Happy Birthday

By qwerty6 - 30/09/2009 06:17 - United Kingdom

Today, it was my birthday. I asked my mom that instead of a present if she would make a donation to my favourite charity. She said that this wasn't a "proper" present for a 15-year-old girl. Instead she got me a kettle because "ours had broke and you make the most tea in the family." FML
I agree, your life sucks 39 375
You deserved it 5 526

Same thing different taste

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__no_one__ 0

Sell the kettle on ebay and donate the money. No, seriously, this is a bitch move. Why completely ignore someone's wish, give them something completely unrelated and less thoughtful, when the wish wasn't financially unreasonable or in another way unrealistic? And before the "be grateful you got anything, the poor kids in Nigeria don't even have food" comments start rolling in: Yeah, getting a kettle is better than nothing. Not getting something she asked for, which needn't be more expensive than a kettle, being dismissed with a statement like 'this isn't a proper present for you' and then getting a piece of household equipment isn't exactly great though. If the mother had said she didn't agree with the goals of this particular charity or whatever, I'd said 'fine', but this reason of dismissal is just.... I don't know. Not nice. And buying something the family needs anyway and disguising it as a gift isn't exactly loving and thoughtful either. But maybe that's just me. If you lived on your own, fine, but ... yeah, not like this I guess.

Xx_f_us_all 0

wow. all the tea you want now lol

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__no_one__ 0

Sell the kettle on ebay and donate the money. No, seriously, this is a bitch move. Why completely ignore someone's wish, give them something completely unrelated and less thoughtful, when the wish wasn't financially unreasonable or in another way unrealistic? And before the "be grateful you got anything, the poor kids in Nigeria don't even have food" comments start rolling in: Yeah, getting a kettle is better than nothing. Not getting something she asked for, which needn't be more expensive than a kettle, being dismissed with a statement like 'this isn't a proper present for you' and then getting a piece of household equipment isn't exactly great though. If the mother had said she didn't agree with the goals of this particular charity or whatever, I'd said 'fine', but this reason of dismissal is just.... I don't know. Not nice. And buying something the family needs anyway and disguising it as a gift isn't exactly loving and thoughtful either. But maybe that's just me. If you lived on your own, fine, but ... yeah, not like this I guess.

#3 is right on the money. If you put it up on ebay, and auction it off as a charity, you'll get a whole lot more money than if you sell it off as an ol' regular tea kettle. Good luck, and I hope this works out for you. btw op, Happy Birthday.

xero_art 0

the poster is a pretentious douche that just wanted to make a statement to her parents, I'd have done the same. If she wanted to donate to charity, she could have asked for the money herself. She didn't. Instead, she said, "Look at me, I'm selfless!" It was disrespectful in my opinion to ask for such a gift as opposed to asking for money and then donating it. And her parents were smart and said, she wants to prove how selfless she is, lets give her something just for that. The fact is, she's not selfless, she's proud and just wants to be able to say that she gave up a birthday to give to charity and because her parents usurped her self-gratifying little smirk, she decided to post this on FML so that all of you could say how good a person she is. Well, you all fell for it. YDI

PlasmaWafflez 0
xero_art 0

her parents wanted to give her a gift. pardon the cliche but she refused them the 'gift of giving.' All so that she could prove how good a person she was. It obviously wasn't her wanting to be selfless, it was her wanting to prove she is selfless. She's a self-gratifying prick and u're just falling for the mother teresa act. Call me a cynic, call me an idiot. Her parents gave her what she really wanted: 'a chance to prove her selflessness.' So, since she wants to prove she's selfless, let her make some tea for her family instead of complaining about it. Asking her parents to give to charity was not an altruistic or kind, or selfless act. It was a douche move in the way that it would be a douche move. It was her trying to prove herself to be selfless, probably in contrast to her parents.

I'd rather think it wasn't about being "selfless". Maybe her mother saw it as an act of trying to prove how selfless she is. Maybe. Who knows. Maybe she's not nice at all. But from the OP point of view... I think she was more interested in helping that certain charity group. I mean, she didn't say.. OH I WANT TO DONATE THE MONEY~ She actually seemed like she had a goal and wants to help the cause. I'm sorry guys, but not everyone is the same. Thankfully, there are still a few good people out there.

So wait, instead of her parents paying the money, they must give it to her first and then she must give it to the charity? Talk about making things difficult. Going to the charity and handing it in herself would have been more of a "look at me" act than asking her parents to give it in, you nut. And I don't doubt that that the OP was genuine in their intentions. Wow you get some idiots on here.

You can donate stuff in another person's name.

xero_art 0

maybe you've never given to charity but you don't get a big party every time you do. The point the OP wanted was to make a statement to her parents and be able to say that she gave up her bday for the charity. The fact that she said she wanted to give it to a particular charity doesn't mean she had a fervent desire to help people. The reason why you ask for the money is because it allows your parents to give you a gift.

#3 has a good point. In fact, rereading his comment I remembered the one with the ass-parent who bought his son a crappy Lap so he could get his SON'S quicker and better Lap.

IOwnedYou 0

You;r're a dumb ass, why do that when you can just ask your parents to directly donate it? And your parents might get suspicious and won't believe you're donating cash to charity..

Who cares what she was trying to look or seem like? Money to charity is better than money to retarded things you don't really need. No, really, who NEEDS tea? If your theory is correct, then the parents are assholes too for spending said money on a stupid teapot, just trying to get at their daughter, instead of doing what she wanted. Everyone's an asshole in this family. You can see if she was trying to be self-righteous when the money's donated and she bitches about wanting something material later on. Right now, money's going to charity, who cares for what reason? Really. Either way the parents are douchebags.

sirhobothesecond 3
wellinever 5

Take the kettle to the nearest Oxfam shop (or whatever your favourite charity is ). Tell your Mum to buy herself a new kettle if she needs one. F her life.

myhairynutsack 0

Excellent idea! Mom should have nothng to complain about - it's HER kettle to do with as she wishes. I like this.

really. and you should write one of those chick lit novels about how crazy your mom is. i agree, give it to a charity or thrift store. Who needs a kettle. Don't y'all have a microwave?

potatopeeler 0

I heat up water for tea in the microwave all the time. Why wait ten minutes for it to boil on the stove when it takes a minute in my microwave? Especially in the morning.

yeah man! you don't have to get it all the way to a boil, just hot enough for steeping.

stlcards220 4

Op:your mom is a horrible person. Also, I think there is another FML just like this.

hmmm.. 15 years old teen wants to help a charity on her birthday?? no way!!

Perhaps she's something called a "thoughtful person"? I know that's an alien topic to you. You're obviously not one, and you have most likely not met one. She wants to help a certain cause because she's thoughtful. Now stop using blanket statements, you stupid non-capitalization bastard.

that was very a very mature request for a 15 year old... and an immature resonse from the mother...