Today, I visited my Mum. She has invited me to visit her before, but kept cancelling whenever I tried to arrange an actual visit. I finally went over anyway, only to find her in a soiled nappy, room in ruins, with kidney failure-induced dementia. Sometimes they hide it well over the phone. FML
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Halloween
A failed costume, stolen candy and a very real scare: Halloween, the one night when fear is allowed.
Today, while staying at my mother’s house, she messaged me at 5:45 a.m. saying she “desperately” needed my help. I rushed over to her, only to find out she'd lied. She actually wanted me to help clean her garbage dump of a room. I’m starting to remember why I don’t visit often. FML
Today, I visited my Aunt in hospital. Another patient got jealous, so she threw a tantrum. She threw things at us, pulled her drip out, threw herself to the floor, screamed, pounded the floor with her fists and pissed herself. My aunt is still waiting for a new room, and the staff blame me. FML
Today, my mom has gotten to the stage of her Alzheimer’s where every time I visit she thinks I’m a burglar, and screams and cries until I leave. My dad does his best, but I just want my mom back. FML
Today, my mum staggered home, piss drunk. When I tried to walk her to her room, she shoved me away and cursed at me for being a "goody two-shoes". She then slurred, "I fucked your mum", and informed me that my mum is a skank. That's good to know, mum. FML
Today, my mother-in-law moved in with my husband and I, where she shits the bed and herself. There's a waiting list for the nursing home, so in the meantime I’m cleaning up her shit and she isn’t even my mother. FML
Today, I missed my chance to see my mum for the last time because my son is such a selfish druggie, he couldn’t be bothered to stay sober long enough to pass on the message from the hospital that she was deteriorating fast, and likely only had a few hours left. FML
Today, my mom once again cried that I never come to visit her. I’ve tried, but her house is just unbearable. It’s always no less than 80°F inside, and she also refuses to clean up. She just burns multiple candles and air fresheners all day to mask the smell. She refuses any cleaning help I offer. FML
Today, I visited my grandmother who has dementia. She thought I was my father, and told me that I should never have married my mother, let alone have had children with her. FML
Today, I finally convinced my mum to take me to a psychologist. As soon as he sat me down and asked me how I was doing, my mum burst into tears and went on a rant about how her life is terrible and she regrets everything. I was asked to sit in the waiting room. She used up my whole hour. FML
Today, I went to visit my parents. Dad went on a religious tirade, and Mum got sick of him and pelted a Brazil nut at his head. Dad then lost his shit, and told Mum to go to her room and pray. I now remember why I moved out of home in the first place. FML
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GoogieWithers 25
I hope your Mum has carers or nurses to help her. Get yourself some therapy, too.It is horrible seeing a loved one like this.
J_Free_Woods 29
Make sure that your mom’s insurance has not lapsed, if so fill out the necessary paperwork. Make sure to fill out the necessary paperwork so she can get whatever the UK’s equivalent of social security is if it has not been done. Check her finances. Get her to a doctor. A nephrologist should be able to tell you what stage her kidney failure is, and can it be fixed. She will also need a primary doctor. I am so sorry. I am going based on stuff I saw when people would find their relatives in disarray with dementia after they put their parents they physically would not care for in a nursing home (I live in the United States). Most other countries just get a nurse and if possible work from home. good luck.
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GoogieWithers 25
I hope your Mum has carers or nurses to help her. Get yourself some therapy, too.It is horrible seeing a loved one like this.
J_Free_Woods 29
Make sure that your mom’s insurance has not lapsed, if so fill out the necessary paperwork. Make sure to fill out the necessary paperwork so she can get whatever the UK’s equivalent of social security is if it has not been done. Check her finances. Get her to a doctor. A nephrologist should be able to tell you what stage her kidney failure is, and can it be fixed. She will also need a primary doctor. I am so sorry. I am going based on stuff I saw when people would find their relatives in disarray with dementia after they put their parents they physically would not care for in a nursing home (I live in the United States). Most other countries just get a nurse and if possible work from home. good luck.