Today, when I proposed to my girlfriend of 8 years, she said no because she thought we were moving too fast. FML
I agree, your life sucks (32033) - you totally deserved it (1503)
On 10/19/2009 at 3:10am - misc - by Anonymous (man) - Indonesia (Jawa Timur)
omg I know right! Jeez, what was the silly OP thinking. You should at least wait 15 years to propose then wait 5 more to actually get married, duhh.
#38 - On 10/19/2009 at 4:07pm by Sun_Kissed18
8 years is not really too fast. i know people who've gotten married after like a month and they've been married for a while.
After eight years maybe you should take the hint and stop wasting your life on her.
#5 - On 10/19/2009 at 10:09am by wellinever
Kinda' depends -- maybe she looks at, say, 7 of those years as friendship rather than relationship? Maybe YDI for not making your intentions clear sooner....
This girl is obviously holding you off...my guess is that she's just waiting for someone better to come along. Then she'll dump you.
#11 - On 10/19/2009 at 10:44am by bugmenotmofo
8 years of free milk is a lot of dairy product! Why screw it up with a purchase?
I went to a wedding yesterday. I don't know what the fuck you people are thinking, marriage sucks.
When she said "no," he should have said, "Just checking."
It's cool that some people don't like marriage, but most of us do.
#64 - On 10/20/2009 at 2:18am by JessiGoose
Not necessarily...sometimes people who have been together for that long (sometimes longer, even) hold off on marriage until both people are stable enough economically. There are other couples who never get married and stay together the rest of their lives and are perfectly happy.
#46 - On 10/19/2009 at 5:38pm by global_katie
You shouldn't ask people such things while they're driving a car at 100MPH.
#18 - On 10/19/2009 at 12:14pm by Dutch_vigilante
Different people work different ways. If she's not ready, she's not ready. 8 years can be considered fast to some people.
She's probably banging someone else. Cut your losses and move on.
#21 - On 10/19/2009 at 1:14pm by Alumnus_Vitae
Definitely banging someone else, probably multiple guys. All holes filled
#33 - On 10/19/2009 at 3:36pm by donkey_hang_down
woah hardcore ;-)
I bet the OP is going to screw her sisters, while the OPs Gf is going screw his brothers(and sister) so everyone wins!
She will probably bang his brother and his brothers friends while he is forced to watch
#68 - On 10/20/2009 at 10:58am by donkey_hang_down
i think u shud wait 1 more year and if its too fast then,, screw her!! (and her mom and her sister xD)
#22 - On 10/19/2009 at 1:29pm by sanem0808238036
How old are you?
If you started dating when you were like 14, (just guessing here because a of couples who have been dating this long and still aren't married starting dating when they were pretty young,) then maybe it really is too fast for her. I know I don't want to get married before a particular age, 8 years or not.
I was thinking the same thing.
Regardless of how long a couple has been together, it's not smart to get married before you're at least 25 and have your life together.
#26 - On 10/19/2009 at 1:57pm by moonlight_daze
Exactly. Some people just don't feel ready to get married before a certain age, even if they have been dating someone for a long time.
Other people don't want to get married until their "established" etc. Good job, maybe a home etc.
Then there are people who have no intention of ever getting married. Not to say they're not willing to commit to life to someone, it's possible they just don't feel the need to get a certificate from the state or from a priest to solidify there love for someone.
Time to end it.
8 years and that's too fast, probably a subtle way of her saying, "I don't want to marry you."
FYL, but move on.
#25 - On 10/19/2009 at 1:50pm by TheTruth1428
who the fuck cares about marriage? seriously... all it is, is the government and church acknowledging your relationship.
Well, it does come with a number of legal and financial benefits, particularly if children become involved. Coverage under the spouse's insurance and such.
Just saying.
I still respect the fact that marriage is not for everyone, and that it's not a requirement for a loving, long term or lifelong relationship.
Better that you find out her personality quirks now than later in life though.
#28 - On 10/19/2009 at 2:38pm by blastvortex
After 8 years, if she says no, you can pretty much bet she just doesn't want to marry you. Ever.
#29 - On 10/19/2009 at 2:47pm by MisterZzyzx
I would say it depends on how old you are now.
Although, it still may be a hint that she's waiting for someone else to come along.
Good luck OP.
#34 - On 10/19/2009 at 3:41pm by Always_Abby
Definitely break up with her. If she wouldn't want to get married after dating for 8 years then she probably never wants to actually commit to you, so you're better off just moving on. Hard I know, but that's for the best. You're better off with someone who actually wants to be married to you, not just get as close to marriage as possible without making any real commitment.
#35 - On 10/19/2009 at 3:44pm by israelnotjacob
He probably waited that long because he knows she likes to take things slow but he figured she would be ready after 8 years... guess not :/
#39 - On 10/19/2009 at 4:10pm by Sun_Kissed18
Statistics show that after 3 years, every year you are together the chances of you getting married just keep going down. If she doesn't want to marry you after 8 years, chances are she never will.
That sucks.
But that's probably just her excuse for not getting engaged instead of "I've been cheating on you"
She obviously doesnt want you.
Sorry
Who's saying anything about age? I've known people to date from the time they turned 10, and they're 19 now and still dating. Who's to say that these people aren't really really young? I turn my YDI on the commenters for judging.
#45 - On 10/19/2009 at 5:36pm by Clitastrophe
OP and his girlfriend were probably running away from the cops after being busted for drug trafficking. Obviously she couldn't stop to accept his proposal or else the cops would have beaten her face in with a club.
If you've been dating for eight years, maybe she didn't mean you were moving too fast as a couple. If you're younger than, say, 25, she might think you're too young to get married. Don't take things the wrong way at first glance.
#49 - On 10/19/2009 at 6:23pm by triplethreat13
Your ex-girlfriend I hope. Waste no more time with this one!
#52 - On 10/19/2009 at 8:47pm by yourkiddingright
Really? Shit man. Dump her, it doesn't seem you'll get anywhere with her soon.
#56 - On 10/19/2009 at 10:57pm by OmnomnomAPPLE
She might be scared. Try and talk to her about it.
I don't know your guys' situation so I can't tell. You can, though.
Definitely still pretty upsetting. You'd think you would have earned her trust (as in, she wouldn't be scared) after 8 years.
#57 - On 10/19/2009 at 11:02pm by DameGreyWulf
#13 I agree with you!!! you've been together for almost a decade and she thinks that marriage is moving too fast then you're obviously on two separate pages and I don't think that it's appropriate for you to keep lingering on her
#58 - On 10/19/2009 at 11:05pm by poeticvibez07
wasn't ready isn't an excuse!! if she weren't ready then she shouldn't had stayed w him for so damn long
#59 - On 10/19/2009 at 11:06pm by poeticvibez07
Okay, it's time to move on. Most women have an itinerary of a year. Within one year, you know if the guy is right for you or not. Perhaps she is afraid of commitment, perhaps you need to find other options...
Dude, your girlfriend blows. Eight years ain't too fast. I say you did the right thing. She's probably screwing her dad anyway.
she's either banging someone else or thinks she can do better than you, leave her ass
#69 - On 10/20/2009 at 11:27am by ZiggyMorrison
I would have never gotten married if it wasn't for the healthcare don't get me wrong I love my husband and will always be with him but I didn't need a ring or a legal contract to know that maybe she is some who likes to make the desition again every moring to stay forever and if so that mean more than any stupid wedding will ever mean
well , that is not always the situation , for example; they could of been off and on for 8 years , and had just recently got back together with her , and when he proposed she would of thought that was moving to fast, but I don't know him , and I don't know the whole story but what I do know is ; 8 years is long enough, and anyone who has some knowledge would know that.So, yes i agree. Your life does suck, and its truely sad to hear about things like this. I bet your heart broke, best of luck in the future though.
#74 - On 10/22/2009 at 11:09pm by twixbars13
if ur not married after EIGHT YEARS, then there's a problem
#76 - On 10/24/2009 at 7:37pm by Lagunaguitar
She doesn't think you're moving too fast, she just doesn't want to marry you.
#77 - On 10/24/2009 at 8:23pm by kennakatherine
