Today, I told my unemployed boyfriend to pick a town anywhere in the country that he thinks he can find work in. I offered to find myself a job there, find a flat, and pay for rent, bills, and food while he looks. He said I was selfish for wanting him to hurry up. It's been three years. FML
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A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, my boyfriend has been unemployed for over six months. He has applied EVERYWHERE with no luck, but he also has the opportunity to start his own business. Instead, he just spends his time sitting in front of the TV all day long. I'm starting to believe he is not a driven man, and I hate that. FML
Today, I got offered an interview for a job after months of unemployment. It's a three-month contract, three hours away from where we live. My boyfriend's reaction was to tell me to move out and take our hamster with me. FML
Today, my boyfriend sits in an empty apartment, complaining about it being a rat hole. HE picked the place, HE refuses my help to decorate, as well as my offer to get his stuff from the old place, and yes, he could totally afford something better. But sure, his life is shit. FML
Today, my father told me to "go get a job." He has been unemployed for three years. FML
Today, I found out my boyfriend is cheating on me. His excuse was that I never had time for his needs anymore. He’s unemployed but I guess me working and studying to get my degree so we could move out of his parents’ house was too much. Now I have no place to go. FML
Today, my boyfriend told me he needed to reconsider coming to see me for financial reasons. I'm the one paying for the airfare, giving him a place to stay, and covering his expenses while he's here. FML
Today, I had to choose between staying with my boyfriend and moving out to a better job. I chose my boyfriend. He promptly left me because I didn't take the job. FML
Today, marks two years since me and my boyfriend refused to apply for jobs because we wanted to “pursue our dreams.” We are currently unemployed and frustrated, while our friends make six figures. FML
Today, the guy I've been dating said we couldn't see each other anymore because he needed to focus on his career. He's unemployed. FML
Today, during an argument, my boyfriend had the nerve to tell me he'll make more than me at his new job that he starts next week. He can't keep a job for more than six months. I've been working at my job for over two years. FML
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real life problems 26
Why are you dating a loser?
Earl_KarmasBitch 36
You've been more than reasonable. If you are at the point where you think this is FMLable you really need to decide if it is worth staying with him.
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RinoaHeartilly 36
He's using you. It's doubtful he actually cares about you, because no one would do that to someone they truly care for. You've waited long enough for him to change. Time to leave.
MitiMiki 16
He may be dealing with depression and/or anxiety, among other things. A lot of people here are quick to say "dump him", but that is not how we treat people we love. Relationships are not all sunshine and roses and communication is important. His reaction to your suggestion strongly points toward some form of mental health issue. Have a gentle conversation and steer him toward seeking some help.
almost_there44 26
Shut the hell up!! Now everything is always blamed on depression and anxiety. He's lazy as **** and she needs to leave his ass.
d3rpb0t 10
Actually, I said what I said as someone who IS unemployed (for longer than op's boyfriend might I add), and DO understand the potential for anxiety. Fact of the matter though, is that relationships take a certain level of commitment on BOTH sides, so if you're not prepared for that you need to get yourself to a level where you are first. That's not to say you should never lean on your partner, but there is a HUGE difference between getting help from someone and having your responsibilities handled for you for 3 years.
WeirdUS 30
True but three years and his response stop rushing him doesn’t sound like he’s depressed. At this point it’s definitely hurting the significant other for having to support him.
SneezyBear 27
OP is already being far more supportive than any of us would be. Disabilities are not an excuse to be a leech.
LuLu Walker 3
You may be absolutely correct, but as someone with managed but extreme depression and anxiety, staying only enables him. The relationship doesn't have to end, but the inequality and lack of a plan to change needs to be over yesterday.
OneGuySixDemons 23
Ex
RichardPencil 32
You need to proactively pick a town in the Friend Zone and send him there on a one-way ticket, then you need to move on and start living a real life.
acmariner99 25
Run ... just run.
Agent JPN 9
It's been 3 years... you know he is never going to try and find a job as long as he can mooch off of you. Dump him faster than yesterday's hit single (you know... like that Canadian man-boy)
Justine Malang 16
Wow he's very very very very very very lazy and irresponsible.
Joe_192164358 3
Time to move on.
lucasj23 11
why should he work? apparently you dont mind him not working since its been 3 years. ydi
Celestyna 16
A bunch of ignorant ***** here, it took my partner three years to find a job too and he was ******* looking, but where I live you need intense qualifications, even for cleaning jobs you need diplomas in sanitisation etc. He is employed in full time work now, but there is more to life than being with someone for their money. Stop being a bunch of gold diggers and love them for who they are, not for what they bring home.
almost_there44 26
Girl, did he call you back yet? This clearly wouldn't be a FML if the boyfriend had been ACTIVELY trying to get a job for 3 years. But since you're so set on putting yourself on a pedestal you clearly missed the point. Clap for yourself, Gertrude.
thelittlem 15
um it clearly says he's not looking. idiot.