By aabadaba - 01/04/2013 05:23 - United States - La Mirada

Today, my Jewish boyfriend came over for my extended family's Easter party. My grandmother made fun of him for being Jewish so badly, that he left, crying. She doesn't see what she did wrong. FML
I agree, your life sucks 42 474
You deserved it 4 639

Same thing different taste

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I believe in respecting my elders, however is this situation I would have pulled my grandmother aside at the very first comment she made. I would have told her apologize and to change the subject and that if she continued WE would be leaving. Your boyfriend is a guest and should be treated with respect. I know family is important but there are lines you just dont cross. I can't believe you let the insults continue to the point he was crying. It's your family and you needed to have controlled the situation.

olpally 32

Your grandma's a bitch. That's so horrible. Hopefully you'll be able to patch things up with your bf.

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What a moron. (I know I should be respectful, but this is simply bad.)

You don't HAVE to be respectful. Respect is earned, not owed. That's an old **** all right.

Given the fact that her grandmother gave her boyfriend no respect what so ever, I'd say you're in the clear on this one.

Her grandmother didn't think she should be respectful, why would you?

chell1894 13

The people that mainly believe in the "rule" respect your elders are the elders. It's an old saying they use to try to justify when they're rude and ignorant. Respect is earned not just given. I have certain amount of respect for every person. It's their choice if they want to gain more or lose the amount they have. That's like saying you have to respect someone because of their color, background, etc. It just doesn't work that way.

olpally 32

Your grandma's a bitch. That's so horrible. Hopefully you'll be able to patch things up with your bf.

FML has taught me to appreciate the fact that my grandparents died off when I was a small child..

38, That's sad. Who knows if they were sweet or not? I think it's ****** up to be glad anyone died to be honest, it just shows bitterness & hatred on anyone's part.

zero91 4

my grandma is awesome . she supports all my decisions :)

Make fun of her and see how she likes it.

I really want to know what she said now!

Holocaust jokes. He did Nazi them coming.

I was always told to respect mein elders, but people like her are a Germ and should stop offending everyone.

Kampf ve all just get along viz each other please?

That last one was so funny. a LOLocaust if you will.

Please people, stop with the Nazi jokes, they are getting reichdiculous. They're not even heilarious.

Are these Nazi jokes ever Goering to stop?!

I believe in respecting my elders, however is this situation I would have pulled my grandmother aside at the very first comment she made. I would have told her apologize and to change the subject and that if she continued WE would be leaving. Your boyfriend is a guest and should be treated with respect. I know family is important but there are lines you just dont cross. I can't believe you let the insults continue to the point he was crying. It's your family and you needed to have controlled the situation.

That's a mature way to deal with it but not everyone chooses to handle situations like that, they just idly let everything happen & they wonder why things get so bad. OP should have like 7 mentioned, stood up to her family or withdrew right away. But a lot of people don't stand up to any bullying or unfairness on any given situation.

I will always be astounded by the extent family loyalty. Continuing an unhealthy family relationship is just as damaging as any other sour relationship. Stay loyal to those that earn your respect on a consistent basis and distance yourself from those that are damaging. Blood is only so thick, and I'm a metaphorical diabetic.

Awwe. :( go try to comfort and patch things up with him, confront her later.

Grandmothers. Giving us FMLs since the beginning of time.

Maybe she has a problem with juice and she just misheard you.

What a bad example for a Grandma to make, or anyone for that matter. Isn't hospitality important anymore? Making fun of someone because of what they believe is not cool. Sorry for your BF OP.