Today, I had to sit and listen in mortification as my mother tearfully told our therapist how much sleep she loses over my being morbidly obese. She doesn't seem to care that I'm body positive and happy with the way I am. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, my morbidly obese mother gave me an angry lecture at dinner, saying without any trace of irony that my vegetarian diet is "unhealthy and utterly unacceptable". FML
Today, I told my mom that I think I’m anorexic and she told me she didn’t care. When I asked why, in disbelief she replied, "Honey, you are 5’3 and over 350 lbs, at this point you NEED to be anorexic." FML
Today, after I skipped dessert for the third day in a row, my mom cornered me and accused me of being anorexic. I'm actually not far off being clinically obese and I'm just trying to diet, but nothing I say will convince her. She wants me to see a psychiatrist about a disorder I don't even have. FML
Today, I was told how cruel and selfish I am for rubbing my weight loss in my mom’s face. I’ve literally begged my mom to walk, jog, workout with me for months. She went exactly once. She complained the whole time, then called me a bitch for finishing my run while she sat in the car. FML
Today, I found out my mother-in-law is trying to force me to lose weight, even though I am trying, and have a medical condition. FML
Today, I finally broke down and told my mom that I'd relapsed with my eating disorder. She told me to quit whining and eat a burger, because she didn't want to pay for another therapy session. FML
Today, I told my mom that I'm bulimic and have been for a few years, and that I needed help. She responded by saying, "Well that's clearly not working for you. Why don't you try anorexia?" She then patted me on the head, smiled, and walked away. FML
Today, I told my mom I lost 30 pounds because of an eating disorder. She told me to keep up the good work. FML
Today, I overheard my ripped, handsome, genetically perfect brother telling my mom how "fat people" make him "nervous". I have only recently accepted my weight, after struggling for years. I now understand why my brother rarely talks to me. FML
Today, I found myself crying in the bathroom because I started to feel lonely and depressed. My mother came into the bathroom, hearing me cry and gave me an hour long speech about what a beautiful human being I am… And to not forget to lose weight. FML
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Thaylok 17
She is good with her size/weight/shape and Mom isn't.
mourka 5
What in the world is body postive?
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Comments (8)
mourka 5
What in the world is body postive?
Thaylok 17
She is good with her size/weight/shape and Mom isn't.
Justkidding100 41
don't listen to the YDI. It's your life not her's. hating how you look won't make you skinny it'll only make you depressed. if you're healthy she can **** off
BloodyButUnbowed 32
Old doctor joke: Q: What do you call a morbidly obese person who's also perfectly healthy? A: Young.
JuneBleeds4 20
I think a little more context is needed here. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being body positive and I'm all for it. Unless, of course, there's a health concern. Was your mom saying she was worried about your health, or just how you look? Has your mom spoken to you about it before therapy and could therapy her last attempt to get you understand her concerns?
Rake 18
I think the main question is if she is worried about how you look (Non of her business) or about your health. It's great you are body positive, but you should also think about the health tool over of your choices.
boilerdude 4
Its one thing to be body positive, but if youre obese, her every concern is valid.
longnight83 9
I know you list yourself as morbidly obese, but there's context I'm missing here. Is your mom so troubled because of her expectations of you and wanting you to look/act a certain way, or is it because your health impacts her living situation? Example: my stepmother is morbidly obese. She's generally happy with things, but her health is terrible, and point blank she is a burden to everyone around her, because she won't get up and do things for herself, has everyone else cover her chores, and only moves around to do her work-at-home job. Her weight affects her balance and ability to move safely, which makes her clumsy, and we're constantly dealing with her breaking things, dropping things, or falling and hurting herself. We're stuck for now due to mutual financial reliability, but she is VERY MUCH in trouble once I move out, and we're all otherwise just waiting for her to fall, break her hip, and end up permanently in a nursing home due to immobility. I don't know that this matches you, but fact is, EVERYONE in her life loses sleep and feels concerned, anxious, or stressed over her weight, regardless of her own body positivity or happiness with her life like this, because we're all negatively affected by her physical inability. I would say to take an honest look at your mom's concerns. If it's about your appearance and her expectations, then FYL. If it's about the effects of your lifestyle on her own, then I give a GENTLE YDI. You're allowed to live the life you want, so long as it affects only you. This COULD affect her, depending on the answers.
Alize9022 1
depending on how big you are she may be right to be scared for you and your health.
Taurus_ChicKa 37
The question is, is OP really morbidly obese or is she heavier than her mother prefers? OP says she's fine with her body, so she could be a normal/healthy size and mom could be one of those overbearing parents that thinks her daughter should be the size of a chopstick. So this could go either way.