Today, I called my dad to ask why my university tuition had not been paid. He said that "my school was too expensive and he couldn't afford it." He then asked me if I would take in his mail while he was away. He was taking his new wife to Hawaii, apparently it's beautiful this time of year. FML
I agree, your life sucks (24891) - you totally deserved it (1323)
On 10/02/2009 at 1:18pm - misc - by ill (man) - Canada (Ontario)
what an asshole, well at least hes being nice to his wife lol first
#2 - On 10/02/2009 at 5:11pm by pyroanarchist23
Shouldn't be his responsibility to put his kid through college. My parents paid for their school, and I'm damn sure paying for mine. FYL for being spoiled and dependent. And #2..fail
I'm glad you find the fact that the OPs Dad values the life of some blonde bimbo over that of his own flesh and blood morally sound #98.
Your life sucks.
When you dad gets back, kick him in the balls so he won't reproduce anymore. And tell him just to spend money on your college instead of another child. :D
#3 - On 10/02/2009 at 5:11pm by Kappaa
Hawaii is always nice. I'm sort of sad to be going to college on the mainland.
#77 - On 10/03/2009 at 12:28am by island_gurl808
heaven forbid someone who has worked all their life and paid for their offspring their entire life doesnt continue to pay for them once theyre legally an adult and wants to actually do something for themselves.
sure, itd be great if he did pay for it, if he doesnt it doesnt mean hes an asshole either. welcome to life, sometimes you pay for shit yourself. get over it.
#83 - On 10/03/2009 at 3:06am by organisedchaos
I think the point here is that his Dad left him to believe that college would be paid for instead of telling him early enough that this semester he needs to pay for himself... -_-
#89 - On 10/03/2009 at 6:32am by Puolukka
You should be grateful that your dad would even consider paying. most people dont get that oportunity and have to pay themselves. get a job and stop being so selfish.
Do you live in a horrible land where logic has no meaning? School is more important than vacations. His dad's being selfish. You need to shut up and think about what kind of crap you post on here.
you are a moron. The OP isn't being selfish just because his dad was paying the tuition bill and then decided not to. its already october, so wtf is the OP going to do now for money? he might even get kicked out of college. his dad screwed him over. college tuition isn't "tee hee okay daddy i'll get a part time job at starbucks to pay my tuition!" no kid, it doesn't work that way.
I really hate when high schoolers try to give advice to older people when they have no clue what they're talking about.
#22 - On 10/02/2009 at 5:59pm by expen_dable
It sucks that his dad isn't paying. That's a lot of money to come up with, I would know, I pay for most of my own tuition. But it's not his dad's obligation to pay for his college, his dad deserves a vacation after spending the tens of thousands it takes to raise a kid to 18.
He's being selfish? his father is the selfish one.
If common sense is so 'common', why is it that so many people don't have it?
#49 - On 10/02/2009 at 8:15pm by NathanKett
I'm a teenager in college who works 30 hours a week and still can't afford school. This person is obviously trying to better their life so they don't depend on their parents forever, and parenting is for life. Not just until they're 18. He needs to take responsibility for his kid, and at least help a little.
#64 - On 10/02/2009 at 10:40pm by babygraprefruit
The problem with his dad is the suddenness of it, and the fact that he obviously does have money. So he's just deciding to screw with his son just for the heck of it. If his dad had told him from the beginning that he shouldn't expect financial support, then it's not the dad's fault. But obviously the dad had made a commitment of some kind and decided to just suddenly break it.
You don't know what kind of deal he had with his Dad. My parents told me that as long as I'm keeping my grades at a certain level my tuition will be paid for by them and I only have to cover other expenses like my phone bill, books, etc.
I plan on paying them back once I have my M.A. and start working full time, but they don't expect me to.
#90 - On 10/03/2009 at 6:35am by Puolukka
sofad15
How do you know OP didn't help? There is more to college cost than just tuition. Room+board, and food if you have to stay on campus. Rent and utilities if you have to stay off campus in an apartment. OP clearly doesn't live at home since they called their dad and had no idea of Dad's plans. Tons of different fees for different things. There are books to buy usually worth over 100 dollars each. I bought mine second hand for the cheapest I could find and still spent $250 and I'm only taking two classes at the moment.
Honestly, tuition is one of the smaller costs when you add all the rest of everything up.
#92 - On 10/03/2009 at 11:05am by boatkicker
the dad should have let his kid know that he wasn't going to pay the tuition before though, that would give the OP enough time to get a job and pay it off him/herself
#93 - On 10/03/2009 at 11:08am by flattummy
Oooo. Your dads an ass. He would rather take his wife somewhere rather than you get to go to school. Im sorry
#31 - ive been paying for my college on my own. granted, i'm going to community college, but i'm working a part-time job that is over 30 miles away just to get there and then 30 miles coming back. so most of my check goes to gas money. rather than expecting his dad to pay for it all (even if he offered), he should have some means or plan to at least help out when he can instead of keeping a financial burden on his father.
#20 - i agree with you completely
The jackasses saying that he should get a job and pay for it himself need to shut up. It's clear that his dad had been paying for it before and had made a commitment to pay for this year too. If the dad had at least made the effort of telling the kid beforehand that he wasn't paying then the he could have prepared for it by getting a job, loans or aid of some sort.
Getting a $50 000 fee dumped on you in October without any warning isn't fair however you look at it. The dad is a tool EOM.
#53 - On 10/02/2009 at 8:42pm by paivarotti
Why would he expect his dad to pay tuition all the time? If I were dad, i would personally chose to go to Hawaii instead of paying my son's bills. Shit, why sacrifice your life for someone who will bitch and take everything for granted anyway?
Yes, college education is expensive, but how about trying to get a scholarship, or find a job, take loans, whatever it takes?
Actually not a lot of people have to pay for college themselves. Their parents normally always help them. YDI
Wait, how is it a "YDI" if parents "normally always help them?"
#14 - On 10/02/2009 at 5:24pm by xxorganizedmess
I'll bet money you've never had to pay tuition yourself.
#66 - On 10/02/2009 at 10:45pm by babygraprefruit
Do you have any idea what college costs compared to a trip to Hawaii?
#11 - On 10/02/2009 at 5:17pm by someguy945
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WHY DOES EVERYONE ON HERE THINK THAT THEIR PARENTS SHOULD PAY FOR EVERYTHING. PAY FOR IT YOURSELF
So if your father said "Hey I'll pay for your tuition. Don't worry," and then blew it off, are you saying you wouldn't be pissed?
It's not about the fact that daddy's not paying for college. Its the fact that Dad said he would pay for college and blew it off.
#25 - On 10/02/2009 at 6:10pm by boatkicker
I THINK it's due to the fact that x years ago their parents decided it'd be fun to give raising a kid a shot. If you get a kid you're responsible for ensuring he/she succeeds in life. So yeah, that does include college or atleast you tell them in advance they'll need to chip in or pay it themselevs so they can get a student job. You do NOT tell your kid that when school's already started. And oh yeah, with the current economy I'm SURE he'll be able to find a great paying job instantly eh?
False, if you have a kid, you're responsible for raising him properly, whether he succeeds in life will hopefully be influenced by a good upbringing, but at some point the kid has to take some self responsibility.
He obviously took responsibility by enrolling in school. He held up his end of the deal. His father however, did not.
#67 - On 10/02/2009 at 10:47pm by babygraprefruit
I don't get it. Why would he be paying your tuition anyway?
#15 - On 10/02/2009 at 5:34pm by ozymandias
Sounds like school isn't your strong point anyways.
Maybe you should learn how to write quotes properly.
YDI
So... when I went to college (all of 2 years ago) I had to pay for it all myself. If your Daddy doesn't want to pay for your school he doesn't have to. You are not a minor and hence entitled to his financial support.
#17 - On 10/02/2009 at 5:43pm by nddude1
it's not about the fact that his dad is paying ( or not paying ) for college!
are you people really that idiotic?
this fml is about the fact that his dad had agreed to pay and then backed out LAST MINUTE.
wth is someone suppose to do with a 20-50k bill?!
get a job?
oh yeah because the financial aid office is really going to wait for someone to get a job in this piece of crap economy.
i'm sure if the op knew beforehand that his father wasn't going to pay, he would have prepared himself.
but this is just effing wrong.
#70 - On 10/02/2009 at 11:15pm by wildxchild
His new wife is probably tighter and gives better head than you.
#19 - On 10/02/2009 at 5:51pm by donkey_hang_down
Hey, the kid likes to experiment. He sounds like a suck ass, anything to get ahead, including giving head...
#102 - On 10/05/2009 at 1:21pm by donkey_hang_down
If you're a half decent parent you should want your kids to get a good education. Hell, even loaning your children the money and making them pay it back is better than nothing. Obviously this person was depending on their father paying for their college so they hadn't planned on having to pay it themselves.
Christ, some of you people need to remove the self righteous pole from your asses.
Well, I just get the impression that the mutually agreed on arrangement was that the dad would be paying. If that's the case it is a FYL because he could have had time to try and figure the tuition out had his father told him he couldn't continue to make tuition payments. So can we really assume he is in fact being a selfish baby?
But yes if he's a snotty little brat that just assumed dad would pay it is indeed an YDI.
I wish the OPs would comment and give more detail on the situation.
Usually the OPs don't comment because they would be obligated to reply to every single comment.
But I do agree that they can be a little less vague.
It's really odd to see how majority of the FML posters pay for their own college tuition but majority of the people in U.S get some sort of help from their parents. Yes i'm aware that not everyone is American on this website but from what i see the majority is.
It's very selfish of parents to not help their kid get a secure future but instead spend money on other material things that aren't a necessity. People who say, "you're 18 so take care of yourself" sound like the most terrible parents/future parents of all. That really means that you consider children to be a burden who you have to take care of because the law tells you to. Also just because you had it bad or just not as good doesn't mean everyone else should too. If someone's leg breaks off, that person has a right to complain rather than sucking it up because some people were born without legs and arms.
Agh, my father had that sort of mentality, suddenly shoving responsibility into my face at 18. I mean that in the sense of without warning and in a cruel way (going as far as to call me a lazy/selfish bitch and accusing me of not caring/trying... when I had already been accepted into my college).
I agree with everything you said. And ya know? It doesn't matter if the kid /should/ pay for his own tuition or not, his father told him he would so he didn't have to worry, then suddenly pulled the rug out from under him and took off with it. When someone says or promises they're going to do something, especially something of the magnitude of paying for college, then you're inclined to be grateful and trusting of them. His father has no right to be such a dick like that.
OP, unfortunately it sounds like you're going to have to take out a loan. Or get lucky with rich relatives.
#29 - On 10/02/2009 at 6:19pm by DameGreyWulf
I'm really sorry to hear that. At least you know to treat your children better(if you're planning on having kids).
Most likely it's too late for the op to get a loan now and he might have to dropout. Hopefully some relatives will help out and/or his dad will get his priorities straight.
Look, college is not for everyone. Everyone trying to go to college is what is driving the prices up. Drop out, and get a day job, and leave college more room to handle the people that ought to be going -- the people that pay their own way.
#27 - On 10/02/2009 at 6:13pm by ozymandias
Oh, so is that how life should work, Mr. High and Fancy? People shouldn't enroll in college if they don't have enough money to pay without scholarships or financial aid? People like you are what make the economy as bad as it is today.
No, people should not go to college if *they* are not smart enough to figure out a way to pay for it between scholarships, financial aid and *getting a damn job*. If you are not smart enough to think to apply for scholarships or not smart enough to qualify, what do you think you are doing in college in the first place?
Qualifying for scholarships is paying your own way by applying yourself academically.
Not quite sure how "only do what you can afford" and "spend responsibly" is making the economy bad in your eyes, especially when it was people over reaching and spending credit they should not have had, driving housing prices up and causing more people to take out bad loans, and an unregulated loaning community that caused the economic crisis.
Those of us that made it through college can actually understand economics. Don't worry, though. We will always need ditch diggers, so there will be a place for grunts like you.
#32 - On 10/02/2009 at 6:24pm by ozymandias
Even if someone does get a scholarship that doesn't mean the person has a full-ride. So the person still has to pay for college tuition. Plus there are many more students who want to go to college and are qualified to get accepted into colleges than there are scholarship available!
Oh, so you are learned in economics, hmm? Congrats on being a qualified FML.com arguer, but I'm a straight-A high school sophomore and haven't taken economics class yet, so I'm sorry if I don't fully understand the inner workings of the world's money. I realize that you have to qualify for scholarships, buddy. I also realize that scholarships were started so that students who deserved to go to college and get a career that fit their abilities wouldn't be financially restricted. But, in your original post, you called the people who don't use scholarships the "people that ought to be going", so I was inclined to respond. In case you didn't notice, the economy isn't exactly in the best shape right now. Money is tight. Unemployment is higher than it usually is. So, why wouldn't people want to go to college? Careers that require a major or master's pay more than "day jobs", which is appealing anyway in the first place. Maybe you're a bit richer than some of us, but you still have to show respect. It's the American way. And if I do end up being a grave digger, I'll make sure not to dig yours.
I have scholarships, grants AND a job and *gasp* that doesn't cover all my tuition. I guess that automatically makes me a ditchdigger candidate in your eyes, despite the fact that I started a year early and have a 3.5 GPA. Nope, only people that can cover EVERY BIT of their tuition deserve to go to college.
By your logic, having money is more important than actually being smart. Well, Bush did get into Yale after failing out of a different college...but him having money makes him way more qualified than some genius but lower class kid, right?
#48 - On 10/02/2009 at 8:02pm by expen_dable
Hahahahahaha. This is probably the most ridiculous thing I have ever read. This sounds like it's coming from someone who has had everything handed to them their entire life and has never had to lift a finger for anything. You have no idea what it's like to work your ass off and still be left empty-handed. Welcome to the real world. This is what it's like.
#69 - On 10/02/2009 at 11:00pm by babygraprefruit
And even if someone does get a scholarship, not at such short notice. Maybe OP didn't apply because they thought they'd leave the spot to people who really need it. I have a
#94 - On 10/03/2009 at 1:26pm by __no_one__
Glad to see your father's priorities are straight. However, you can always get a f/t job or get some loans for your schooling payments. You're in college now. Time to be a big boy.
I agree.
Get out a loan. It's not just his responsibility.
#39 - On 10/02/2009 at 6:54pm by arcades_fire
getting a loan (or a job) for up to $50,000 a year is easier said than done
#40 - On 10/02/2009 at 7:12pm by darkblue_13
If the college costs $50,000 a year, I strongly suggest switching. Either way, that's a shit load more money than a Hawaii vacation.
FYL definitely but could people learn how to use quotations marks correctly?
#43 - On 10/02/2009 at 7:45pm by englishmuffin
Figure out if you can cover tuition with a combination of student loans and a job. If you're an undergraduate, you should definitely be able to work 20-30 hours a week and still have plenty of time to get your schoolwork done. People have been known to work 40-hour weeks and still ace their classes. Loans could be a bit harder to obtain. If you can't raise the money on your own, transfer to a cheaper school.
As for your dad, looks like it's time you went out on your own. Tell him he can take his money and his mail and shove them up his ass. If you really wish to spite him, you could "misplace" a few of his bills that come in while he's away.
#45 - On 10/02/2009 at 7:54pm by cthulhu1138
FYL for what your dad did, but YDI. Get a job and pay for it yourself before you can complain that life isn't fair. It's not his education, it's not his responsibility. Yes, for him to say he doesn't have the money then go and spend money in the same sentence is BS, but like I said, you can get a job and work for your education if it's that important to you.
#52 - On 10/02/2009 at 8:21pm by TheTruth1428
you fucking tell your dad that you get to choose his nursing home and he should pay for college or ELSE he will be in a fucking hell hole (then put him in one anyway because he is a douche)
#57 - On 10/02/2009 at 9:04pm by VraelVhalen
flying to hawaii is way cheaper than college, its not really an either or thing
#59 - On 10/02/2009 at 9:28pm by hawkloverr
In Canada, we are fortunate in that the government subsides our tutition and then lends us some addition money, OSAP since he is in Ontario, (depending on our income + parents' if we live with them) if need be. Considering it is Oct., you must have 1) Have your fees deferred because you are getting OSAP (This is what most of us do, including myself atm) or 2) Your father payed the min. amount required for you to not get kicked out. So even though you got screwed over by your dad, its not so bad in that you can still go to the bank after you get a job and get a line of credit + a credit card if need be to pay it off. Btw, tutition for a year of a regulated program at U of Toronto without res., meal plan, or books and if you are a Canadian student is about $6000ish ($500 per 0.5 credit + some crap fees for stuff half of us don't use which you can opt out some). Deregulated programs add about $4000ish more for a final sum of $10,000ish. It is not as bad as the prices in other places but it is not exactly pocket change for a student either. Good Luck.
#63 - On 10/02/2009 at 10:35pm by Dancinganimal256
not everyone qualifies for osap you know. if your parents make over a certain amount, they won't give it to you
#75 - On 10/03/2009 at 12:02am by x0xcarolinex0x
Yea, Canadian colleges arent thousands of dollars because our government pays for a very large chunk
#72 - On 10/02/2009 at 11:19pm by darkshadow
Let me know when he gets here, I'll come over and say hi!
#78 - On 10/03/2009 at 12:44am by hi_from_HI
Because god forbid you would have to pay for it yourself. spoiled arse o_0
#79 - On 10/03/2009 at 12:56am by manmoosewaffel
FYL.
My dad pulls the same crap with me.
Not to this extent, not by any means.
But still, its frustrating as hell, I'm sorry.
:(
I really hope everything works out for you in the end.
Good luck to you!
#80 - On 10/03/2009 at 2:00am by Norwegian_Wood
Dump his mail in the trash and tell him that the envelopes thought the dumpster was beautiful at that time of year.
#81 - On 10/03/2009 at 2:14am by chitoryu12
your an idiot. part of being an adult means you pay for your own shit. quit bitchin, and how is destroying his fathers property gonna do anything. your prolly just as spooiled as him. its time to grow up and stop depending on daddy. your both spoiled shitheads
#86 - On 10/03/2009 at 4:01am by manmoosewaffel
To be fair, if the OP is at a private university, than his tuition is probably quite a bit mire expensive than that vacation. So technically, his father could be able to afford the vacation but not the tuition. It still sends the wrong message though.
Even if op goes to public uni, a Hawaiian trip is like the cost of 3 courses.
#88 - On 10/03/2009 at 5:30am by WonderBlunder
Except for the six months of rain we get dumped on us and the depressingly gray skies during that time. It's actually cold during the rainy season.
Hey, OP, if it makes you feel better, if he's coming out soon, we are indeed entering the rainy season. So he'll be laying on Waikiki, soaking up the sun, and one of the evil clouds from Big Island will role in and just dump a bucket of water on him.
Shoooooots.
#97 - On 10/03/2009 at 5:09pm by hot_mess88
The OP shouldn't expect for somebody else to pay for his schooling. I'm in college and paying for it myself with no help from anyone. His dad had no obligation to pay for him. However, if his dad had said he would pay for his schooling and then changed his mind he should have told the OP before he started getting bills from the school so the OP could make arrangements to get everything paid. Even if he had a job, the OP probably needs additional help through scholarships, loans, etc. which take a lot of time to get.
Grow up. Get over the fact that your parents aren't paying for your university and do it yourself. Your an adult now, get off your moma's hip and do it yourself.
#101 - On 10/04/2009 at 12:23pm by Freakychan
OP's dad should just have the post office put his mail on hold. You can even do it online. There is no sense in OP going through the trouble.
As for OP... there are student loans.
I'm sure there has been a lot you've gotten that others had to do without. Your dad could have given you more warning but at least you got as much as you have. C'est la vie.
#103 - On 10/05/2009 at 2:34pm by TJLove
Oh man i can totally relate! My parents are separated and they both told me they couldn't afford to help me out with tuition for my second year of college..My mom just got her kitchen remodeled and my dad bought a time-share in Belize. FOL
#104 - On 10/06/2009 at 1:39am by bball1031boy
I fucking hate new wives. i been through my fair share. and im a 22yo famale. My dad liked Viagra.
#105 - On 10/06/2009 at 3:40pm by leahwoodzy
FOR THE LOVE OF GOD. It's the same argument every two posts! Do you REALLY THINK that it's SO EASY to pay for college yourself, in THIS economy? Are you REALLY?! THAT?! SLOW?! In regards to the earlier comment about college isn't for everyone, damn straight - it's not for people who think it's so easy to do things totally by yourself! Does that make you a moocher? No! You have to find a BALANCE - which sometimes includes your parents helping you out with college. If you're one of the lucky few who found a decent job in this economy, well Effing good for you - go brag about it to someone who gives a damn...or else quit and give it to someone decent enough to deserve it.
As for the OP - Damn...that DOES suck. When you find a way out of this (WHEN, not IF, because anyone who cares this much about college definitely has what it takes to make it), move on, and don't look back at him, and when he blows all his money on his new wife, let 'em starve. Good luck.
While I sympathize with you, it is not impossible for you to pay your own tuition. I do, although it's because my parents are poor rather than anti-nepotist jerks.
Why is it that nobody asks, why the adult dad can't figure out how to get his mail sent to Hawaii, whilst everyone is just expecting the son to be adult enough to raise 50.000 quid in a few days. Dad should go off his son's hip for the mail.
Yeah see there these things called jobs, see you do stuff for this person and they give you this thing called a paycheck, I know strange concept.
#110 - On 11/27/2009 at 4:31pm by Sixpakastan
