Bethany
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Today, even though my boyfriend knew that I was a devout catholic before he asked me on a date, he's pissed that I keep refusing to have sex. Apparently, he thought I was just playing hard to get and that I would eventually drop my panties like all the other slutty "religious" girls he claims to have fucked. FML
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organizse 28
If he can't respect a single wish he's not worth keeping around
sonasonic 34
I wonder if he puts that on his rèsumè...
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demix_fml 32
No means No !
whatshisname1066 10
Thanks for that definition of 'no' captain obvious
imkittycow 10
Even if you werent religious he should have respected your decision to not have sex. If he thinks he's somehow entitled to your virginity, i would seriously reconsider that relationship
PhoenixChick 26
Nobody is entitled to sex. Not if they date you, not if they buy you things, not if they are nice to you, not if you've had sex with them before. Anyone who thinks that way...that's a warning sign, OP. So is the fact that he doesn't respect what you've told him, and assumed you were lying about something so very core to who you are. This might not be the boyfriend for you, honey.
InfiniteSunshine 32
Your boyfriend sounds like an arrogant asshole. If he's pressuring you this much into sex, honestly, that's a big red flag. It shows he doesn't respect your feelings or wishes and is very pushy and demanding. To him "no," isn't an acceptable answer, which is alarming. I think you should really rethink this relationship, if he can't accept your beliefs, then he isn't someone you want to be with.
GeeThatSucks 9
He just wants to further their relationship. I guess he just likes her more than she likes him. OP really shouldn't be leading him along like this. If she doesn't want to have a full relationship with him then she should be upfront about that.
MicKeyMon 10
op, like many others, believes that sex isn't necessary in a relationship. there are plenty of people who wait until marriage (or want to until they're forced into it be some form of coercion, physical or otherwise). that doesn't mean she's stringing him along. plus, even if that wasn't enough (which it is.. no means no, no matter what) she told him from the very start what her beliefs were. just because he decided not to believe her, that's her fault? no. just no.
DoomedGemini 38
A "full relationship" doesn't require sex. And it doesn't indicate if you care more or less if you don't want to have sex or want to wait. There's asexual people that can love people but not want sexual activity, and by that meaning those who has one night stands or such must have deep feelings for a lot of people. He doesn't give a shit about her if he can't handle her saying no, he just wants sex.
InfiniteSunshine 32
#100 Don't be a troll. We both know that everything you said was just a bunch of bullshit only intended to get rise out of people.
saberjpg 6
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Listen Bethany, God is already disappointed in you. You are a born sinner, just like everybody else. It's time to face the facts that you are not now, nor will you ever be a good person in God's eyes. So, be smart, use protection, pick your sexual mates wisely, and start enjoying sex. Experiment. Try different things. You won't regret it :D
Elena95 16
Or you could do whatever you're comfortable with doing, religious reasons or not. If you don't want to do something that important to you, nobody should make you
BananEnigma 24
Wtf..?
interesting33 37
I don't agree that God is disappointed and we can never do good in God's eyes. Yes we will all do wrong, but God forgives us and we can also do right. At least that is what I think. I often do things wrong and think 'I might as well go the whole hog anyway' but I think that is because of guilt and it puts a barrier between us and God. God is always ready to forgive and help us. I am not necessarily saying I think sex before marriage is wrong as I think that is a personal thing.
macen 10
Religion completely aside, if she does decide to start sexually experimenting the person to do it with is most definitely not the guy who obviously places all her value in her sexuality. He obviously doesn't care about her or her values. The word no doesn't mean a damn thing to him, so if she's going to have sex he is most definitely the wrong person to do it with.
PhantomKitty 26
This is the absolute worst advice I've ever read.
3drm 10
**** religion. **** God. It's not real and it harms others.
Suaria 38
If you ignore the religious context, she obviously doesn't want to have sex with him. No one should be pressured into having sex. Also it doesn't sound like he cares about her. It sounds more like he cares more about having sex than about her.
DoomedGemini 38
Are you kidding me?? She WILL regret it if she is pushed or forced to! Someone should never have sex or any sexual interaction unless both parties want to! This is pretty damn worrying considering he's getting upset over her just saying no and probably trying to convince her to do it. Don't have sex because it's what everyone's doing, because your partner wants to, because they're upset if you don't, just don't have sex until YOU want to. You are no less a person for when that is, and it won't be enjoyable if you don't actually want to.
princessofbelair 10
Just break up with him. He clearly doesn't respect you enough and you can do better
tyress 5
You should probably leave him. Obviously he does not have your best interest at heart, so the fact that you are staying with him means you are risking him tempting you to go against your beliefs.
Smartmouth12 8
Respect your body OP if you aren't ready then don't compromise yourself because this relationship sounds like he only wants ONE thing :(
floridagirl8410 4
Good for you for waiting. It takes strength to resist temptation :)
stepherz89 17
He doesn't respect you and only wants one thing and saw you as a challenge. Leave his childish ass and find yourself someone who is gonna respect your beliefs. Nothing wrong with sex and nothing wrong with waiting but this guy sounds so full of himself