Today, I got into a heated argument at a restaurant with a guy I am seeing because he refused to let me pay for the bill and I thought it was sexist. When he finally agreed, I gave the waiter my card, only to have him return a minute later telling me it was declined. FML
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Today, I told a guy that I only see him as a friend. He ordered separate checks because, “I’m not giving boyfriend benefits to a girl who won’t make me one.” I hadn’t brought my card because he always pays for my meal. The restaurant held my phone as collateral until I Ubered 10 miles away to get my card. FML
Today, I went on a date with a guy who seemed to be quite the gentleman. I was proven wrong when he told me to "shut it" during dinner, stiffed me on the bill, and then left me at the restaurant so he could get his own taxi home. FML
Today, I was on a first date. When the bill came, he refused to pay for my $6 salad. I had to go ATM-hunting to pay for my $6 salad. FML
Today, while paying for dinner, my card declined and my date immediately left. The waitress then ran my card again successfully. FML
Today, a guy invited me to a first date at a new restaurant. I was going to pay my way, but when he saw how steep the bill was, he insisted that I pay for his meal too, to prove I'm a "real feminist". FML
Today, I went on a date that went well, until the bill came and she quickly shoved it in my direction, then went to the loo. Rude, but I thought nothing of it… until our waiter took pity and told me I’m the fourth guy she’s had this week who'd been made to pay for her. I paid half, then went home. FML
Today, I went on a dinner date with the guy I like. He ate all his food then started eating off my plate, going on to eat over half of my food. When the bill came, he made me pay for it. FML
Today, my date mugged me, just minutes after I paid our bill at the restaurant. FML
Today, I went to a restaurant with my boyfriend. After dessert, he went to the bathroom so I quickly called the waiter over and paid the bill, thinking it was a nice gesture. When he returned, he broke up with me for "emasculating" him. FML
Today, I went on a date at a restaurant with a guy. When he promised I wouldn't have to pay the bill, I didn't think he meant we'd be dining and dashing. FML
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organismal 0
girl, it's just polite, classy, traditional. get over yourself it's nothing to get in a heated argument about, either. come on, if you offer to pay half and he declines, accept graciously. it makes you seem like less of a bitch.
britches 0
Wow...there's really no need to get into a heated argument about it.
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Stunt_fml 5
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#5: Stop being ignorant and foolish. You're ignorant to think that a man paying is customary. You're foolish because you beleive men should. I feel sorry for you. OP: Stop holding yourself back with your prejudice and bias against "sexism." It happens. Keep playing that card, you'll be restricted by a thicker glass ceiling than you ever thought existed. Even men have to fight tooth and nail with other men in a man's world; no one deserves anything special simply because they're a woman. You're a fool for thinking he was being rude, and got shafted for your inconsiderate rudeness yourself. Good job.
Cittenscollar 0
You fail at detecting sarcasm.
FML_addictO_O 0
wth? how is that at all sexist? he was just being polite. i suppose you'd have been equally as pissed if he just expected you to pay for it..
alex_vik 1
******* feminists. You all need to go die in a hole. Every time a guy tries to be courteous to you, it's always "WAAH HE'S SEXIST HE'S HOLDING THE DOOR OPEN/TRYING TO PAY FOR ME/JUST BEING AN OVERALL NICE GUY WAAH". YDI for sure.
Person_Man 0
i agree! the world doesnt need these f***ing feminists!
Delilahlilah 0
Feminists aren't all like that. I think feminists just want girls to be equal to men because so many men still believe they're better. My father and my older brother are like that. Hmph.
bitterpill1 0
oh screw you delilah no men are seriously like that. they are just joking. if they are serious, then its not so much as to think the have 10x as much power. **** feminazis they should all catch their butch faces on fire.
alex_vik 1
Well, OP's name is "feminist", so that's why I said "feminist".
lmmmr 0
Umm, no, that is not feminism. Read a dictionary.
xirrashunal 0
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I refused to ever let my first boyfriend pay for me. We sometimes banter a little about it, but nothing serious. I totally see where you're coming from; like I said I never used to let a guy pay for me or even hold open the door because I felt like I was completely capable of doing those things and I didn't need a man for them. But really, he's not being sexist. He's trying to be nice and treat you well. I've lightened up on that kind of stuff; as long as the guy doesn't expect sexual favors in return we're good.
jnic 0
You have great points in theory. However in real life the door holding thing doesn't apply in most cases. I see people of all ages, genders, etc holding doors open for other people... and what are you going to do if someone opens the door in front of you? Just stand there defiantly? I think it's awkward and more trouble than it's worth, and you really don't know if their motives include just being polite or being ridiculously old-fashioned and only holding the door because you're a woman. If you were in a group of people including men and someone made a point of only holding the door open for YOU and the other women, then I might turn them down, because then it's painfully obvious.
fxdxhk90 0
Completely your fault. Woman always do this. If a man doesn't pay, he's a cheapskate, if he does pay he's a sexist. Feminism is ok, but your an idiot.
Piemonkey 0
Wow, you're one of those feminazis, aren't you? Believe it or not, when guys pay, it's not a form of oppression. It's just being courteous. No sexism involved. Frankly, you were the sexist one there. Displaying a distrust for the male gender while searching for "equal" status where the female had the final say and had to fill the man's stereotypical role instead of letting a guy who is interested in you be courteous.
barfobulator 0
Wouldn't it be hilarious if this post ended with: "Then he refused to pay for me since I had made such a stink about it. He paid for his meal and waited in the car."
Iwannabetreo 11
You suck. Sorry, but you do.
songbird_fml 0
It's not sexist, it's NICE. Females like you are the reason there are so few gentlemen left these days...
Yulia_fml 0
I honestly think it was selfish of you to argue. If you want to prove that women can pay just as well as men can, you could split the bill halfway - that's true equality. You were just arguing for the upper hand. Men happen to like impressing women by showing their financial stability. You probably didn't think about his desires, did you? You just selfishly argued to pay the entire thing.