Today, I love my husband to death and want sex all the time, meanwhile he claims he loves me too but constantly turns down sex and has even managed to negotiate a promise that I won’t ask for sex on special occasions like his birthday. What am I doing wrong? FML
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Questions about your love life, a burnt turkey and the cousin who knows everything: Thanksgiving, a contact sport.
Today, my wife flat out refuses to have sex with me, ever. Most days it's "What have you done to earn sex?" then when I point out all I do (pay bills, work hard, take care of her, the kids and the house) it's, "Oh, so that means I owe you sex?" I even got that excuse on my birthday. FML
Today, my boyfriend hasn’t asked for sex in a while, like months, and when I asked him about it he admitted that every day I shout at him, snap at him or act bitchy about anything not his fault, he has a wank and goes to sleep rather than bother asking me for sex. FML
Today, my husband is pissed off, withholding affection, and not speaking to me. Why? I don't want to have sex with random men while he watches. FML
Today, after an argument, my husband bet he could go longer without sex than me, since he’s used to me turning him down for weeks at a time, it’s now been a month, and all I want to do is rub against him like a cat, while he’s walking around completely unbothered. He even ignores me when I’m naked. FML
Today, my husband seems to think sex once a month is adequate, and that it’s acceptable to nap on the sofa once he gets home from work, wake up for dinner, then go straight to bed. I also can’t speak to him while he’s eating, because he’s watching tv. I thought I had a husband, not a roommate. FML
Today, my wife snapped at me for never having sex with her. Any time I try, she tells me to stop, but apparently sometimes she wants me to ignore her pleas and keep going. Sometimes she actually wants me to stop, though, and she won't tell me how to differentiate the two. Help. FML
Today, my husband won’t have sex with me anymore because he can’t be bothered. That’s been his excuse for almost three weeks, but he insists there’s nothing wrong, he just doesn’t want to. For reference, we had sex almost every day before this, so this is very abnormal behavior. FML
Today, my wife always told me she loved sex too much to ever give it up. I don’t know what’s happened recently but she’s now angry for no reason, bitter at the world, makes me suffer just for existing, and yes, she’s cancelled all intimacy and sex for the foreseeable future. FML
Today, the man I love and have lived with for over 5 years told me, “If you were the wifey type, I’d totally put a ring on it and make you mine forever.” So basically, all the cooking, cleaning, massages, and sex are all for nothing? FML
Today, I told my husband that I didn't feel like sex. He said, "Funny, I didn't feel like driving to the store for your milkshake earlier, or digging up the flowerbed, or deep cleaning your car, but I did all that to make you happy. Don't I deserve a little reciprocation?" Jesus Christ, I married an asshole. FML
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FireMars 14
OK, I have a higher sex drive than my fiancè too, but that doesn't mean he doesn't love me or isn't attracted to me. The same goes for your husband. We get taught that women are ones that don't want sex, and men want it all the time but it's simply not the truth. You're either going to have to be OK with having sex when he wants it, or if you're really not OK with that; move on. As much as you love him, your happiness and pleasure does matter. Although, you should've know about your sex drive differences by now, assuming you've been together a while before marriage, of course. People tend to paint the one with the higher sex drive as the bad guy; the one that should understand, but your feelings are just as valid. I have issue with him making you promise not to ask to have sex on special occasions though, I would personally sit down and talk to him about that.
Jon Tessler 14
does he suffer from depression? has he been checked for low testosterone levels? there are plenty of reasons why he doesn't want sex that can be improved with medical intervention. make some appointments for him, and go with him.
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Comments (22)
Aurora25 29
not everyone has a high sex drive 🙄
RagnarZ33 2
99% of the time it's not about the sex it's about the physical connection.
FireMars 14
OK, I have a higher sex drive than my fiancè too, but that doesn't mean he doesn't love me or isn't attracted to me. The same goes for your husband. We get taught that women are ones that don't want sex, and men want it all the time but it's simply not the truth. You're either going to have to be OK with having sex when he wants it, or if you're really not OK with that; move on. As much as you love him, your happiness and pleasure does matter. Although, you should've know about your sex drive differences by now, assuming you've been together a while before marriage, of course. People tend to paint the one with the higher sex drive as the bad guy; the one that should understand, but your feelings are just as valid. I have issue with him making you promise not to ask to have sex on special occasions though, I would personally sit down and talk to him about that.
Natalie Dempster 3
Literally couldn’t have said it any better! YES.
RichardPencil 32
Too much teeth.
Vian Valiant 5
do you think she has ****** Dentata?
RichardPencil 32
It's possible. That would be twice as scary!
Becky Samuel 6
It doesn't sound like you have a lot of respect for *his* sexual needs. Pressuring someone into sex isn't cool. The *only* sort of consent that matters is enthusiastic consent, do you really want to have sex with someone you claim to love while they're not into it and probably resenting you for it?
rgkkk 17
You don't have to have sex each time your partner wants. But you shouldn't avoid having it at all, unless there is some valid reason. Otherwise it's definitelly not fair to your partner.
rgkkk 17
Nothing. He's probably asexual or has some problem that kills his sex drive. It's up to him, if he really loves you. Either he should confess or get help
Silver_helmet 10
Get him to counseling and therapy. This will hurt you - and then your marriage. Hopefully he accepts to acknowledge how it hurts you.
poeserpursche 11
Maybe it's time for a diet?
Jon Tessler 14
does he suffer from depression? has he been checked for low testosterone levels? there are plenty of reasons why he doesn't want sex that can be improved with medical intervention. make some appointments for him, and go with him.
Shzusuziq11 12
talk him into visiting a doctor to make sure it's not a medical problem...
geerod 16
Love him to death literally maybe it will happen ! otherwise negotiate an open relationship to get what you need/want.