Today, my husband seems to think sex once a month is adequate, and that it’s acceptable to nap on the sofa once he gets home from work, wake up for dinner, then go straight to bed. I also can’t speak to him while he’s eating, because he’s watching tv. I thought I had a husband, not a roommate. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, I talked to my husband about his lack of interest in sex. Apparently his definition is polar to mine; his is along the lines of cuddling. Not only did I wait until marriage to have sex with this man, apparently he prefers a permanent roommate without benefits. FML
Today, it took me two hours to put all the kids to bed, so all I wanted to do was watch TV but my husband, who'd spent all that time asleep on the sofa, started pestering me for sex like he thought he deserved it after I'd asked him for help 3 times before just doing all the work myself. FML
Today, my husband and I have officially become that couple that has to schedule sex. Between his working, my going back to school, raising kids, doing housework and homework, we just haven’t had time. Last night we tried to be spontaneous and get it on. We both fell asleep. FML
Today, after an argument, my husband bet he could go longer without sex than me, since he’s used to me turning him down for weeks at a time, it’s now been a month, and all I want to do is rub against him like a cat, while he’s walking around completely unbothered. He even ignores me when I’m naked. FML
Today, on our honeymoon, we’ve only had sex twice. Meanwhile, my husband has masturbated to porn at least once a day since we've got here, and it’s super obvious because he gets sleepy as hell after sex or a wank, while I’m left frustrated with nothing to do except watch Netflix and start drinking before noon. FML
Today, I told my husband I was horny and wanted to get it on. He agreed but first he had to finish the chapter he was reading, watch his show on Netflix, argue with strangers on Facebook, then do his workout. He had the nerve to cop an attitude when I was no longer in the mood. FML
Today, my husband asked if we could have more sex, because we spend every day together, but if he wanted celibacy, he’d have stayed single and spent time with his friends. He then pulled out a diary proving we’ve only had sex twice this year. I was completely unaware it was so infrequent. Whoops. FML
Today, my husband called me a nympho after I told him I'd ideally like us to have sex more than once a month. FML
Today, was my first day off in almost a month. My husband and I spent all morning arguing, then he left to his job saying he wouldn't be back tonight. Apparently I'm being neglectful because I don't have the energy for sex after being the only one working full time, cooking, cleaning, and running errands. FML
Today, it's been about two months since I made my husband sleep in the spare room after an argument. I invited him back to our room after two nights but he refused. Since then he’s moved a TV, Xbox, fridge and new armchair into the spare room, and put a lock on the door only he has a key for. I’ve barely seen him. FML
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meisiemeisie 8
He sounds depressed. You should talk to him about it.
Yudith 28
If your husband is always tired, it might be some health issue. Talk to him until he agrees to see a doctor. If he forgets his appointment, talk to him again.
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Yudith 28
If your husband is always tired, it might be some health issue. Talk to him until he agrees to see a doctor. If he forgets his appointment, talk to him again.
meisiemeisie 8
He sounds depressed. You should talk to him about it.
sarsuela 29
Why can't you speak to him in the morning? Is he leaving really early? This might explain why he is so tired in the evenings.
FrankHotpants 31
That’s not good. It’s time to tell him that now. Regardless of how “hard” you work, no spouse should treat you like that.
Warp1978 15
These are classic signs of depression, I know because this was me last year cold, distant, non communicative. Ask him to talk to you about whats wrong and listen to what he has to say. I cannot recommend therapy enough either. Good luck to you
andrewgr 4
First, I'll echo what everyone else has said about depression. I used to think that depression always looked like someone being really sad and mopey, but that's not at all true. It presents in many ways, including (in my case) being cranky and irritable. Excessive sleeping and lack of energy are very big clues, so seriously, do what you can to get him to talk to a specialist. Second, I recommend reddit's /r/deadbedrooms. They would be a good source of support while waiting for your husband to get his depression under control (if that is indeed the problem). Otherwise, they're a source of a *ton* of experience with marriages that have basically non-existent sex, and they can offer perspective, advice, stories, etc.