While I support your decision to get the father's blessing in your pursuit of marriage, I believe you kind of deserve this result for not cluing your now ex-girlfriend about the situation. You wouldn't have to spoil the entire situation, but give her subtle hints about marriage or maybe take her to a jewelry store and get opinions about an engagement ring. Wet her appetite a bit and finally, regardless what the parents decide upon, pop the question. The biggest surprise should be how and where you decide to pop the question. Anyway, good luck on your new life of single living, OP. You may be better off this way because if she won't wait for you after two years, chances are you guys may have been divorced before long.

It's not sexist. Asking for a blessing is different than asking for permission! Although in this case, yes, six months is too long to wait for a grown woman's father to agree to a marriage! It is HER choice after all!

Awww, that's lame. I hope you told your girlfriend about her father not approving.

No. It's not sexist to choose not to tell your girlfriend you plan to propose. He wanted her dads blessing first which is _understandable_ to say the least. Regarding sammiches, it was just to show contrast between sexism and not being sexist. That said feminism is useless and dumb and it'll never be equal between genders for a number of reasons.

Maybe she didn't want to force him, and took his lack of asking her as a sign that he wasn't ready to settle down and a sign that she needed to move on. Let's say, for the sake of argument, that she DID plan on proposing to him. She would hint around first and judge his reaction. If he acted like it was an impossibility (little did she know the reason why), she may give up and 'take a hint'.

YDI for going to her father before her. Who are you intending to marry anyway? You're supposed to ask her and then you inform the families (not just the father) together afterwards. Fool.

YDI, it's quite disrespectful to her to ask her father before...

YDI for asking permission to her father.

that is soooo. not cool... you should've told her the reason y u didnt!

You deserve better if she's going to dump you for that after only two years, not like you'd been going out for decades. And as for all of these whiners who seem to think that you deserve it for asking her dad, what's wrong with OP's wanting to be on good terms with his potential wife's family? Maybe he was a good friend of the father? Sounds to me like she was impatient and childish tbh OP, get someone better. The one thing that might partially go to a YDI would be if you didn't try to explain to her that you were talking to her dad about it, but I find it hard to believe that you wouldn't try.