Today, I agreed to help out with my boyfriend's sister's baby shower. They forgot to inform me that "helping" meant splitting the cost of everything. I now owe his family $275. I don't know how to back out without looking cheap. FML
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Today, I was yelled at and humiliated by my otherwise awesome brother-in-law for my supposed lack of effort in the planning of a baby shower for my very pregnant sister. The kicker? Her huge, break-my-bank semi-surprise baby shower has been in the works for a month, and is happening this weekend. FML
Today, I summoned the courage to talk to my friends about the money they owe me for my photography services at their wedding. We had agreed on a fair price, but now they're pissed, claiming that I'm being selfish, and should consider it my wedding gift to them. FML
Today, my sister attempted to get me to fund her daughter, my godchild's, birthday party. I told her I would give her 200 (which isn't much). Our mom "intervened" by cussing me out for being a cheap ass piece of shit. I was about to give her $200, which is A LOT in our currency when exchanged. FML
Today, instead of going to a romantic dinner with my boyfriend like I'd planned, I ended up babysitting his queasy little sister. FML
Today, my sister asked me to help her set up for my niece's birthday party. Being the lazy person that I am, I got my niece to blow up the non-helium balloons. Apparently she's allergic to latex and I'll be the one paying for the hospital bill. FML
Today, after a weekend of helping my sister-in-law move out of our house, vacuuming and mopping her bedroom and bathroom for her, scrubbing her walls and cleaning her shower, transporting her furniture, and getting her carpet professionally cleaned, to cover costs she offered me $14. FML
Today, I asked my boyfriend to help me with groceries, since the last of my money went to last week's groceries. His response was to start a fight, then tell me it's my fault my daughter acts the way she does, which is when he finally got me to break down and cry. I'm pregnant with his kid, and I also pay 90% of our bills. FML
Today, I told my family that I’m pregnant. My sister is upset and refuses to accept she’ll have to help with the baby. I’m a single mom going to college and living at home, and will need help. FML
Today, after sacrificing multiple weekends to help my kid brother with his various projects, I asked him to help me with one of mine. He nearly blew up at the thought of losing an evening of his free time on a simple task, so I postponed it to later, which means never. FML
Today, I can't seem to let go of what my family had done. Years ago, they spent hundreds, if not a thousand, for gifts on a family friend's baby shower, yet have bought nothing for my shower, which was two months ago, not to mention none of them attended the shower either. They've had the registry for 5 months, and I'm due in 3 days. FML
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Top comments
Murilirum 23
It's not looking cheap if you didn't know it meant paying money. $275 is a fair chunk of change and not something you should just give out because someone else says you should. Also, why is a baby-shower requiring a collective acquiring of $275 per person?!
StraightUpBaller 14
Just speak with the sister and explain that you misunderstood, and if you can't afford it explain why.
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GingerRoot 13
I was asked to be in two weddings this summer. Can't afford the dresses for both and it was hard to say no. I feel your pain.
Idahome 6
easy. tell them you're broke. you'd love to be at the party and help where you can, but anything that requires you to shell out any money, you can't do. if they're decent people they will understand your position and the position that they have put you in.
moniqueminx89 5
Who is having this baby? Just because you're kind enough to help throw the shower, doesn't mean any of the costs should be on you. My friends helped throw my very pricey baby shower - I paid for everything. My baby, my costs.
orsombre_fml 11
They should have told you precisely that they expected you to pay part of the shower and how much. It is obviously a setup. Helping means giving a hand, not paying for somebody else's expenses.
orsombre_fml 11
When my sister asks me to help paying for a gift, I am the one who decides which amount I give. OP, they should have asked you how much you could provide before spending so much money! I found their behavior rude and abusive.
Saraishi 25
Be honest and tell them that noone told you helping out meant spending money you don't have. If you're broke it's not being cheap, it's being broke.
helveeta 11
Break up with you boyfriend, problem solved!
CandyApple88 13
DO NOT GIVE THEM ANY MONEY OP!!!! You owe them nothing. They are just wanting to find a way to pass off costs to someone else and you are the chump they have targeted. Explain that you were willing to help set up, and you never agreed to hand over any money. Also, have a good long think about whether or not you still want to date that boyfriend. If they are trying to fleece you for cash while you are just the girlfriend, how much more are they going to get you to pay for once you become "part of the family"?
Slothman102 11
Personally in your situation I would politely tell them to do one.
BooBooKittyF11 21
just say no helping means like help decorate or cook food not pay for stuff unless its a gift