Today, I agreed to help out with my boyfriend's sister's baby shower. They forgot to inform me that "helping" meant splitting the cost of everything. I now owe his family $275. I don't know how to back out without looking cheap. FML
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A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, I was yelled at and humiliated by my otherwise awesome brother-in-law for my supposed lack of effort in the planning of a baby shower for my very pregnant sister. The kicker? Her huge, break-my-bank semi-surprise baby shower has been in the works for a month, and is happening this weekend. FML
Today, I summoned the courage to talk to my friends about the money they owe me for my photography services at their wedding. We had agreed on a fair price, but now they're pissed, claiming that I'm being selfish, and should consider it my wedding gift to them. FML
Today, my sister attempted to get me to fund her daughter, my godchild's, birthday party. I told her I would give her 200 (which isn't much). Our mom "intervened" by cussing me out for being a cheap ass piece of shit. I was about to give her $200, which is A LOT in our currency when exchanged. FML
Today, instead of going to a romantic dinner with my boyfriend like I'd planned, I ended up babysitting his queasy little sister. FML
Today, my sister asked me to help her set up for my niece's birthday party. Being the lazy person that I am, I got my niece to blow up the non-helium balloons. Apparently she's allergic to latex and I'll be the one paying for the hospital bill. FML
Today, after a weekend of helping my sister-in-law move out of our house, vacuuming and mopping her bedroom and bathroom for her, scrubbing her walls and cleaning her shower, transporting her furniture, and getting her carpet professionally cleaned, to cover costs she offered me $14. FML
Today, I asked my boyfriend to help me with groceries, since the last of my money went to last week's groceries. His response was to start a fight, then tell me it's my fault my daughter acts the way she does, which is when he finally got me to break down and cry. I'm pregnant with his kid, and I also pay 90% of our bills. FML
Today, I told my family that I’m pregnant. My sister is upset and refuses to accept she’ll have to help with the baby. I’m a single mom going to college and living at home, and will need help. FML
Today, after sacrificing multiple weekends to help my kid brother with his various projects, I asked him to help me with one of mine. He nearly blew up at the thought of losing an evening of his free time on a simple task, so I postponed it to later, which means never. FML
Today, I can't seem to let go of what my family had done. Years ago, they spent hundreds, if not a thousand, for gifts on a family friend's baby shower, yet have bought nothing for my shower, which was two months ago, not to mention none of them attended the shower either. They've had the registry for 5 months, and I'm due in 3 days. FML
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Top comments
Murilirum 23
It's not looking cheap if you didn't know it meant paying money. $275 is a fair chunk of change and not something you should just give out because someone else says you should. Also, why is a baby-shower requiring a collective acquiring of $275 per person?!
StraightUpBaller 14
Just speak with the sister and explain that you misunderstood, and if you can't afford it explain why.
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Comments (93)
JaffaMC 13
Stop being such a baby and back out, OP
brownapple 22
I agree. Oh and by the way, why have they disabled comments for the Got-fired-because-OP-is-racist FML?
trollcrusher 17
Indeed, it isn't OP's fault that they didn't specify what "help" meant. I doubt most people think of it in monetary terms right off the bat. Hopefully they didn't deliberately try to trick you into it.
LycanGod 27
seems that his sister is just trying to be the cheap one. OP should not have to pay unless they asked and she agreed to it
Murilirum 23
It's not looking cheap if you didn't know it meant paying money. $275 is a fair chunk of change and not something you should just give out because someone else says you should. Also, why is a baby-shower requiring a collective acquiring of $275 per person?!
EvilTurtle 35
di'dnot*
anonymuse_fml 31
Apparently 33 is unaware of the purpose of an apostrophe.
zeffra13 31
It's not a per person collection, just a split of the bill between people throwing. They should never charge OP, as it's their party and they say what's going to happen and OP's just offering help. If I was asked, I'd assume they meant help set up, not chip in. OP should say, "I can't give that amount right now, but I can give X (or do Y)."
StraightUpBaller 14
Just speak with the sister and explain that you misunderstood, and if you can't afford it explain why.
interesting33 37
It isn't even about not being able to afford it - it is not wanting to spend that much!
ohSNAPyall 27
Don't speak with the sister. Speak with their mom. Tell them you were happy to help (cook refreshments, put up decorations), but she didn't tell you that she wanted you to split the party costs, and you can't afford it.
Denise1988 13
Not your problem.
EvilTurtle 35
yo'ure*
lulinator 40
Don't correct grammar that's not broken. And don't break it yourself.
SPN_lover666 27
#24, #4 had it right. It is "Not your problem" not "Not you are problem."
ArturoJames 13
I think they are trolling. Well, that, or they're just stupid as ****.
EvilTurtle 35
I don't know, I might be stupid as duck.
lulinator 40
More like annoying as hell.
tygerarmy 35
Not your monkey, not your circus.
EvilTurtle 35
lol
EvilTurtle 35
thank you everyone for participating in my latest study
Noremac42 8
Evil Turtle, if you had studied you'd be able to spell better.
leogachi 15
Oh snap.
MrConcise 35
Stop ******** on people who lack social skills, it's uncouth.
tantanpanda 26
if I were you, I would tell them "I'll help with preparations, not the expenses". you have ZERO obligations for paying.
Ms_ValS 27
The bitch is using you OP.
writerchic85 26
Tell them you don't have that kind of money and that they should have clarified what they meant. It's your money. Doesn't matter if they think you're cheap.
MidnaLink 35
Just agree that this payment would count as the baby's gift.
leogachi 15
She shouldn't pay it at all.
minissaussette 25
$275 on a gift for her sister-in-law ?! We don't really do baby showers here but I assume $50 is already a more than acceptable amount for someone she might not know that much. I'm not sure I'd spend that much if it was my own sister. OP shouldn't agree on anything, how rude it is to impose such a thing on someone ...
shepp626 11
Not even sister-in-law! I don't care how long OP has been dating her boyfriend, not family, not her problem. A $275 gift is usually something you'd split between multiple people.
SPN_lover666 27
The family has no right to demand $275 from OP. OP has the right to refuse to pay and give the baby a regular baby gift.
MidnaLink 35
Alright then cancel gifts for the next five birthdays. Solved!
tdawg91 17
$275 for a baby shower?? And that's only PART of the cost?? I think all I spent on mine was $50 in total on snacks and drinks
devildog562 33
Usually the person that's having the baby doesn't pay their own expenses , but communication seems very poor...
CommentKing207 23
Tell them you didn't know there was money involved, and if they refuse to let you back out, refuse to pay. It's your decision, it's not like a baby shower needs $250 from each person anyways.
minissaussette 25
I can't believe how anyone could ask something like that, $20 would already seem a lot for someone who's not family or a close friend, but $275 ?! You don't owe them anything, talk to your boyfriend, I'd be so embarassed to find out that someone in my family had asked that to my boyfriend ... In any case, it must be very unconfortable but you've got to stand up for yourself and say no. Hope your boyfriend saves you the trouble though and tells whoever asked that to go **** themselves :)
mineller 24
You think $20 is a lot for a gift??
countryb_cth 38
For the baby of your boyfriends sister $20 is perfectly reasonable. Anymore up from that is a little much.
SPN_lover666 27
#69, for many people $20 is a lot of money. Since OP's name is JustOutofCollegeAndBroke, I suspect that OP is too poor to afford a $20 gift