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Today, after thirteen years of engagement, my fiance and I split. As is, with the day, we changed our facebook relationships to make it official. I logged back on tonight to find his mother, the woman I've spent the last year looking after and having a good time, 'liking' the break up. FML

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On 09/15/2009 at 8:10am - love - by ohIlike (woman) - Australia (Western Australia)

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she's a bitch and btw first! :)

#1 - On 09/15/2009 at 2:27pm by DiseasedChimp

you were ENGAGED for 13 whole years without ever tying the knot?

#54 - On 09/15/2009 at 4:52pm by raNDMGUy

thats what I was thinking....what would be the purpose of that? did you get engaged at 16 and you are waiting for him to get established and he still wasnt at 29? I feel sorry for you, this sucks, but didnt you at some point realize he was not serious about it when you were engaged for 13 years?

#57 - On 09/15/2009 at 4:58pm by CDS09

I know thats the first thing i thought. WTF 13 years of engagement. I bet their still virgins :D

LOLOLOL im number 69

#69 - On 09/15/2009 at 5:35pm by CobraKilla

57, you got point!


No seriously what the hell. OP, I bet the mother was like "jesus christ get this bitch away from me, marry her or dump her fuck"

#72 - On 09/15/2009 at 5:48pm by DameGreyWulf

You shouldn't get "engaged" until you are going to start planning a wedding. If you know you're going to be with someone forever, then why not wait to get engaged until you both are ready to start planning?

Like, everyone else, I'm assuming you meant to say months, not years.

13 Years- YDI
13 Months- FYL

#91 - On 09/15/2009 at 9:03pm by wilshires1

You know some people get engaged but decide to not get married because it's too expensive or they dont want to go through the hassle of a wedding or other things but decide to be more than bf and gf but dont want to go through marrige. Jeeze, everyone shouldnt be all why arn't you married!!!

#99 - On 09/15/2009 at 11:04pm by DragonMasterMF

That's understandable and all... but /13 years/ is more than a little much.

#104 - On 09/15/2009 at 11:45pm by DameGreyWulf

You know when you've been "FACEBOOKED". ;)

#110 - On 09/16/2009 at 5:08am by youaresofucked

In all honesty she is supposed to take her son's side... so it may be a comfort thing for all you know.

#2 - On 09/15/2009 at 2:29pm by Crayonic

How is it taking the son's side?

#14 - On 09/15/2009 at 2:40pm by someguy945

Even if she was taking the son's side, it's still really rude to do something like that.. taking someone's side doesn't mean you have to like that she's upset.

#19 - On 09/15/2009 at 2:45pm by shaBAMalex

I agree with #2, it's not like she should like the OP's status. She's not gonna say "My son was a dead weight anyway, you don't need him."

#43 - On 09/15/2009 at 3:45pm by tyhillman

i wouldnt look too far into this. ive seen people "like" people commenting on having colds, being sad a celebrity died, having to work double shifts, etc. people abuse the "like" button like its the only button out there.

#3 - On 09/15/2009 at 2:29pm by plutosaplanet

Yeah theres a lot of times people click the "like" button on facebook when they dont exactly like something but just acknowledging it.

Also if youre really that close with his mother it might be that she knows the relationship wasnt good. When I split from my ex fiance his mother and I stayed in very close contact and she even admitted many times that she thought the breakup was for the best. If it really upsets you that much then talk to her.

#27 - On 09/15/2009 at 3:01pm by SOMAgirl

So you're saying there should be an acknowledge button???
Aren't there enough buttons on Facebook?

#76 - On 09/15/2009 at 6:14pm by Batsumoto

I agree, in the same way that people abuse the "You deserved it" button on FML.

//btw, thinking that posting something to facebook makes it official is a pretty stupid philosophy in general.

#77 - On 09/15/2009 at 6:21pm by Pointy130

Ouch. Stick a pillow over the old bitches face. Also; you should have known once that lucky number 13 rolled around you'd break up. It's just inevitable.

#4 - On 09/15/2009 at 2:29pm by DrunkenValor

WTF thirteen year engagement?!

#5 - On 09/15/2009 at 2:29pm by 52fremont

I agree -- Shit or get off the pot.

Unless you're waiting to graduate from school (And even then -- Why the heck get engaged before graduation?), you stay engaged long enough to plan the wedding and get your house in order.

His mother is probably just happy that now her son has a reasonable chance of getting married before she dies. After a few years, it was probably clear to her that even if the OP was a great gal, there was no marriage in the future.

#13 - On 09/15/2009 at 2:38pm by NDouglas

Ya my engagement was beginning to drag on at 2 years so I set a date and we were only engaged for 3 years holy crap 13?

#45 - On 09/15/2009 at 3:49pm by surger1

Why didnt you get married after that long?

#6 - On 09/15/2009 at 2:29pm by PimpinPenguin

meh just ignore her and give no more fuck about her

#7 - On 09/15/2009 at 2:30pm by mycatjustfarted

why the fuck were u engaged for 13 years???

#8 - On 09/15/2009 at 2:30pm by Standupboi

well, depending on the circumstances of your breakup, she could like the breakup. who really cares what his mom thinks about anyway? you and your bf broke up, it's not like you are going to be spending anymore quality time with her.

#9 - On 09/15/2009 at 2:32pm by tarpack1984

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#10 - On 09/15/2009 at 2:35pm by Twinklestar

YDI it for being engaged for 13 years. Shit on the pot or get off, as I say.

#11 - On 09/15/2009 at 2:36pm by HeroicDude

I totally agree with this. What the fuck were you doing for the past 13 years?

#75 - On 09/15/2009 at 6:04pm by avoidthegirl

The Mailman?

#84 - On 09/15/2009 at 7:55pm by mike1921

ha mike u win

#105 - On 09/16/2009 at 12:26am by aria02

Maybe the mother thought you were too good for her son and didn't know why you were hanging around for 13 years. Honestly, by year 2, I would have been wondering if I had missed the wedding somewhere along the way...

#12 - On 09/15/2009 at 2:36pm by skullbuster

Maybe you can win over the mom of your next 13 year engagement.

#15 - On 09/15/2009 at 2:41pm by mercyFML

Legend. :)

#17 - On 09/15/2009 at 2:43pm by PurpleHaze23

WIN

#61 - On 09/15/2009 at 5:09pm by _THE_MASTER_

That made me laugh so much.

#24 - On 09/15/2009 at 2:55pm by DrunkenValor

That's a masterpiece. Everything I thought in one bovine-themed package. Hats off to you, sir.

#31 - On 09/15/2009 at 3:08pm by pope_suburban

DUDE! Best comment ever! Plex, you just gave me a comment boner!

#39 - On 09/15/2009 at 3:36pm by donkey_hang_down

Welcome to my "thumbs up commenter list"

A+ (with extra credit)

#50 - On 09/15/2009 at 4:18pm by rukusrazor

lmao!! i juss had to see wat plexico said about this one. kick ass!! epic win

#64 - On 09/15/2009 at 5:18pm by yohaun12

"my fiance and I split. As is, with the day, we changed our facebook relationships to make it official"

LOL'd at that being the official way to do things now.

#18 - On 09/15/2009 at 2:45pm by wozer

Agreed with #18, lol.

#21 - On 09/15/2009 at 2:52pm by fudrick

haha, I thought the same exact thing.

#63 - On 09/15/2009 at 5:13pm by hothotheat_

Exactly what I thought. That alone made me click YDI.
Oh and also the fact that they stayed engaged for 13 years.

#109 - On 09/16/2009 at 5:01am by barlessprison

thirteen actual years of being engaged? really? then you were never really going to get married believe it

#20 - On 09/15/2009 at 2:46pm by gpstyne

YDI for being engaged for 13 years. There's no excuse for an engagement to last that long other than neither of you were actually committed to the relationship to begin with.

Give me your Facebook account, so I can press "Like" on the break-up too.

#22 - On 09/15/2009 at 2:53pm by dsl135

What a waste of 13 years of your life. Not that I would ever wait so long to get married after an engagement (I think 2 years is a max and only if we are waiting for me to finish college or if we had definitive wedding arrangements set), but after a fucking decade went by did you really think you were actually going to get married? Even your ex's mother knew it... fuck I would have had the same response as her. YDI

#23 - On 09/15/2009 at 2:53pm by jailbot

YDI for being engaged for 13 years and never getting married.

#25 - On 09/15/2009 at 2:56pm by hempat

Judging by the comment about "spending the last year" sucking up to the mother, I'm assuming that the OP probably meant a 13 MONTH engagement.

#26 - On 09/15/2009 at 3:00pm by absolute

I'm going to go ahead and second this. 13 Months. MONTHS!

#68 - On 09/15/2009 at 5:28pm by _insertnamehere_

I know it's mean but....YDI for being engaged for 13 years. Sorry but if you really loved eachother you would have gotten married like 12 years ago. Unless of course you meant to say thirteen months. Then YDI for not proof reading. >__>

#28 - On 09/15/2009 at 3:03pm by alixe

You've been engaged for thirteen years??
Why the hell did you never get married, that's the only thing i was wondering!

#29 - On 09/15/2009 at 3:04pm by Djoooiz

YDI for waiting so effing long. And YDI for considering "Facebook-official" to be the kind that really matters. But YLIF for her apparently having no gratitude for your looking after her. I can at least dignify that part with an "Ouch!"

#30 - On 09/15/2009 at 3:04pm by BeeSkwaird

13 years? Lady, it was never going to happen anyway.

#32 - On 09/15/2009 at 3:16pm by ozymandias

You DON'T deserve it. Guys, really, there was a reason they waited so long with an engagement. If they'd gotten married 12 years ago, then they'd most likely STILL be breaking up now...except then they'd have to go through all the divorce papers and all that legal junk.. and she'd get half his stuff, money and all. You don't know their situation. Maybe they were out of work, trying to find enough money to pay for a wedding. Or he was in the military or something. You never know. And the facebook bit... well, yeah, if it says you're in a relationship on there, you're gonna change it to single when that relationship ends. I'm pretty sure that's what he meant.

#33 - On 09/15/2009 at 3:20pm by Night_Owl

13 years of engagement? what, did you get engaged at the age of 15 and when you finally realized what it meant, you were feeling too stupid to back down? xD

#34 - On 09/15/2009 at 3:23pm by ForWhatItsWorth

After 13 years of engagement? There's no way you were surprised...

#35 - On 09/15/2009 at 3:28pm by Sammara

you deserve it for being engaged for thirteen years.
jeeze, you're worse than pam & roy! X)

#36 - On 09/15/2009 at 3:29pm by ceecee794

Where you engaged to his mom? Then STFU about it! She is probably just glad that her son isnt marrying a pathetic whore like you.

#37 - On 09/15/2009 at 3:33pm by donkey_hang_down

Why has Facebook become the center of the universe? Seriously.

#38 - On 09/15/2009 at 3:35pm by redbluegreen

Lol facebook, get a life

#40 - On 09/15/2009 at 3:38pm by Fenix0147

Thirteen years of engagement? YDI for waiting for marriage for that long, should have broke it off ten years ago.

#41 - On 09/15/2009 at 3:41pm by Broeman

Sorry... YDI. Why the fuck were you engaged for 13 years??? I just got engaged last month and we set a date 2 years in the future but that's because we're both broke college students. 13 years is more than a bit much! And as for Facebook making things official... Please OP get a life.

#42 - On 09/15/2009 at 3:41pm by JessAngelus

She probably couldn't take the suspense.

#44 - On 09/15/2009 at 3:46pm by aback

YDI for getting so serious over a fucking social networking site.

#46 - On 09/15/2009 at 3:51pm by accadacca

Well she's his mom, did you expect to be good ol' buddies afterwards?
And a 13 year engagement holy crap

#47 - On 09/15/2009 at 3:52pm by sublime93

YDI
YDI for thinking you were engaged for 13 yrs.
YDI for saying "As is, with the day"
YDI for puting it on Facebook
YDI for having fun looking after the old broad
YDI for checking his facebook
YDI for giving a F what she thinks now

#48 - On 09/15/2009 at 4:03pm by kukopia

ARRRRGH

YDI FOR YDI

#49 - On 09/15/2009 at 4:15pm by InfectedWithDrew

Are we sure OP didn't mean 13 months? She did say she's hung out with the mom for the last year, so maybe it's a typo. At least I hope so. 13 years is WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY too long to be engaged.

#51 - On 09/15/2009 at 4:18pm by perstephane

Were you guys engaged since 3rd grade, or was that a typo?

Either way I get the feeling you're both still very immature.

#52 - On 09/15/2009 at 4:28pm by Nakedsquirrel

Really, you fucked 13 years of your life on a failed engagement? FYL

#53 - On 09/15/2009 at 4:31pm by Sungod

YDI for not getting married sooner. 13 years of an engagement is just saying I CAN STILL CHEAT AND I DONT NEED TO GO THROUGH ANY DIVORCE SHIT

#55 - On 09/15/2009 at 4:54pm by Mauskau

YDI for waiting for 13 years... and u call urself a woman!

#56 - On 09/15/2009 at 4:55pm by shekhar

ydi for both taking 13 years and considering it official only once it is done on facebook.

#58 - On 09/15/2009 at 5:00pm by mister_moops

hate to tell you, but you weren't engaged. He was just using you without having to provide for you. YDI.

#59 - On 09/15/2009 at 5:01pm by Bob31

Why were you engaged for that long?

#60 - On 09/15/2009 at 5:06pm by mrlucky4444

How much of nerd are you???

honestly.. its only "official" when its on facebook! lmfao

#62 - On 09/15/2009 at 5:12pm by omgwhatanfml

'We changed our Facebook relationships to make it official'
Wow.
13 years of your otherwise still pathetic life wasted.

#65 - On 09/15/2009 at 5:19pm by xCharlotte

YDI for being engaged for 13 years.

#66 - On 09/15/2009 at 5:19pm by melange

Frankly you should have seen it coming after thirteen years of being engaged.

#67 - On 09/15/2009 at 5:21pm by Serafie

I would think that being engaged for thirteen years is worse. come one...thirteen years..if you didnt get married after 13 years it obviously wasnt that important.

#70 - On 09/15/2009 at 5:40pm by elfin_queen

Haha you should have gotten the hint you weren't getting married ofter 13 "years" of engagement! xD

#71 - On 09/15/2009 at 5:43pm by Myspace

You deserve it if you're immature enough to think changing your relationship status on Facebook makes it 'official'.

#73 - On 09/15/2009 at 5:59pm by Reifier

13 years??? WTF, weren't you sure he was the one after 13 years!!! After 13 years it is no longer an engagement its a defacto relationship as they say in Oz and how old are you that you have to post it on Facebook to make it official?

#74 - On 09/15/2009 at 6:04pm by patticake1601

13 years???? Either you were a kid when you got together or your man couldn't commit. You are better off without him and his mama.

#78 - On 09/15/2009 at 6:42pm by Lisasimpsonfan

Sorry, but YDI if you've been engaged 13 years with no wedding plans. Or did you mean 13 months?

#79 - On 09/15/2009 at 6:49pm by zipit66

Yeah, I'm gonna agree with the afore-posited Thirteen Month Theorem. While one of my life maxims is "Never say somebody is too stupid to do something," I've never, ever heard of anyone actually being engaged that long.

That in mind, FYL for having to call off your wedding / not having a clue your mother-in-law-to-be didn't like you, but I gotta turn around and say YDI for using facebook as a means of legitimacy for anything, ever.

#80 - On 09/15/2009 at 7:07pm by BlueBomber

You think the 13 years of engagement had anything to do with it? That is a crappy situation... but seriously. 13 years.

#82 - On 09/15/2009 at 7:44pm by meadowlark

Thirteen years!?

#83 - On 09/15/2009 at 7:55pm by annamg

thirteen fucking years ?! no wonder ! what did you expect

#85 - On 09/15/2009 at 8:13pm by sugar_407

U changed ur FACEBOOK relationship status to make it OFFICIAL!?!! FYL indeed.

#86 - On 09/15/2009 at 8:15pm by yisrab

A thirteen year engagement????

You are the world's biggest sucker.

#87 - On 09/15/2009 at 8:49pm by Flanker

i think she meant 13 MONTHS...thus knowing the mother for a year.

#88 - On 09/15/2009 at 8:55pm by allocomrade

I find it sad that in order to make it "offical" you have to post it on Facebook.

#89 - On 09/15/2009 at 8:57pm by lastminuteperm

FAIL! Using Facebook to officially end the relationship! WTF!!! FAIL!!!!

#90 - On 09/15/2009 at 9:01pm by lobby0ne

wow, Im really sorry about that. But maybe after 13 years, you should've seen the sings that commitment wasnt going to happen. Look at this as a way to try new things! :)

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anyways, as for my comment. YFDI ("F" intended) i have never heard of anyone in this world who had been engaged for 13 fucking years. wtf are you waiting for? i hope idiots like you and ur ex are removed off the face of the planet.
sorry fml for not being respectful, but honestly....wtf.

#97 - On 09/15/2009 at 10:51pm by drummer4life

Lame. YDI just because someone "liked" that he changed his "facebook" "relationship status." Who the hell cares?

#94 - On 09/15/2009 at 10:10pm by Vaetrus

13 years? what were you waiting for.

#95 - On 09/15/2009 at 10:24pm by alsoelp

it's been asked a million times before me: why the fuck were you engaged for 13 years?!!

#98 - On 09/15/2009 at 11:00pm by flyboy57

who the fuck is fucking engaged for thirteen mothafuckin years?

#100 - On 09/15/2009 at 11:05pm by aaaaa12345

YDI for letting an engagement drag on for 13 years.

#101 - On 09/15/2009 at 11:23pm by cat83

13 years is 12 to many

#102 - On 09/15/2009 at 11:26pm by thefury

engaged for 13 years? whoa. the point of a marriage proposal is for you to marry the man, which is usually a few months to a year or two. but 13 years? hm.

and by the way, changing your facebook relationship status does not make it official. legal documents make it official. your facebook status should not have been the first thing you wanted to do when you split.

#103 - On 09/15/2009 at 11:41pm by triplethreat13

I hate to say it but YDI...after the first 3-5 years of engagement, you should have known something was up.

#106 - On 09/16/2009 at 1:25am by shaerbear00

why does Facebook have to make everything official?? I think that people put too much stock into that site!

#107 - On 09/16/2009 at 1:54am by Babybluerose

You let him string you along for 13 years?
Come on lady...

I'd feel bad for you if it was like, three years... but over five and it's pretty clear he was just humoring you.

#108 - On 09/16/2009 at 1:58am by Neep

I suppose your mother is only honest with you on facebook? No? Then STFU

#111 - On 09/16/2009 at 5:23am by pbuk

since when does facebook make ANYTHING official? ydi on that basis alone.

#112 - On 09/16/2009 at 5:37am by Nightfallz

It's bizarre and sad at the same time how Facebook has practically become an indispensable part of our lives.

#113 - On 09/16/2009 at 11:30am by eightlaura

speak for yourself and all the other e-diots out there. Facebook is something i have, but it isn't "an indispensible part of my life" the most time i even spend on it is for bejewled blitz.(kills time at work, when there was work anyway ...=(... )

so continue on with your sad little E-life, because you're too sad and pathertic to have a real one. but it's o.k., facebook can be indispensible for people like you.

#114 - On 09/16/2009 at 12:17pm by _THE_MASTER_

Haha someone got a little touchy about a generalized statement. Go fuck yourself.

#118 - On 09/17/2009 at 8:23pm by 52fremont

Hypocrisy, thy name is what?

#127 - On 09/24/2009 at 6:11pm by ForWhatItsWorth

ydi for a 13 yr engagement

#115 - On 09/17/2009 at 2:02am by Swirvia

If you have to make it "Official" via facebook, then I'm sorry but you deserve the "Like" given by your former mother-in-law. ;D

#116 - On 09/17/2009 at 6:00pm by holdondear

YDI for letting your fiancé use and abuse you for 13 years. Women like this are why so many guys refuse to commit- because women will let them have the milk and the cheese and the sour cream for free for 13 years, anyway.

#117 - On 09/17/2009 at 8:00pm by karinachka25

look at it from another point of view.
at least right now you don't have to spend money on lawyers for divorce paper and don't have to go thru the hassels to change your name back. and you are going to meet a great guy.
your ex is an ass.

#119 - On 09/18/2009 at 1:20am by juneping

I can see that happening to me :( *hug*

#120 - On 09/18/2009 at 2:37am by ambatron

this is why old people should get lives instead of getting facebook.

#121 - On 09/19/2009 at 12:34am by tarheelbaby

after 13 years with no real committment.....(an engagement is easily broken) it's not that much of a surprise that you broke up. and maybe your ex-fiancees mother is just using all the bitchiness she missed out on using when she was going to be your mother-in-law because we all know they're evil.

#122 - On 09/19/2009 at 8:48pm by pinkprincess9113

Something like this happened to me too. My girl friend broke up with me after two years, and her father pressed the like button when her relationship status went from "in a relationship" to "single." This is the same guy who does every thing he can do to not acknowledge me when I'm visiting and told his wife that he thought I'd beat his daughter... even though I've never laid a finger on her and never would. Well, we're secretly back together now. I can't wait to see what he does with her relationship status goes from "single" to "in a relationship."

#123 - On 09/20/2009 at 9:42pm by salveamicus

i hate old people on facebook... its just wrong

#124 - On 09/20/2009 at 10:46pm by abu3mair

why in the hell would you stay engaged for thirteen years!?!?

#125 - On 09/21/2009 at 11:13pm by bookworm_x

YDI for calling facebook "official"

#126 - On 09/23/2009 at 8:30pm by jebusandme

I'm assuming they lived together for some portion of that 13 years?

In Western Australia, they may have qualified for a de facto relationship which is similar to US common law marriage

#128 - On 09/29/2009 at 1:40pm by Xader

Why the hell did you not get married sooner? 13 years of engagement? Are you insane?

#129 - On 10/13/2009 at 4:57pm by Flamingmonkey923

can you blame her? thirteen years. mothers don't like to see their children in relationships that aren't going anywhere.

#130 - On 11/18/2009 at 1:15pm by Silentknight

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