Today, I asked my sister why she doesn’t visit our dad in hospital anymore. He’s been in a coma for months, but what she said was just nasty. Apparently, if she wanted to talk to a vegetable, she’d yell into the fridge once a week, at least it would save her the long bus ride. FML
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Fall
Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, nine months after changing my entire life when my father had a stroke and I became his carer full time, I called my sister to talk about some his irrational behavior. All I got in response was, "I just watched a sad movie, I can't deal with this right now." FML
Today, I visited my Mum. She has invited me to visit her before, but kept cancelling whenever I tried to arrange an actual visit. I finally went over anyway, only to find her in a soiled nappy, room in ruins, with kidney failure-induced dementia. Sometimes they hide it well over the phone. FML
Today, I always wondered how my younger sister maintained a good relationship with her dad, as she knows I was horribly abused by him for several years. Now, I found out that she “doesn’t agree” with it, and thinks it was all my imagination. FML
Today, I called my mom to let her know that my father, her ex-husband, suffered a series of mini strokes. Her reply was essentially, "Oh that sucks. Are you still taking your grandmother to lunch sometime this week?" Dad lives halfway across the country. FML
Today, my wife, who recently had cancer, made an offhand comment that my 30-year-old sister took offense to. Instead of saying something, she went and called our parents. My dad then called and yelled at me for 5 minutes about it. FML
Today, a woman reached out to me on Twitter to ask me if my dad was OK, since she talks to him every day and they haven't talked in a few days. She also doesn't know if he's in prison or not. My father left when I was 3, and I haven't talked to him in months. FML
Today, I went to visit my father. His new wife has hoarded out our childhood home nearly to the point of it being unliveable. That’s pretty funny, considering my dad used to literally beat us if our rooms weren’t clean or we left dishes in the sink. FML
Today, my dad had a midlife crisis in the grocery store over his football career in high school. So he decided pelting me with vegetables and fruits would be a good idea. FML
Today, I went over to confront my parents about how my siblings always get to visit and all I do when I’m over is work on their house or take care of grandma. My mom was very upset. Then she snuck out with my sister, leaving me to take care of grandma until she got back. FML
Today, my father verbally abused me for visiting my sick maternal grandfather, saying I lack common sense and intellect. He was angry that my cousin, who was the driver for the day, had her time wasted, despite the fact that my cousin planned to be with me the whole day. FML
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RichardPencil 32
That's so mean. But kinda funny, too, you gotta admit. You should be ashamed for laughing at that. I am.
Rake 18
Your sister is obviously in a lot of pain. The wording of the reaction shows her frustration from not being able to communicate with her dad. And instead, just watch him laying there behind her reach. What she said is not horrible, it's a cry of frustration and pain, treat it like that. Help her talk about it, help her face her feeling, and to handle the pain. There is also no shame in going to therapy for that. The situation you describe is probably not easy on you her or anyone else in your family. Be there for each other, it will be worth it in the long run.
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RichardPencil 32
That's so mean. But kinda funny, too, you gotta admit. You should be ashamed for laughing at that. I am.
randybryant799 21
That's awful that she would say that.
Rake 18
Your sister is obviously in a lot of pain. The wording of the reaction shows her frustration from not being able to communicate with her dad. And instead, just watch him laying there behind her reach. What she said is not horrible, it's a cry of frustration and pain, treat it like that. Help her talk about it, help her face her feeling, and to handle the pain. There is also no shame in going to therapy for that. The situation you describe is probably not easy on you her or anyone else in your family. Be there for each other, it will be worth it in the long run.
Anderling 33
This. Grief sucks, and sometimes it can make people irrationally angry and lash out. I can’t say for sure that that’s what is going on here, but it’s a possibility.
Pawlys Bartys 11
she's kinda right
Dirtysalamander1 13
we can't choose blood related but we can choose who is family.