Today, I finally had time to talk with my boyfriend. We had a nice long conversation, which included him telling me how much I meant to him and that we really need to see each other more often. He concluded the speech twenty minutes later with "Which is why I really hope we can stay friends". FML
I agree, your life sucks (20973) - you totally deserved it (1417)
On 10/11/2009 at 10:53am - love - by Oh_Well (woman) - United States (New Jersey)
Couples can't stay friends after a romantic relationship, it just does not work.
#7 - On 10/11/2009 at 2:37pm by InfectedWithDrew
They can, that is until they meet someone new and it crushes you all over again.
#8 - On 10/11/2009 at 2:40pm by lauralatch
That is completely untrue, #7. Every single ex-girlfriend I have and I are still great friends, and I'm currently in a relationship. And all my relationships are quite romantic.
#9 - On 10/11/2009 at 2:45pm by frenchboy95
Plenty of couples stay friends after romantic relationships...yes its not the most common to to say it never happens is naive. It all depends on the people involved and if they can deal with the demise of the relationship with maturity and respect.
There's nothing immature about not wanting to be friends with someone after a relationship.
FML for having a boyfriend that dumped you but is trying to still be friends. Forget that.
Yeah agreed..at least he was honest and let the OP down gently (unlike some of the FMLs on this site). By the OPs wording she wasnt seeing or talking to her boyfriend often so its kind of understandable that the relationship deteriorated. At least her now ex was mature and handled the breakup like a caring adult even trying to save the friendship. I know breakups always suck, but in the grand scheme of things, this really isnt that bad.
I guess he gets points for honesty, however it sounds like he gave her an effing speech that didn't sound like he was breaking up with her...just to end it with, "Which is why I really hope we can stay friends." That can suck quite a bit. Though it is better than him flat-out TRYING to be a jerk about it.
#25 - On 10/11/2009 at 5:40pm by SoreThroat
So I must wonder... is this his way of breaking up, or of saying "If we DO break up, I hope we can still be friends"?
Because either way sounds valid to me.
#5 - On 10/11/2009 at 2:28pm by DameGreyWulf
Breaking up with someone doesn't make you an asshole right off the bat.
#15 - On 10/11/2009 at 2:55pm by DoomJeff91
Actually, you're right.
No starbucks cookie? Forget the friendship.
#19 - On 10/11/2009 at 4:28pm by Ohnothingreally
You're right, she didn't. D:
End all means of communication now, OP.
#21 - On 10/11/2009 at 4:55pm by Witchcraft
at least he didn't say "it's not you, it's me", right?
#23 - On 10/11/2009 at 5:08pm by whomevermayknow
Wow you should be grateful he didn't dump you like a sack of potatoes. Ge'ez woman. if your so worked up about this, get off the computer and go fix it!
#26 - On 10/11/2009 at 6:57pm by stupiddumbblonde
You disappoint me....
.... because I thought your name said "stupiddumbledore" :c
#27 - On 10/11/2009 at 7:09pm by DameGreyWulf
I thought that too!!
But I agree with you - the OP actually got let down pretty gently, especially taking other break ups on this site into consideration. Boo-hoo. Your boyfriend said lots of nice stuff about you and that he wants to stay friends before breaking up with you. How awful!!
are you sure he was your boyfriend to begin with? ahaha
#31 - On 10/11/2009 at 10:15pm by fuzzy_wuzzy
So now you are just friends with benefits.
Anyone notice there seems like a disproportionate number of FMLs out of New Jersey? Coincidence? I think not... Lol.
Not really. What is your preoccupation with New Jersey, though?
Are you on their "most wanted" list or something?
#38 - On 10/12/2009 at 7:10pm by girlygirl666
omg that sux so bad.. id usually laugh at sumthin like that, but i know that prbly hurts like hell :P
#37 - On 10/12/2009 at 6:32pm by nathaniel6612
