Today, I was in an unfamiliar building on campus and I needed to use the bathroom before class started. I walked in and saw a man at the sink. I said "Oh my god I'm sorry! I thought this was the women's washroom." It was. The very butch looking woman gave me a look of death. FML
I agree, your life sucks (27375) - you totally deserved it (6222)
On 08/31/2009 at 5:18pm - misc - by Cherie (woman) - United States (Illinois)
Good idea she might have just gotten out of womens prison
#5 - On 08/31/2009 at 7:36pm by jldavidson34
Washroom really? & YDI for not paying close enough attention when doing something like that.
#20 - On 08/31/2009 at 7:52pm by hellawagon
She gave you the "look of death", eh?
Maybe she was seducing you, and you didnt even notice.
Take it as an in-direct compliment.
#29 - On 08/31/2009 at 8:36pm by _MLSBIDGAF
Not all chicks with short hair immediately stop looking like chicks.
Just saying.
#49 - On 08/31/2009 at 10:21pm by DameGreyWulf
Wow, next time try stating your opinion without calling other people dumb. It's your opinion, not a fact.
Right. She just dresses like she's gay, so she can...attract gay men. Yeah. Do you even know what "ignorance" means?
#87 - On 09/01/2009 at 11:04am by completeloser
87, I assume you're responding to letitbe?
The woman may not have been dressing manly, and even if she was, that doesn't automatically mean she is a lesbian, which was letitbe's point.
Also your logic is flawed in that I can easily counter like this:
"A lesbian would want to attract girls, fellow lesbians, and fellow lesbians wouldn't go after a girl who looked like a guy."
In other words, dressing "like a man" to attract girls, who are attracted to girls, not men, is completely illogical, and so your logic that she must be a lesbian if she is dressing "like a man" is flawed.
Obviously, lesbians like that DO exist, but your assumption is incorrect based on your argument.
And of course, many straight girls act masculine too, so the assumption is just in general incorrect.
Technically speaking, many clothes that girls wear today were actually considered "masculine" (examples: jeans, t-shirts, vests...). Yet they are now in the women's aisles, aren't they? So maybe the woman had jeans on? (If seen from behind, it wouldn't matter what type of shirt she wore)
Not dressing manly at all, not anymore, not in this day and age.
#93 - On 09/01/2009 at 11:58pm by DameGreyWulf
Jeez, dude, that's not what I meant at all. My point is that it would be ignorant to assume she was hetero. You know what it means to put words in other people's mouths, right?
#96 - On 09/02/2009 at 4:48pm by completeloser
Sorry, that's what it sounded like you were saying.
"Dresses like a dude to attract gay men yeah that make sense" is what it read to me.
#98 - On 09/03/2009 at 1:12am by DameGreyWulf
Big deal you could of said oh i thought it was the mens bathroom " hold your panties bitches"
#8 - On 08/31/2009 at 7:37pm by ithedarkone
That sucks. :P It was just an honest mistake but no one likes it when their gender is assumed wrong.
Well, some people do like it. I have a good friend whose day is made every time she gets called "Sir." If you're going to try to walk the line of traditional gender roles, you have to be prepared for the reactions you're going to get. Anyone who gets upset about that kind of thing clearly isn't very comfortable with themselves.
Lmfao. Greatest reply ever! (Or it could just be my lack of sleep.)
#51 - On 08/31/2009 at 10:41pm by AndelleRae
Maybe she was just taking off your clothes with her eyes.
#15 - On 08/31/2009 at 7:43pm by screwtaylor
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SECOND!
#16 - On 08/31/2009 at 7:47pm by PlatinumPrince
LOL! This has happened to me before, except in a different situation. It was my first day of middle school and I didn't know where the bathroom was. I went into the womens bathroom, thinking it meant girls... I was washing my hands when a teacher walked in and told me that I needed to leave. O,..,O
Luckily the look of death has not been perfected into actual cardiac arrest yet, but:
YDI for talking out of turn in KD Lang's gym class :]
"Today, I was washing my hands in a public bathroom when a woman walked in and said, "Oh my god! I'm sorry, I thought this was the women's washroom!" I am a woman, and it was the women's washroom. FML"
#24 - On 08/31/2009 at 8:08pm by Sleepy_Jamie
I dont understand when some women try so hard to look like men but get pissed off when mistsken for one. FYL OP.
#25 - On 08/31/2009 at 8:08pm by liquidbunny
Agreed! She should know that she looks butch....She should be happy that her goal of looking like a man succeeded.
#33 - On 08/31/2009 at 9:02pm by scorpioserpent
Or maybe she still looks like a woman, but doesn't adhere to arbitrary social constructs. Men's hair grows just as long as women's, but society tells us long hair is womanly. Why? Where does that come from? It's not natural to cut your hair every six weeks, but we still tell men they have to do it.
Just because the OP made a mistake doesn't mean that the other woman necessarily looked like a man. She could have seen her from the back, which would make more sense. I don't look like a man at all, but I've been called sir a few times, and I have to say it's pretty insulting... :\
Quite right, rinny. A lot of people... I just don't understand how they could possibly mistake some others that are really obviously of a certain gender.
A classmate of mine actually thought a woman IN A DRESS was man. She said "well she looks like a fatty crossdresser." Some "logic" I guess I'll never understand.
#61 - On 08/31/2009 at 11:09pm by DameGreyWulf
@46 well society is responsible for covering up all the main visual cues of sex so has also standardised other characteristics for that purpose...otherwise all people would be naked and all men would have beards...theres nothing wrong with "arbitrary social constructs". and theres also nothing wrong with the human ability to categorise things based on this. its pretty common sense. id like to see our race survive without these skills. goodluck trying.
#78 - On 09/01/2009 at 2:59am by organisedchaos
organisedchaos - I think I'm in love with you brain!
#84 - On 09/01/2009 at 7:41am by thequickredofox
Lmfao, a woman that looks like a man. Haven't seen that in a while. You shouldn't have said anything. It's ok though. FYL and this is going into my favs.
#32 - On 08/31/2009 at 8:47pm by epicfail13337
Favorited. Nice.
Did the lack of urinals and the sign with a skirt-clad figure and the word WOMEN not make this obvious.
Shh. You're giving guys bad ideas.
#37 - On 08/31/2009 at 9:26pm by Intoxicunt
I have a very butch female friend, and it makes her day whenever she gets called "Sir." She thinks it's hilarious. Clearly, this washroom woman just hasn't accepted herself for who she is.
YDI for being so desperate to get laid that you assume everyone around you has a dick.
Really.
#47 - On 08/31/2009 at 10:06pm by stereopump
Really?? Because mistaking someone's gender automatically means that they're desperate for sex? Right....
Well, if the woman did in fact look butch, I don't think this is a YDI situation.
If you're a woman trying to look like a man, and someone mistakes you for one, there's no need to give "the death stare."
However, since she did give a death stare, I think the OP is trying to cover her own ass by calling her butch.
I can't decide on this one.
Next time check for urinals, you'll be okay.
#52 - On 08/31/2009 at 10:46pm by AndelleRae
You have a good point, actually!
It's funny, I see a lot of people saying "well, they DID look very butch/femme" to save themselves, when I see the same person and think "Uh... not really.."
OP could definitely be doing the same.
OR... the woman wasn't always a woman, so "she" got pissed off when the OP thought "she" was a man because "she" was trying so hard NOT to be one.
#57 - On 08/31/2009 at 11:03pm by DameGreyWulf
You did nothing wrong... I think its dumb when butchy looking women get pissed when people mistake them for men... I mean, you are in control of 90% of your appearance, especially if you're a woman (you have the assistance of make-up, after all). So here's a thought... if you don't want people to mistake you for a man, don't look like one!! lol
#53 - On 08/31/2009 at 10:52pm by everydayisFML
Let me get this straight. So you're saying that you think a woman should care about what others think they look like. Actually, what's your idea of the look of a woman? They can't cut their hair a little short or build some muscle to be strong? Should they put on make-up and try hard to have a womanly figure because one or two people make the comment that they look bad? Besides, the OP probably saw the woman from behind or from the side while she was bent over at the sink.
Wait, where the hell did #54 go?? Because I definitely DON'T agree with this person up here, everydayisFML.... FML is definitely messed up in the comments section.
Oh yeah, one more thing; Tgis reminds me of all the people who ask the classic question "Ooh, when is the baby due?" Its just something you NEVER assume. Fission Mailed.
It's not your fault ugly people exist. Butch women are absolutely hideous.
#62 - On 08/31/2009 at 11:10pm by Nakedsquirrel
62, many men like butchy women.
A lot of butchy women are dominatrix.
Many men like dominatrix women.
#77 - On 09/01/2009 at 2:57am by DameGreyWulf
oh look, i'm a butch woman, and i'm not trying to look like or be like a man, i'm just comfortable with who and how i am. and i'm not hideous either, because i usually have a beautiful woman or two seeking my attentions...i've probably slept with more beautiful women than #62 has met. just because we are not your idea of the perfect lay, doesn't mean we are not beautiful. and, sometimes, when you've already had to address your gender a dozen or more times that day in the most annoying and invasive and sometimes downright scariest of ways, and all you want to do is have a leak, yeah, it's a drag.
yeah um, just b/c the other person doesn't have long hair and wear feminine clothing, doesn't mean they are a guy. i usually bark at people who do that. scares the shit out of them.
so jews deserve it b/c they're jew and blacks deserve it b/c they're black. do you wash your white sheets at home or have them dry cleaned?
Uh, Jews and Blacks don't get to choose. If you're deliberately flaunting established social paradigms with your looks, you can't expect society to accept you immediately and unquestioningly.
#86 - On 09/01/2009 at 11:02am by completeloser
with a couple bottles of wine there aren't many who aren't curious. you just haven't found the right man yet. its okay. you'll find him.
lol wtf are you talking about?? This has to do with a woman who voluntarily chooses to look like a man, not black people who were born black. And the jewish thing isn't really applicable cuz you can choose not to be jewish. Overall, fuck you noob
Umm, a woman doesn't necessarily choose to look like a man. People ARE born looking a certain way. And even if she doesn't go out of her way to look feminine, who the fuck cares?
No, not apparently. When someone looks androgynous, it doesn't mean they deserve to be treated like less of a person, like geetface seems to believe. Fortunately though, there are still compassionate and intelligent people in the world who would disagree.
lmao epic fml.
i find it funny when you see females that look male, generally the mega fat ugly ones
#75 - On 09/01/2009 at 2:29am by v1knownaz_chris
Hm, well, indeed, when people reach a certain... aha, LARGEness, they certainly lose their distinct body types. Big floppy boobs look deceptively like moobs.
#76 - On 09/01/2009 at 2:55am by DameGreyWulf
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hahaha this is the best fml on here :) it's not really an fyl though it's fhl for looking like a man... nasty lesbos
Wait, wasn't there an FML on here a few days ago that said the exact opposite of this? Something like 'Today, I was washing my hands and a girl came in, then went to check she was in the women's bathroom.' Sad.
#81 - On 09/01/2009 at 5:59am by pentameter
So a young girl goes into the ladies toilets. Of course she is going to freak if she thinks she sees a man in there. That's the correct, natural, defensive reaction. Don't keep quiet and ignore him in case you might offend some bull-dyke on steroids.
#83 - On 09/01/2009 at 7:24am by wellinever
I've been in a similar situation :/
at least the girl you saw wasn't making out with another girl [at the time]
Now don't get me wrong
I have no problem with same-sex relationships
(personally, i'm not into it)
But i don't like seeing people making out
#90 - On 09/01/2009 at 6:04pm by roxy_rescue
Its odd how there's a very similar FML to this, and that one has more YDIs than FMLs, while this one is the complete opposite.
