Today, my mother has filled me with such grief from covert narcissism that I realized I'm having panic attacks about her being able to hear me if I speak my mind, even when I'm alone. I'm in my thirties and married. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, I had one of the worst panic attacks in years. I was worried nobody cared about me and that I had completely messed up my life. I was hyperventilating and crying hysterically. My mom walked by my room, looked at me, and said, "If you're going to make those noises, at least shut the door." FML
Today, my mom reached the lowest point of her midlife crisis. She convinced herself she's psychic and grounded me for something she "knows" I'm going to do. FML
Today, I realized that my mother's voice triggers my misophonia. I don't have the courage to tell her that I literally hate her voice, due to a hearing disorder, because I don't know how to say it without sounding like a douche. FML
Today, my mother snapped and took her frustrations out on me. Whenever she has a problem with other family members, it falls on me because she can't show them her true face to them. And she wonders why I hide away all the time… FML
Today, my anxious, obsessive, overbearing mother called me four times. That's significantly less than usual. When I complained to my dad, he said, "She just worries about you because she loves you." I don't feel loved, I feel smothered. FML
Today, I accidentally left the pantry open. My narcissistic mother’s response was to spit on me and tell me to kill myself. FML
Today, my mother is upset that I won’t share things with her anymore. This is the woman who spent my entire childhood gossiping about every teeny tiny detail of my life, and used my suicide attempt as a way to garner pity for herself. Yeah, no thanks. FML
Today, my mother complained all day while I'm trying to work from home. I started getting chest pains from the stress of everything having to be perfect or she has one of her meltdowns. FML
Today, I can no longer tolerate my mother-in-law. She's not a bad person, but anytime she opens her mouth it is only to criticize, chastise, scold, or blame me. My husband is too terrified of her to ask her to leave our home. FML
Today, I hate my toxic, bossy, narcissistic mother-in-law - who is currently visiting us. My husband spilt a little tea and almost had a panic attack over what to do if his mother found out. How did he turn out so normal despite having such a mum? FML
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ThorCTF 12
I'm sorry you had to go through that and still suffer from it dawg. I've gone through a similar situation, so if it's any consolation, it does get better with the right conditions, you can make it through.
Hangryko 32
I can relate. I'm so sorry your mom did this to you, too. I hope she's out of your life and that you have your husband's support.
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Hangryko 32
I can relate. I'm so sorry your mom did this to you, too. I hope she's out of your life and that you have your husband's support.
ThorCTF 12
I'm sorry you had to go through that and still suffer from it dawg. I've gone through a similar situation, so if it's any consolation, it does get better with the right conditions, you can make it through.
great_nate 26
Parenting is difficult. A lot of things need to be forgiven. But if this toxic behavior is still continuing into your thirties, it most likely will not change. You may have to confront her at the risk of losing her to save yourself, your spouse, and any children you have or may have in the future.