Today, I found out why my girlfriend of 8 months has never agreed to stay the night before. Now I have a 4-month old mattress that needs replacing, and a 23-year-old bedwetter for a girlfriend. FML
I agree, your life sucks (34841) - you totally deserved it (4510)
On 07/05/2009 at 6:07am - misc - by wetboy (man) - United Kingdom (London)
How does it suck, exactly? It's not her fault and if he loves her for other things this should not pose any threat to the relationship.
She finally trusts him with something she has no control over and it sucks?
#44 - On 07/05/2009 at 11:13am by ForWhatItsWorth
Hopefully you do not break up with her... she just probably didnt want to tell you... how much you want to bet she stayed up at night for a little bit and kept trying to stop it from happening.
#87 - On 07/05/2009 at 12:24pm by Entity4Infinity
That sucks for her, not for him. What an ass. That must have been extremely embarrassing for her, and you not only disrespect her privacy by posting all over the internet, but try to make it out like YOUR life is fucked by the issue rather than hers. You're kind of a jerk, OP, and have some serious growing up to do before you deserve a relationship.
OP, you are a complete and utter dick.
This is your girlfriend and she clearly has a problem and you posted it as an FML when you should be supportive and trying to help her. It's selfish of you to think your life is fucked when she's the adult who has no control over something like this and wets herself.
There are many reasons as to why this could happen, but she deserves a better boyfriend.
dude look at the bright side if you help her with her problems you might get a suprise a good one
hell yeah
Who's to say how he reacted with her. For all we know he could've been very kind and understanding with her and bitter on the inside. I know that I for one would'be been LIVID if my "girlfriend" wet my brand new 4 month old mattress.
To be fair to him, if she knows she has a bed-wetting problem then she should limit her liquid intake before bedtime.
This is "fuck my life", not "call me an asshole because I bitch over a valid point".
112, it's a MEDICAL CONDITION, not "Oh I wet the bed because I drank too many liquids." Dehydrating yourself is bad for your health and probably would not solve the problem. Get that through your thick head.
#147, My cousin had a bedwetting issue. A normal person's urethra weaves between some muscles that contract and clamp down on the urethra to "hold it" when you need to, or are sleeping--her urethra went outside these muscles so nothing happened when they contracted. She needed surgery to fix it.
so? my boyfriends a bedwetter, he just wears diapers at night but its not like we sleep when he stays over ;)
#169 - On 07/05/2009 at 6:44pm by uLtra_attitude
if her urethra went outside the muscles that hold in her urine, wouldn't she be always wetting herself, not just when she's sleeping? If the muscles don't work when she's sleeping, they can't work when she's awake...
#171 - On 07/05/2009 at 7:43pm by qazwerty
not necessarily. It might just be the kind of thing where, when you are awake, and you know you have to go, you can consciously hold it. But when you are sleeping, there are specific muscles that probably constantly "hold it", so you can sleep. But either way, it's a medical condition. That poor girl must have spent hours, possibly days dreading staying over because she knew this would happen.
#192 - On 07/05/2009 at 11:59pm by alice_hmph
And she has a dick boyfriend who'd post something so humiliating on the internet for everyone to read and laugh at.
#196 - On 07/06/2009 at 12:17am by americayay
I know how to save this relationship...buy her a bottle of Arginine Vasopressin nasal spray (also known as Anti-Diuretic Hormone). In a nutshell, it retains water in the body longer, making it so the sensation to urinate is suppressed. It is used all the time on children that wet the bed. However, I think you can only get it by prescription and care must be used in taking it. Next time you want her to sleep over, she uses the spray and the bed stays dry :)
I agree w/ you. I mean honestly she must have felt so ashamed of this and not want to tell you about it, because she would be embarrassed enough. why is it F your life? F her life.
#243 - On 07/08/2009 at 3:39am by AmberE
Oh jeeze. Sucks to be you ey?
Well.. sucks to be her aswell.
#2 - On 07/05/2009 at 10:08am by ForceStrike64
Hahaha, amazing! FYL!
This leaves room for new possibilities though - imagine: SHE CAN BE CUPID!
Just buy her a bow and arrows, I am sure she has the diapers.
How kinky that would be!
And there's the golden shower...
#4 - On 07/05/2009 at 10:10am by depechemode
oh wow that is the most cruel thing ive ever heard
some peoples bladders dont develop so they wet the bed when they are older, dickwad.
#15 - On 07/05/2009 at 10:19am by DaMirrorLink
it wouldnt be funny to you if you suffered from a similar condition, now would it?
#74 - On 07/05/2009 at 11:54am by DaMirrorLink
I think it's hilarious, too.
And if I had a similar condition, I'd give the guy warning before I ruined his mattress.
You think that's something a girl really wants to tell their boyfriend?
#22 - On 07/05/2009 at 10:26am by Yoursxtruely
I feel like thats someting you should be comfortable enough to discuss before hopping into bed with someone. Better to give warning but maybe she thought it wasn't going to happen. But i think sometimes people forget this is anonomous, none of her friends will find out
Based on his reaction, would YOU have felt comfortable enough to tell him? He seems really understanding and sensitive. ha
#179 - On 07/05/2009 at 9:47pm by princessasaurus
She knew about her condition ahead of time. Deciding to sleep with your boyfriend in his bed without any protection is rather dimwitted.
That's a shame. She's probably really embarrassed about it all.
Try to be understanding, if you can.
lol. it's does suck a lot. I can say because my 24 year old sister still sleeps with a decreped old bunny. oh and she also suck her thumb. yeah 24years old.
#10 - On 07/05/2009 at 10:13am by Hunterstown88
Heeeeeeeeeeey. I haven't any problems and I still sleep with a decrepit stuffed dog. :-(
#201 - On 07/06/2009 at 1:07am by TheFrthAngel
OMG, that sucks :(
why didn't she tell you BEFORE wetting your bed?
It couldn't be more embarassing than that.
#11 - On 07/05/2009 at 10:14am by live_your_life
Meanwhile, somewhere else on FML.
"Today I felt comfortable enough with my boyfriend to stay the night with him in spite of an embarrassing problem. I did it because he kept pressuring me. I wet his bed, and he was a real jerk about it. He even posted details about it on this site, as if I wouldn't bloody see it. FML"
#12 - On 07/05/2009 at 10:14am by stringoffail
Tell her to look into acupuncture, it helped my brother stop bedwetting as a teen. Be nice to her about it; it's a terribly embarrassing problem and you should be supportive and helpful. :)
#16 - On 07/05/2009 at 10:21am by bethinabox
haha that sucks for you. If I were you I'd never sleep with her because you may wake up in the middle of the night soaked in urine. LMAO!
I feel sorry for her :-/ I think it must be some serious problem at her age. She probably is super sorry and embarrassed. Sucks for you, too. Hope you love her enough to stay with her.
#21 - On 07/05/2009 at 10:24am by jessamyn_it_is
Its interesting to see the mixture of assholes to sensitive people on this fml its not realln FML it sucks, but then again other than having to replace the mattress there is no ral apparent damageto you. Your not the one being ridiculed on a public website
Its interesting to see the mixture of assholes to sensitive people on this fml its not realln FML it sucks, but then again other than having to replace the mattress there is no ral apparent damageto you. Your not the one being ridiculed on a public website
He never mentioned her name. How is anyone but even the closest person to her would know? I doubt she shares her bed-wetting issues with other people.
He is not ridiculing her; this is a FML website, remember? I'd hate to have to clean/replace a bed because someone else messed it up.
Even if no one knows exactly who she is, if she ever happened to see this FML do not tell me that she would not feel betrayed. She's the OP's girlfriend of 8 months, he should be more sympathetic.
#75 - On 07/05/2009 at 11:55am by OperationNicole
Suckssss. But if you really love her, you'll find a way to deal with it.
#28 - On 07/05/2009 at 10:36am by fmlobsessionx95
Poor girl. =[ I hope you weren't mean about it... That would probably only make her problems worse. You should try up help her find something that helps her not do that.., like the others said; acupuncture, counseling maybe? Trauma might be involved. You never know. =/ FHL.
#30 - On 07/05/2009 at 10:39am by HondaGirl2010
You should support her instead of posting on FML. She was embarrassed of it, and she finally came out for it because she trusted you and then you bitch about it? FHL for having a shitty boyfriend.
#32 - On 07/05/2009 at 10:42am by Lillinette
#32 Exactly. Obviously she's uncomfortable because she was worried you would react exactly the way you are reacting- like an immature douche who would rather post her secret on FML than support her through it. You're an asshole.
I don't think OP is being shitty at all. How do any of you know he wasn't supportive? Obviously if she's still his girlfriend he didn't freak out and run away. That's a hell of a problem to surprise someone with, without telling them ahead of time. She should have prepared herself. It wouldn't have been so bad if he already knew.
Just because OP posted on FML does not mean he put her business out there. Nobody here knows who they are anyway.
#61 - On 07/05/2009 at 11:35am by brooklyngirl
how is this an fyl? you aren't the bed wetter. poor thing.
#33 - On 07/05/2009 at 10:46am by buddymask1
@OP:
Don't be such a sissy. There's no need for replacing the mattress. Most mattresses are covered in a wrapper. Just take the mattress out of the wrapper and wash the latter. That's sufficient.
How is this a FYL? This isn't something that's easy to deal with and rather than being an immature schmuck and posting it as a "FML", you should be more understanding and caring and keep it between the two of you. As others have said, FHL for having such a shitty boyfriend.
#38 - On 07/05/2009 at 10:58am by FabledWaltz
If bedwetting is the biggest problem you have to deal with with her, frackin marry her. She could be all depressed and bipolar like most of my g/fs have been.
#39 - On 07/05/2009 at 11:01am by ArthursLifeSucks
She didn't even tel you that? That's wrong on her part, but a lot of people have bladder problems, cuz my stepbrother has a bladder disfuncion in which he can't control it so that sucks...
#41 - On 07/05/2009 at 11:03am by brunoisbeast
Its bad of her to sleep in the same bed if she knew what would happen. Still to say your life is fucked because of this... you need to harden up. Support your GF!
Shame on you. Chances are it's a medical condition she can't help. I am 18 and still have trouble with wetting the bed. I have been on medications for it since I was 8 yrs old. It is an embarrassing condition and she can't help it. She might have an underdeveloped bladder, some other condition, or tethered cord syndrome such as is my case. She needs support and trust not you saying your life is f'ed when it's not. As for the mattress get over it. Simply but a mattress cover with a plastic underside that can be washed for such incidences as this.
Wow way to be a fucking douche. It was probably embarrassing for her, and you suggest buying her diapers?? Can you be any more of an asshole???? As soon as you get a girlfriend, tell me so I can slap her senseless and ask what her problem is. that is.... IF you get one.
Oh and because I feel the need to help dumbasses such as yourself.. its "anniversary". Maybe we should get your diapers since with the way you spell you should still be in them yourself.
OP: you shouldn't have posted it on a website where people could ridicule her like this. She's probably already crying because it happened. Reading this--and realising it's her--would probably break her completely. She's probably going to have extreme depression issues because of this. Seriously, way to be a good boyfriend. [/sarcasm]
Your life isn't F'd. Hers is. So instead of posting FML over something that could be medical with your girlfriend, maybe try spend your time supporting her like a good boyfriend shoud : )
It's not HER fault that she wets the bed, I myself know how embarrassing this can be, you don't know how many times when I was younger in school that, every school trip I was very worried about going, every time my friends invited me around for a sleep over, I had to make up an excuse, and they still dont know, believe me so, if there was anything I could do to completely stop it, I would, but its not funny to be assholes about it, you wouldnt like it if it was you, so grow up guys, this isn't an FML, this is just showing how black hearted some of you can be.
#47 - On 07/05/2009 at 11:19am by ItsnotfairBW
F your life? Somewhere there is a girl posting " Today, my boyfriend found out that I am a bedwetter. FML."
Poor girl.
#53 - On 07/05/2009 at 11:25am by alwaysalady
Some people have that condition where they can't control it or something like that. Apparently that's why they sell pads for men. and I agree with #49 if u end up dumping her for something like that.
Seriously dude.. that really sucks for her. Try to put yourself in her shoes. I have had that problem myself, & I am in my mid-twenties. And to everyone saying "she should have known": For me, it doesn't happen EVERY NIGHT. It's random & sort of unpredictable. Sometimes I go for up to a year w/out it happening & think I'm over it & then BAM! It's humiliating.... at least she's not going and getting smashed drunk & peeing all over his bed. That's a lot less forgivable IMO!
I have similar problems and I'm about the same age. It only happens once or twice a year with me, and when I do, I just assume I had a wet dream. D=
#163 - On 07/05/2009 at 5:55pm by 18legalawesome
Why not just buy some plastic/protective sheets to put on your mattress, under your regular sheets? My grandpa had problems with his bowel and we had to buy these special sheets. That's how the mattress is still free of urine today. Honestly I think you are just making too big of a deal out of this. Your gf should have told you beforehand, though, just so that you could prepare the bed for her. And I don't know what your gf's problem is but if she hasn't gone to any doctor about it or anything then you should take her, because hopefully it is treatable.
#57 - On 07/05/2009 at 11:29am by Butterfly_D
Dude if you truely love her this should not be a problem. It's not her fault she can't control it. If my girlfriend wets the bed I would not mind.
#58 - On 07/05/2009 at 11:30am by fallenarchangel
How do you think she feels? It's a condition she can't really help, and she's probably really humiliated that she wet her boyfriend's bed. You're a complete dickhead for acting like this.
#59 - On 07/05/2009 at 11:33am by mustlovemarvin
And how exactly did he react like an asshole? That is shitty because he finally got his girlfriend to stay the night and she pissed all over his bed. Not saying it's her fault, but now he has to clean/replace at least the sheets and possibly the mattress itself. This would have been completely preventable if she told him and he got things prepared, or she just took protection herself.
He could have reacted completely considerate, or like most people been like, "what the fuck happened." If you know you have a condition you take precaution. You don't go around eating nuts if you're allergic to them, and you take precaution when sleeping in someone else's bed if you know you have a problem with bedwetting.
Why is it everyone's number one priority to bitch out the boyfriends on this site when they have no idea of the full circumstances.
So...did she tell you that she has a history of bedwetting, or did you just assume? Depending on what the circumstances were, it could have been you.
That's what I'm thinking, I mean just because you woke up with a wet mattress filled with urine. It doesn't mean it was her, she might have had other reasons for not wanting to spend the night. Like the fact that you're a crap boyfriend. It could've been you, or she might've had the toilet dream that night. I've always had that fear, that I was going to wet the bed while sleeping over at a friends house...
But if she does wet the bed, I feel bad for her, she SHOULD have told you beforehand.
FHL
It must have been horribly embarassing for her but.. she should have had the decency to at least tell you.
You should try to understand though, if you do love her you can at least try to bear with it.
this way, you can say you've been through thick and thin with your girlfriend longer than you've had your (current) mattress!! :D
#65 - On 07/05/2009 at 11:42am by random_outburst7
tell her to wear diapers at night it's better than waking up to a wet bed she can't help that she has this problem support her and help her cope with it better
Id say FHL.Your a pretty big jerk off for thinking this is an FML at all.Your the one who put it on the website,and ebsides,you dont date someone if you dont love them.
If you DID lover her,you could look past her flaws and accept her the way she is,whatever the cause of that is,fool.
#69 - On 07/05/2009 at 11:49am by Mauled2Death
The boyfriend sounds like quite a dick face to be honest.
#70 - On 07/05/2009 at 11:50am by youaresofucked
It's a medical condition you asshole.
i'd dump your ass in a heartbeat if i were her.
it's just a matress get over it.
#73 - On 07/05/2009 at 11:53am by thatgirl21
She might have some condition that causes it. I'm a type 1 diabetic and I used to wet the bed because my blood sugars were out of control before I was diagnosed. I'd have to pee literally 3-4 times a night, and I would just sleep through it sometimes.
#76 - On 07/05/2009 at 12:06pm by InfectedWithDrew
same with my brother! There are lots of problems that cause bedwetting in adults, generally there are medications for it though but that doesn't always work. This guy was a total dick about it, posting something online that his girlfriend was so insecure about.
Yea, it sucks you have to replace a mattress, but work through it...if you do I am sure she will think even better of you (obviously she already thinks highly of you and trust you if she stayed the night knowing what might happen)
you best not dump here just for that, it was probably hard enough for her to live through the embarrasment
#78 - On 07/05/2009 at 12:12pm by Bex_dazzled
well thats something that she can't help.. i hope you don't leave her over that
has anyone ever had the toilet dream? i have a few years ago where i had a dream i was on the toilet, i started to pee but not enough to get on the bed(thankfully), i was like 'how am i laying on the toilet?' and woke up and went to the bathroom. lol. sucks. i hate the toilet dream.
That used to happen to me all the time back when I was in my early teens. I learned to control it with lucid dreaming techniques (i.e. doing "reality checks" every time I went to the bathroom in real life, which eventually leads to doing it in your dreams, which wakes up up...google it).
Well fyl but i think thats really hot so senf her my way lol
#83 - On 07/05/2009 at 12:21pm by stringking21
she should dump you. You go on a public site and talk bad about her indirectly..
#85 - On 07/05/2009 at 12:21pm by youretoopicky
This comment shouldn't be buried... its a medical fact. There are hundreds of scholarly journal articles that link bedwetting past early childhood to sexual abuse. This is plausible and certainly not funny!
posting her embarrassing secret on FML, what a douchy thing to do
#91 - On 07/05/2009 at 12:34pm by AshleyRose784
I hope that you were at least sensitive about the matter, but I doubt it since you obviously just HAD to post it as an FML. The poor girl has absolutely NO control over something like that, and she is probably mortified and hurt. I'd seriously consider flowers and getting on your knees to reassure her that you don't give a shit, otherwise I PRAY she dumps you. Your mattress doesn't need replacing, just a good clean. Get a phonebook for a cleaning service!
#95 - On 07/05/2009 at 12:43pm by ToonAddict
Wow. FHL for having such an insensitive douchebag for a boyfriend. I hope she dumps you.
#96 - On 07/05/2009 at 12:44pm by rosiegrewup
Good job! I'm so proud of you!
My little man is growing up.
#193 - On 07/06/2009 at 12:01am by happylittleman
You can flipthe matrees no need to replace it. you will never know she peed in it. Matress flipping is extremelley customary.
Don't be so dramatic. You should feel bad for her; she either has an embarrassing medical condition, or some mental issues that need to be addressed. Bedwetting is often a psychological problem. If she doesn't already know what is wrong, you should encourage her to see a doctor and/or psychologist, and in the meantime man up and buy a waterproof mattress pad instead of whining about your special mattress. Seriously, is it your blankie or something?
#101 - On 07/05/2009 at 12:58pm by FreedomFirst
Did she tell you beforehand? I would imagine that it would be pretty embarrassing for someone to tell a significant other that he/she is a bed wetter. So she probably didn't say but I would imagine that she probably thought it wouldn't happen that night. It must have been pretty devastating for her as well as it was for you.
In anycase, I hope you weren't mean about it. You don't need to replace the entire mattress, just the sheets, and next time you have her over, just be nice about it.
I think you two should talk and just find out what's going on. If you just be mean to her on the account she's a bed wetter, then it's your lost.
#104 - On 07/05/2009 at 1:06pm by NorfolkDude
Hey! Don't post that on fmylife.com! I feel very bad for her because it's not something she can control! She doesn't deserve you! :(
#105 - On 07/05/2009 at 1:10pm by junomcguff
seriously thats not nasty i find it delocious so w/ e i would support her and i woulent care and thts no nees to change a mattress eaother
Great. Took her 8 months to trust you with this and the very next day you post it on the internet. I hope she breaks up with you...you're not mature enough to be in an "adult" relationship.
Dude seriously, i would kill for an excuse to have a new mattress.
This isn't a big deal in all honesty, and you could have handled this so much better instead of complaining about it. You could have showed her how much you love her despite that. But oh well, too late.
#110 - On 07/05/2009 at 1:25pm by allysonrigby
its called DDAVP. I used to have it. normally it goes away with age, but tell her to go to the doctor. they make pills that prevent it.
#115 - On 07/05/2009 at 1:45pm by Rakshasa23
Way to be supportive, dude. She deserves better than you.
#116 - On 07/05/2009 at 1:46pm by madasahatter
"Today, my boyfriend of 8-months told everyone on the Internet that I have an embarrassing medical problem that I can't control. He also cares more about his mattress than my dignity. FML"
Fuck you man, you're an asshole.
OP: Grow some balls and accept the fact that your girlfriend trusted in you to not make fun of her and to not make a big deal out of her medical problem! FYL!
you don't have to replace the thing. Flip it, it'll dry.
#118 - On 07/05/2009 at 1:49pm by MiseryLotus
# 115 makes an excellent point. Some people can't control their sphincters while they sleep, or their brains won't send them the "wake up" message when they have to go at night. It is a health issue, and it isn't her fault. But yes, hence what #115 said, there are medications to take for that. I don't know if your girlfriend is on anything for it, but she should ask her doctor why it's not working if she is. Don't blame her for it, it's not her fault.
#119 - On 07/05/2009 at 1:50pm by purplesucker
If this is real I feel really sorry for her. I hope you were understanding with her.
#121 - On 07/05/2009 at 1:54pm by naja_12168
How is this his fault?? She knew she had a bed-wetting problem. She should have worn a Depends or something, and tried to put something on the bed to protect it. She was the one being inconsiderate. I'd be pissed too! (pun intended)
#122 - On 07/05/2009 at 1:54pm by girlygirl666
ha-ha great pun. wtf is a depends? do you mean diaper? perhaps she thought that she was over the stage and thats why she chose not to wear a diaper which he obviously would have felt/seen
#136 - On 07/05/2009 at 3:00pm by ms33
I agree. Although the OP is kind of a jerk for reacting the way he did, she should have told him and wore something to protect his mattress. If she was going to wet the bed anyways, wouldn't it be better for her to tell him instead of him to find out with a wet bed in the morning?
#218 - On 07/06/2009 at 8:40am by _elly_beth_
I agree with girlygirl666, she knew she had those kinds of problems. She should've just told him or wore a diaper. It's very rude to not tell someone something like this when staying the night.
#129 - On 07/05/2009 at 2:39pm by heyitslain
Wait, I change my mind, that must've been wayyyy too embarassing for her to tell, and she might've barely ever wet the bed. The poster is an asshole for posting this. This may be a hypocritical post of mine, but I tend to change my mind a lot. Way to ruin your girlfriend's life, asshole.
#130 - On 07/05/2009 at 2:42pm by heyitslain
Just scrub the area and sun the mattress. buy a matress cover.
#131 - On 07/05/2009 at 2:51pm by Jigga_PaNG
Well, aren't you a supportive boyfriend, posting it online for people all over the world to read after she decides to trust you.
idiot....mattress dont get replaced for that...
second she prolly has a problem that she needs help fixing
#139 - On 07/05/2009 at 3:06pm by didi666
for everyone suggesting she should have worn a diaper to bed with him... are you serious?
#140 - On 07/05/2009 at 3:08pm by goldfish27
If u dont want her just for this anymore, then send her to me :P FherL if thats not treatable, but mostly it is, talk it out delicately and try to take her to a doctor.
You don't need to replace your mattress. There are some pet-stain cleaners that will get any smell and color out no problem.
You're a jerk for even posting this. I feel bad for her, she clearly deserves SO much better than you. She was embarassed to tell you because she can't control it, and you disrespect her. I hope she dumps you and meets a real man.
#149 - On 07/05/2009 at 3:47pm by beccanator
You're a jerk for even posting this. I feel bad for her, she clearly deserves SO much better than you. She was embarassed to tell you because she can't control it, and you disrespect her. I hope she dumps you and meets a real man.
#150 - On 07/05/2009 at 3:47pm by beccanator
I've never said this before on FML, but I hope for your girlfriends sake that this is fake. IF not go support her you dumbfuck, instead of posting her secrets on the internet.
I laughed out loud for a second, but that's horrible for your girlfriend =(
#152 - On 07/05/2009 at 4:01pm by ShortyBBangin
Ok, so what if he means that his life sucks because she didn't trust him and then this happened? That sucks... Think people, its what our brains are for.
#154 - On 07/05/2009 at 4:08pm by SacredAssasin
Haha that sucks. How embarrassing for her. She shoulda warned the guy though instead of just letting him wake up in piss.
poor girlfriend = / Not just because she probably feels awful about this incedent, but because she's had to deal with this condition for her whole life, and she still has it now, when she should be an independent woman.
#158 - On 07/05/2009 at 5:26pm by mynameisnotjudie
It does suck for her, but if she's a chronic bedwetter it was a dick move on her part not to tell you beforehand.
wow. some people just never learn to use the bathroom before bed
#164 - On 07/05/2009 at 5:59pm by aaaaa12345
i feel bad for the girl, what if she actually read this fml story.... i wouldnt be so happy to find out you just had to spread it all over the world...
okay I realize this is a condition and all. and while its true its not HER fault she wets herself, it IS HER FAULT she didn't prepare for it. sure she is embarrassed and sorry and its not her fault, but she could have done something about it.
It's not really that big of a problem for you. It's much worse for her so it should really be FHL.
Its a medical condition that she can't control so don't blame her but she should've told you beforehand
It does suck- for both of you. But really, why do you need to get rid of the mattress? Little kids wet the bed all the time, and parents don't go running out to buy new mattresses every time. Take a day to clean the mattress- I'm guessing that if you're really worried about it, a carpet cleaner would do the trick. Otherwise, some bleach and cleaning solution mixed with a lot of water will be fine. And if you're still with her (which would be the smart thing), you could really impress her by getting a waterproof mattress cover that you put on between the mattress and the sheets/pads/whatever. She'll feel more comfortable, you'll protect your bed, and you won't embarrass her as much as you would by handing her a package of Depends.
#168 - On 07/05/2009 at 6:28pm by MissAnthropy2009
So, is she available? Sounds like a nice girl... Sounds like she could use a decent guy too...
#170 - On 07/05/2009 at 6:48pm by DieterDerBlau
If I let a dude stay at my house in my bed and he didn't tell me he had a bedwetting problem and I woke up soaked, I'd be piiiiiiissed, pun intended.
Yeah she probably was embarrassed, but she should have told you beforehand. If I did that to someone I'd at least help them clean it or buy them a mattress cover.
#172 - On 07/05/2009 at 7:46pm by bridgetoparadise
You're a horrible person, you're a horrible person, you don't deserve a girlfriend, you don't deserve a girlfriend.
#174 - On 07/05/2009 at 8:16pm by Sgt_Schadenfreud
I like how people are diagnosing the girl they haven't even met based on a short paragraph. She might not have had a medical problem. Maybe she did drink too many liquids. Who knows?
#175 - On 07/05/2009 at 8:26pm by burnhamt23
How is this an FML?
And why would you replace the entire mattress?
Soap and water. No big deal.
#176 - On 07/05/2009 at 8:50pm by littlejacks4
People do have that as a long term incurable condition. They can take drugs with nasty side effects, but that is about all.
In dirt poor countries women get really bad cases from a failed pregnancy. That is treatable, but they have no money to get the operation and they are treated like dogs because of the smell.
#200 - On 07/06/2009 at 12:54am by I_am_stupid_also
What the FUCK!? Does no one use their brain on this site?
He's not an asshole in any fucking way for posting this on FML. I like, even more so, the people who are saying that he shouldn't be posting on FML and should be supporting her. You act like it takes 10 hours of the day to post on FML. It was a story, he shared it. I'd be pretty bent if my mattress got ruined too, because she SHOULD HAVE TOLD HIM.
I'm female(On my bf's account), and I really, really think that men should be gay because females are so fucking RETARDED(as mostly females were like 'omg ur a dick'). Grow the fuck up. I hope none of you who said he's a dick ever go into a relationship.
Oh and another thing? Is her name on here? How the fuck can you know who he's even talking about? You can't. So it's not posting her personal problems or anything because YOU DON'T KNOW WHO HE'S TALKING ABOUT. Jesus fucking christ.
#178 - On 07/05/2009 at 9:13pm by murderoticadam
#178.
Hm. So you're a "female" who just so HAPPENS to be on her bf's account...
You bash women as if you hated them...
And you want men to be gay.
Dude, man, guy... you're so far back in the closet, you're in NARNIA.
#208 - On 07/06/2009 at 3:20am by awkwardass
haha, you're pretty funny, and i so agree with you
#210 - On 07/06/2009 at 4:19am by wow_seriously321
That joke is old.
And yeah, actually (: My normal account is: drkwlf
So have fun with trying to make gay jokes. Oh my god, girls can't have opinions can they, if they aren't on the girls side? GOSH.
#221 - On 07/06/2009 at 1:44pm by murderoticadam
And that's right, I would just so HAPPEN to be on my bf's account like it's completely ridiculous that we live together, right? And it'd be even MORE crazy if we shared computers and I didn't feel it necessary to log out of his account.
Totally unfathomable, really.
#226 - On 07/06/2009 at 2:37pm by murderoticadam
Wetting the bed at such an age may be indicative of an abusive past or medical problem. Talk with her before you leave her.
Shame on her for not telling him. I mean, I feel bad if she did something like that, but that doesn't mean she shouldn't at least tell him that she has had something like that as a precaution.
Also, some people find that attractive.
I was going to write "harsh she felt she couldn't tell you for 8 months", and yet... reading your post... no, no honestly it doesn't surprise me. In fact, your post revealing what it did, *I* think you don't *deserve* someone who was finally willing to be vulnerable with an issue as (in reality) light and trite as this, only to whine about your mattress- which, for some reason you feel needs replacing entirely because of some piss.
Try a spot and deep-soak cleaning first, captain. Or just go ahead and waste a few thousand, hey.
All in all, not only are you shallow, but you're entirely too self-centered to even notice how this might have been and incredibly vulnerable and awkward topic for her.
I won't even *start* on how you were... what, oblivious? to her not being willing to spend the night for... eight... *months*. Seriously. After night 2 or 3 I'd be asking myself, and then *her*, if there was anything I could do to change her mind or make her more comfortable with the idea of staying. Lo and behold, maybe we might have even talked it out and I'd learn she wet her bed and I have a fetish for feet. Tit-for-tat.
Points for being an attentive and understanding lover, prick.
#184 - On 07/05/2009 at 10:49pm by justanotherhuman
FYL?
Yeah it really sucks to have a girlfriend with a medical problem. I don't know how you are going to live with that. It must be so traumatic for you.
How do you think SHE feels? She's the one who has to deal with this every day (and if it's been going on this long I doubt it will be going away soon). YDI for being a selfish asshole.
#186 - On 07/05/2009 at 10:58pm by YouSoDeservedIt
F her life....because she has an asshole for a boyfriend.
#187 - On 07/05/2009 at 11:06pm by SweetieLish
Whatever you do, don't put her down about it. It will deliver a serious blow to her self-esteem.
#188 - On 07/05/2009 at 11:11pm by misterman2
They make enzymes that get urine out of upholstery. You don't have to throw out a brand new mattress.
#195 - On 07/06/2009 at 12:13am by theintrollama
I find this FML interesting, because a couple of weeks ago, while I was staying the night with the guy I'm seeing, I woke up in the night to find the bed, ahem, rather cold. Yes, he had wet the bed. He had, however, gone to bed pretty drunk. I had to wake him up, find him a towel, convince him to get in the shower (he was still sleepy drunk), change his sheets, put a towel down, and put the offending sheets in the wash. I also had no choice but to sleep around the wet spot. When he woke up the next morning, he had no idea why his sheets were changed, and was understandably pretty embarassed, though I tried to reassure him that it was okay. I didn't tell anyone, obviously, but I did wonder how other girls would react to this.
#197 - On 07/06/2009 at 12:22am by sophia_maria
It's not her fault. Wetting the bed derives from a lot of different things.
#204 - On 07/06/2009 at 1:16am by swiftynifty
Both you and your gf made mistakes: 1) your gf not telling you she had this problem 2) you posting this for the world to see. hope everything works out though.
#202 - On 07/06/2009 at 1:12am by asememalaka
She's probably so embarrassed. That's not really something you can just, fix. At least you can buy a new mattress. FHL, not yours.
#203 - On 07/06/2009 at 1:14am by swiftynifty
FBYL, that stinks that she has a bladder condition and definitely be supportive of her but also that sucks she didn't tell you or at least use some kind of protection.
#212 - On 07/06/2009 at 4:38am by itsallgood123
I know how to save this relationship...buy her a bottle of Arginine Vasopressin nasal spray (also known as Anti-Diuretic Hormone). In a nutshell, it retains water in the body longer, making it so the sensation to urinate is suppressed. It is used all the time on children that wet the bed. However, I think you can only get it by prescription and care must be used in taking it. Next time you want her to sleep over, she uses the spray and the bed stays dry :)
If you are spreading something personal that she trusted you with over the internet then you certainly don't deserve her you dickhead, have fun with your new mattress - alone.
Putting aside the fact that you're a jerk - I think that's been reiterated enough - why the fuck would you need to buy a new mattress? Do you think kids who very very occasionally wet the bed (eg, I stopped wetting the bed when I was about 3, but it still happened once or twice when I was a kid) get a new mattress every time? Of course not! Steam clean it, air it, spray some Glen 20 on it, and get the fuck over it!
#217 - On 07/06/2009 at 5:46am by plethora
You're an asshole. She probably feels bad enough about this as it is (I'm guessing it's some sort of medical condition) without you being a jerk and posting her personal issues on the internet.
#219 - On 07/06/2009 at 1:02pm by deaditegirl
I hate to be rude, but you sound like a horrible person. She is obviously really emabarassed about her condition, and she finally plucked up the courage to tell you, thinking you would understand, and you're just bitching about it on the internet, saying your life is fucked because of it? You're cruel.
#222 - On 07/06/2009 at 1:49pm by SonicSophie
Dude, if you need to replace your mattress after one incident I feel sorry for you. Life is going to suck big wienies. Don't have kids, or dogs, and especially not ever a cat. Get a mattress cover, a bit of compassion, a clue, and hug your girlfriend.
I do so hope that tonight while you're dreaming away on your lovely mattress that you have a dream you're standing at a urinal...
#223 - On 07/06/2009 at 2:00pm by Bextravaganza
put yourself in his shoes SHE IS AT FAULT she knew she had a problem and didn't tell him or prepare herself first before staying with him this is totally her fuck up not his she should of worn a diaper if she knew she pissed the bed at night
If she had posted this, we would be totally sympathetic. As is, you're an ass to put this on the Internet, and even more of an ass to act like *you've* got it bad.
#228 - On 07/06/2009 at 9:04pm by effed_already
Yeah, she has a problem, but why would you need to replace the mattress. You just need to clean it up. Did you replace your mattress every time you pissed the bed when you were little? I doubt it.
aren't you supposed to be able to solve bed wetting by sleeping in the clothes you wear during the day or something like that?
My ex-girlfriend wet the bed once during the time we lived together and she was seriously ready to just break up with me right then and there because she was so embarrassed. Maybe you don't entirely think of the situation this way, but the way you phrased your post makes you sound like a douchebag.
#232 - On 07/07/2009 at 5:32am by pepperidgefarms
You are an arsehole to your girlfriend.
You have made it clear you aren't the boyfriend she needs as you posted something that appears personal to her over the internet so you can get some sort of sympathy.
yes she should have told you, or atleast had been prepared to stay over.
But it is quite clear that she obviously didnt trust you.
I hope you are happy you not only made an arse of yourself, but just proved to everyone and most probably her that you aren't a trust worthy boyfriend.
#234 - On 07/07/2009 at 8:27am by getawaygirl
If you're hitting it, and you want to continue, wake up and smell the mattress cover son. BFD, she pissed. At least it wasn't other excrement.
1. Ur an ass for posting this here
2. If she had the courage to come over with such a problem she should be praised
3. She went to your place because she LOVED you despite being scared of her problem
4. She should dump you and hook up with me, golden shower galore anyone?
Ew.
23 years old and is still wetting the bed?
She needs to see a doctor or something, that isn’t right.
I mean, it could have been worse...
But she really needs to do something about that... whether its a physical condition or a mental one...
#238 - On 07/07/2009 at 2:38pm by SarlaccBits
People can wet the bed right up into their 40s. Sometimes there is little or nothing you can do about it except buy a waterproof sheet, grin and bear it.
I think your ignorant attitude is more disgusting than her wetting the bed.
#252 - On 07/27/2009 at 2:07pm by SecsNoises
I'm 19 years old and still wet the bed. It's an awful disorder that I'm extremely embarrassed about. I can understand why your girlfriend would not have told you beforehand. If you love her, you will support her and stay with her. As far as your mattress goes, stop being a prick. Buy a mattress pad and get the heck over yourself.
#239 - On 07/07/2009 at 5:23pm by heb777
You shouldn't be mad at her. It's a medical condition and she can't help it. I know cause I have it. It sucks. And I don't blame her for not telling you. You wouldn't believe how many overnight parties that I had to make a dumb excuse for because of it. It's completely embarrasing.
Bleach the mattress, it'll be perfectly fine. Then, ask your girlfriend if she would feel offended if you bought rubber sheets for when she spends the night. You put them on under the regular sheets, and voila.
Just tell her that you love her and want to be with her irregardless of this problem and you can find a solution.
#245 - On 07/08/2009 at 11:15am by Matdredalia
haha i'd laugh if i see an fml:
"today my boyfriend of 8 months dumped me because i still wet the bed, im 23. fml"
Dude, wash the fucking mattress. People get mattresses peed and puked on all the time and they don't instantly run out and replace them because of it. It's why cleaning products were invented. And don't be all pissed off at your girlfriend for having a medical condition. Yeah, it sucks, but it's not her fault. And THIS is probably the reason she never wanted to sleep over. She didn't want you to react like a douchebag. Too bad for her, you failed.
#247 - On 07/09/2009 at 11:08am by PrettyVal
ok.. no one knows who she is so no big deal.
it sucks for both of you..
and obviously he didnt break up with her cause it says he has a 23 year old girlfriend who wets the bed.
that would suck.. not being mean to her.. but it creates issues.. and id be pissed the person didnt tell me about it... like come on who wants to wake up covered in pee? she should have said something.. but ya fherl i feel bad for her still
#250 - On 07/18/2009 at 6:14pm by katiefershady
she was to embarrassed to tell her boyfriend for eight months. she obviously is extremely uncomfertable about her situation and can't help it. he should suck it up and support her... not fucking tell the world
(don't give me any anonymous shit because I'm talking about what she feels not what we think)
fuck if it matters so much to you sleep on a separate mattress
#256 - On 08/16/2009 at 5:48am by benchmetal
Well... there was a reason she didn't want to spend the night! Maybe you should have taken the hint and dropped it!
#251 - On 07/19/2009 at 11:34pm by Leanelle214
Man up and support the girl insread of bitching about it to us. Jeez. I'd rather my bf was a bedwetter than a jerk...
#253 - On 07/27/2009 at 2:13pm by SecsNoises
fuck you man. you asked for it.
yah it may be akward or uncomfertable but still just fucking deal with it
#255 - On 08/16/2009 at 5:43am by benchmetal
This is one of the few FML's that should be kept private and not told to the whole world. Imagine she gets on here and sees your post. That's gonna suck, it's gonna be embarrassing, worst of all, she's gonna bite your head off.
#257 - On 08/30/2009 at 2:02am by Ucla_cupcake
who cares? she can't help it
but yeah it's kinda bad...but you don't have to replace it if it isn't THAT bad...
#259 - On 09/25/2009 at 12:24am by XxCoolPersonxX
dude my best friend has bed wettin problems and has tried every trick in the book to try and stop it! it can't be helped you obviously cant be called a decent boyfriend for one posting her secret on here, 2 takin the mic and 3 believin shes stupid for it!
that must be so horrible for her but then if after one night she ruined the mattress with her bedwetting, then what, does she buy a new mattress every day? i'm guessing not...so even though its not her fault, she should have told you beforehand so you can do something about it!
but fyl? f her life more like!
#261 - On 10/23/2009 at 8:42pm by jeniilouise
