Actually it is still seen as very respectful to ask a girls father for permission to marry her. That doesn't make it sexest. There is nothing wrong with wanting to make the whole family happy.

You deserve it for asking her father. He's not involved in this decision, all you need to do is inform him after she has said yes or no. If a man ever asked me for my daughter's hand in marriage, I'd tell him to get the **** out of my house. This single act would ruin any chances of me liking him, the opposite of the intended effect. Treating a woman like she can't make her own decisions isn't respectful, it's demeaning and sexist.

The family doesn't HAVE to agree to a marriage, but I find most young (or stupid) people don't really comprehend that when you marry someone, you DO marry their family, whether you think so or not. You're essentially melding two families into one. Sure, sometimes people go against the odds, but failure to realize all this is one of the reasons so many marriages don't last any more! For the record, most married guys I know have asked the girl's father, at least casually, beforehand. Just to start out on the right foot.

okay after that long, you need to get over your dreams of a traditional proposal and just pop the question. it's more important that she consents, rather than him. you're not marrying her dad...

Shut up. It's courtesy and tradition. It's nothing sexist about it. However, this is: Back to the kitchen. Also OP what a ******* bitch, 2 years? That's nothing...

You don't need his blessing, although it's good that you tried to get it. If it's really that important and your girl can't understand that, then you don't need to marry her. Besides, it's only been 2 years.

if it meant that much to her she could ask him! I asked my husband to marry me after almost 2 years and he (obviously) said yes...was i supposed to ask his mother or something? each to their own but i still think the OP is a puss puss for not telling her, unless there is something totally wrong with him and the father of the girl thinks he's a schmuck!

Are you feeling well, Tyson? Why was there no demand for a "sammich?" Even if you don't feel like eating it, the bitch has to make one for you, right?

For me, this has nothing to do with feminism and everything to do with being my own woman. If my boyfriend asked my father before he asked me, he'd get an automatic no. My father would say no, too, because he knows how I feel about this. I would feel disrespected if the ability to make the initial decision was taken from me.

True, OP doesn't NEED the dad's blessing in most cases, but it is nice to have it. Maybe they're fresh out of college and would like the dad to at least help pay for the wedding. Also, has anyone thought of the fact that maybe the father is really conservative, and has raised a conservative daughter who won't get married without Daddy's blessing? Also, personally, my boyfriend and I have discussed marriage since, literally, the night we first went out, a few days before we decided to make our relationship official. I love the idea of getting married, and I love the idea of marrying him, but I don't want to rush into anything. It's not something we talk about regularly, just a topic that pops up occasionally. We've been going out for about 11.5 months, and I think it's way to early to be getting married, so the rule I've laid down for him is that I don't want him to propose until he's talked to my dad. I'm not really worried about getting my dad's blessing, but he is somewhat overprotective, as I am his only girl as well as the youngest sibling. I feel like asking my boyfriend to talk to my dad is a way to make him wait, because I feel like he's more likely to want to get married before I'm ready. I don't want it to be a sudden decision. If my boyfriend can gather his courage and talk to my father, then I'll know he's really serious about it.