Today, it's been six months since I gave birth, and no matter how many times we've tried, my post baby body just doesn’t arouse my husband anymore. We still love each other, but for him to get a boner these days he has to watch a few minutes of porn first then keep his eyes closed during sex so he doesn’t go soft. FML
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Today, my boyfriend is quite capable of getting an erection. He gets one when we watch porn, when I talk dirty to him and do handjobs or blowjobs, but the moment I get naked for the main event, he goes as soft as a boiled noodle. I haven’t been properly shagged in 6 months. FML
Today, nine weeks after giving birth, my husband and I finally tried to have sex since a friend was watching the baby. Not only could I not get wet due to hormones, but as soon as he got back from buying lube, his drunk brother called needing a ride from the bar. No sex for me. FML
Today, and ever since I gave birth, my husband hasn’t wanted to touch me because according to him, he "saw it all coming out down there, blood and mucus and stuff. They had to sew back together" and he can’t handle "putting his penis back in there." The birth was six months ago, I'm back to normal now. FML
Today, my husband woke up with the first boner he’s had in almost 6 years. He yelled for me to join him so we could have sex again like the old days, but by the time I was finished on the toilet and raced to get to him with my pants still round my ankles, he'd gone soft. We’re only in our 30s. FML
Today, marks the sixth month in a row my husband of two years refuses to have sex with me. I've shaved everything, I lost weight to try to be more shapely, I do more chores, work, and go to school. I can't even get him erect with a BJ. I don't know what else to do. FML
Today, after giving birth, my wife was put on the sex ban until she heals. The thing is she has a high sex drive and is now horny, cranky, while also post surgery and also breastfeeding. I try to sexually satisfy her in other ways, but she's a nightmare to be with until we can have full sex again. FML
Today, after 5 years of marriage, my once-gym-mad husband is now so unfit that even standard missionary sex makes him so breathless and light headed, he has to stop in case he passes out. He hasn’t given me an orgasm in over a year and yet he insists nothing's wrong with him, and that I’m just being mean. FML
Today, me and my husband have been trying to get pregnant for so long that we have gone from, “Yay, sex everyday!” to “Damn, the schedule says we need to have sex again.” We don’t even really undress anymore, we just move clothes aside so the appropriate body parts are exposed. FML
Today, after a 3-month dry spell because I am recovering after having a baby, I was finally in the mood to get intimate with my husband. Foreplay was great, the sex was great until my back gave out right as I was about to cum. I can't move without intense pain. I just wanted to orgasm! FML
Today, I’m six weeks post-partum. I bought lingerie for the occasion and surprised my husband. It was going well until I took off my corset. He visibly recoiled but kept going to be nice. He insisted we keep the lights off because he “had a headache and his eyes hurt.” FML
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Chazzster 32
Before you give up or do anything rash, try talking to your Husband. What is it in specific is it that turns him off? By any chance was he in the delivery room? Did that experience have an impact on him or you? And, of course turn the lights down a bit - Not off and dark, just not blazing bright. Hopefully the two of you can work through this period and rekindle the sex drive. But without honest and non-judgmental conversation nothing gets worked out.
TomeDr 25
**** is NOT helping! It will only make him dislike your postpartum body more. I suggest marriage counseling.
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Hangryko 32
Leave him. He sounds shallow, immature, and is disrespecting you immensely. You brought a child into this world with him and he should be more mindful of that fact. He has some nerve treating you like that after what you've been through and considering he was the one who impregnated you. You deserve better.
treehead42 10
People are fast to say "leave them" to every issue. A person can't control what they're attracted to, him having issues is a valid problem, not shallow immaturity. If they had a great relationship from before the baby (and maybe still do other than the sex problem) I believe in their ability to figure this out together!
Hangryko 32
Certainly, they can try to work this out together through therapy. Perhaps he's having mental health issues after the birth of their baby. I just can't help but see the major red flags in OP's post, especially since her husband hasn't done anything more than watching **** and shutting his eyes for months. There's still so many questions about their situation.
GalaxyGirl1123_fml 14
What surprises me is having sex only six months after giving birth. That's so hard on the body! Likely painful! I hope there's no forcing happening :/
ChipBoundary 9
Um, the wait time on sex is 4-6 weeks for any delivery method. If you're still in pain/rough shape after six months, you need to see your doctor because something isn't right.
ChipBoundary 9
How dare he treat you like that??? You do realize an erection is not something you can just will in or out of existence. If he's not physically attracted, then he's not. You can't make him be. He should be respectful and kind about it, though
RichardPencil 32
That's why most people have sex in the dark. Anyone who is attractive enough to have sex with the lights on is making ****. The rest of us need to give up on the visual aspect of boinking.
Anzubar007 4
I'm glad you're back, I missed your comments.
bleachedraven 14
🤣🤣🤣 he's not wrong
Marcella1016 32
“Anyone who is attractive enough to have sex with the lights on is making ****.” Holy shit I need to check my room for hidden cameras!
RichardPencil 32
If you find them, send me some clips. I'll let you know if they're making it on to the web.
TomeDr 25
**** is NOT helping! It will only make him dislike your postpartum body more. I suggest marriage counseling.
Chazzster 32
Before you give up or do anything rash, try talking to your Husband. What is it in specific is it that turns him off? By any chance was he in the delivery room? Did that experience have an impact on him or you? And, of course turn the lights down a bit - Not off and dark, just not blazing bright. Hopefully the two of you can work through this period and rekindle the sex drive. But without honest and non-judgmental conversation nothing gets worked out.
randybryant799 21
That's just wrong. If he can't get it by up because he loves you then I can't imagine having sex with him. For him to blame your body is completely unfair and ridiculous.
ChipBoundary 9
Getting it up has absolutely nothing to do with love. Physical attraction is the only thing that does that.
Doom_Kitty 14
Actually it hasn't neccessarily to do with you but more with the baby. Some men do have struggles to view mothers as sexual beings. Maybe it's that and he just doesn't know it? When you still love each other i'd definitely try therapy before leaving him.
Laura Taylor 2
My ex used to go soft during sex. Turns out, he's gay. 🤷
CTscan 8
my gf isn't the most beautiful girl in the world but I love her immensely and I have no issue getting it up when she wants to go
Yummi_913 18
I second the suggestion for therapy. It's not uncommon for some new father's to also be affected by things like postpartum depression - which can cause erectile dysfunction, lack of libido, and other issues. It wouldn't hurt to get some professional insight if something might be going on.