And a lot of people just like to alert the parents to their plans, anyway. "Hey, I'm gonna marry your daughter, okay?" -- not necessarily asking, but still letting them know and somewhat showing a desire for a blessing. [edit] No, it's not necessary, but it is considered respectful. Besides, we don't know if OP's girl's dad was doing some funky ass shit to make OP think he needed a blessing or he'd be dead.

Yeah, I dont really get it though. I wouldnt want my parents to know before I did, especially if I ended up saying no. Plus of course I would let me parents know as soon as he asked me so they were aware, so its not like theyre out of the loop But yeah i didnt think that the guy may be super intimidating and scary...

Way to be sexist? Yeah, well way to be a total bitch. He can be traditional if he wants. Just because you don't like it doesn't mean you have to call him sexist. For all you know, his girlfriend might have wanted him to ask the father first, or he might just be very family orientated. So you can quit trying to find a feminist act in everything and just accept that this probably wasn't this guy's fault. OP- This seems more like you're dodging a bullet to me. If it's only been two years and she's breaking up with you, she was obviously more interesting in having a husband than having you. People like her aren't worth your time.

Haha, I sometimes wonder how my father would react if he was asked for a blessing... GUESS THAT'S WHY YOU TRY TO GET THE PARENTS TO LIKE YOU BEFOREHAND... Also, yeah, I get the letting the parents know beforehand deal, because then if you do say no, EVERYONE's in awkward mode. There's also a possibility that the girl really respects her father... or that she's just plain "daddy's little girl" There is no doubt though that OP should explain the situation to her.

I dont think I was the one you were talking to, but after 6 months, youre either going to marry her or not, no matter what her fathers response was. Was he going to keep trying for the rest of his life and never marry her?

YDI. Shouldn't your girlfriend be the first to know about your plans to get married?? And how can her dad give his blessing when he doesn't know where her daughter stand on this issue??

YDI for wasting 6 months on her father. Show some respect and ask her straight. If you are not man enought to do that then you are no man. The father was right to be over protective - she'd be better of with a real man.

YDI. Should have asked her. It's up to her, not her father.

Well, you posted this on a site where your life is up for criticism, sooo... Why were you about to pop the question after having only been together a year and a half? That's really quick. Also, why didn't you ask her first, dipshit? You kind of deserve it.

About the OP oh buddy I feel for ya but when she was telling you it was over she didn't let you explain why you haven't asked her yet? I don't get that part of the story. I am usually against being old fashioned but I kind of like the getting the Dad's blessing tradition. Even though I always thought the feeling was mutual about getting married before you asked the Dad? Or you could choose to ask him first or not? I think it varies from where you live. My gf and I talk about marriage all the time. How we would want our wedding to be like, what kind of rings we would get etc. after only a little over 4 months of dating. But us lesbians are very clingy and jump way too fast lol. We haven't said yes yet we are waiting to see how a couple things work out. And my gf's parents are dead so I couldn't ask them 'whew' :)