without being miserable. Check your judgemental, ignorant, uninformed attitude, dude. Let people handle their own affairs without being sneered at.

#2 and #13, the point of alimony is that you give money because they need it. If he's buying things that aren't necessities, then it looks like she's just losing that much money.

Alimony is supposed to be for couples where one spouse was unemployed for a significant time (presumably to raise the children) or if the marriage in some way or other prevented the spouse from being able to further their career or get an education in order to have a decent job. If spouse A quit school to raise the children because spouse B's career was better paying, and they split up, spouse A is now stuck with no education and no work experience because of, essentially, a failed contract. Should spouse A get stuck pumping gas for the rest of their life because they sacrificed for someone who no longer loves them? Or look at it this way: a marriage licence is an agreement. If one person says, "I will give up my career and stay home in order to free you up to work however you like, IF you will support me financially," and then the kids grow up and the other spouse changes their mind, they have essentially let down their side of the agreement. Alimony is designed to compensate for that, at least long enough that the spouse can get it together. If the ex is doing well enough that the alimony check is just for luxuries, I can see why you'd be pissed off. It's supposed to be for education, or to support the person until they can get a career going. It's for real life, and necessities, it's not just meant to pamper people who have opportunities and work credentials. You always hear about alimony being abused by people who don't really need it, but I'd have to see some statistics to know exactly how many. And to those of you dumbasses screaming "you should be married FOREVER! You PROMISED!" I say... welcome to real life. It would be nice if people could always love each other forever, but people change. Relationships are complicated. People can be totally in love and years later find they make each other miserable. It doesn't mean they're bad people. That's just life.

He is an ass, but you should knew that before you married (and divorced him) If you didn't knew it, you ran into marriage too quickly either way, YDI

happens all the time to men usually.

What? No X-box nor playstation nor new Camero?? OP must be a slacker.

shoulda signed a prenup

Alimony ftw..consider it HEAVY tax :)

ydi for being a strong independent woman in the 21st century and making more money than your ex. If you don't like it than put an apron on and get in the kitchen woman.

YDI for marrying a lazy bum. Enjoy getting ****** in the ass without him touching you.

YDI for not having a prenup.

I am laughing over this. If this was a man saying this about his ex wife everyone would be siding with the female. Alimony can be spent on whatever the hell the person getting it wants. Unlike child support she can't tell him what to use it on because once it's in his hands it's his money. Obviously the OP dislikes not being able to control what he uses it on or paying it in general.