Today, I ran into my ex-boyfriend who dumped me after 2 1/2 years because I got fat. The last two years I've lost 68 lbs, am happier and couldn't wait to shove that in his face. So, of course the first time he see's me I'm alone, pushing a shopping cart full of ice cream for a party later. FML
I agree, your life sucks (34419) - you totally deserved it (3409)
On 07/08/2009 at 9:28pm - love - by WeightAMinute (woman) - United States (Illinois)
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HA
FUCKING FIRST AGAIN
BITCHES!!
#1 - On 07/09/2009 at 3:22am by blackscent
(+3)Fuck off, no one gives a shit if your first.
And OP that sucks, but oh well. Who cares what a jackass thinks of you.
(+2)at least you lost the weight ...who cares what anyone else thinks... its how you feel about yourself is what counts....
(+2)Well I wonder if she would have lost the weight if he didn't dump her. That's the real question.
#60 - On 07/09/2009 at 11:51am by genius_man16
(+1)I am not bothered if someone's first. I actually kind of like it, but don't be an obnoxious jerk about it. Didn't you even have a comment at all??? That had the distinct air of douchey-ness, guy.
(0)#5 you're the man (goat?) and 36 you're absolutley right.
#101 - On 02/20/2010 at 10:45pm by Trevv
(+3)He'll still have noticed that you're looking foxy nowadays. He's a guy. They don't miss that kinda thing. =]
#2 - On 07/09/2009 at 3:22am by kenzierosaline
(+5)^^ she knows whats up.
Also, awesome nickname OP.
#20 - On 07/09/2009 at 4:09am by my_fml_account
(+3)Thought? What if she actually DID gain weight? Not that it's a good reason to end a relationship, but somebody's weight is not a matter of opinion.
#4 - On 07/09/2009 at 3:28am by Tubasaurus
(0)So, if you're dating someone you no longer find attractive, are you supposed to just... what? pretend?
(+3)Man, screw that fucker for dumping you, he should have supported you and been concerned for your health, rather than just dropping you. Great job on losing the weight though! And i'm sure he noticed it too. Have fun at your party!
(0)Well wouldn't she sorta be rewarding him if she screwed him?
#14 - On 07/09/2009 at 3:49am by deathbunny256
(0)Well she did end up losing the weight because of his actions.
It wasnt a break up, it was an intervention.
(0)Wow that's serious bad luck LOL
Imagine what's running through his head seeing you with all that ice cream...
(+2)All that matters is....You ain't fat anymore!
So, fuck his life for dumping you for a stupid reason.
#8 - On 07/09/2009 at 3:31am by justxmyxluck
(0)stuff like this always seems to happen to me... except my weight has never been a concern... but similar stuff. it sucks I'm sorry
(+1)Im with the second poster, he noticed that for sure. He was probably so focused on how good YOU look he probably didnt even notice what you had in your cart... or that you were even pushing a cart in the first place! Congrats and good for you for worrying about your health not your @sshole ex!
(0)OP, I think the fact that you lost a whopping 68 pounds WAY overrides the fact that you were buying a lot of ice cream. Not like a few cartons of ice cream is gonna make you gain back 68 pounds... maybe your ridiculous insecurity of what you're seen buying/eating is what's keeping you thin. HEALTHY. :D
This calls for a "so what? stop whining" button. A normal person would've loved for this to happen to them.
(+1)Eat your ice cream!
Nothing's more fun than a party in your tummy! XP
Besides, he's an ass.
#16 - On 07/09/2009 at 3:58am by Niko_Peiko_Boo
(+3)But would you have tried to get fit if he did not dump you?
#21 - On 07/09/2009 at 4:15am by neburus
(+2)I agree,its sad that hes that shallow to break up with you based on your weight,BUT you got the motivation to lose it and who knows maybe you will find the love of your life!!Be sure to thank your ex when you do=)
(+2)Just because he saw you with a cart full of ice cream doesn't mean that you don't look physically different than when he last saw you, and as you make it sound, a lot better. So no worries!
Congratulations, because you seem a lot better off without him =)
Hm... #21/neburus may have a point, though. Sometimes, as sad as it is, the most hurtful comments can act as a catalyst for some people to make big changes.
#22 - On 07/09/2009 at 4:20am by englishmuffin
(0)Wow what a dbag. He didn't have to break up to you. When my boy friend got fat I said "hey let's go running together" and started cooking him healthy meals, I didn't dump his ass. Jeez.
(+1)This reminds me of a Friends episode. Sort of.
But hey, whatever motivates you.
Enjoy your party and you go eat that ice cream.
#23 - On 07/09/2009 at 4:21am by redbluegreen
(+1)Yea :D when they all find out that Monica lost weight because Chandler called her fat...I love that episode.
#37 - On 07/09/2009 at 6:12am by Puolukka
(0)How did you know that was the only reason he dumped you? You think the guy liked everything else about you but could not abide your fat ass? I think you're insecure. Buying ice cream. What a pity excuse for an FML.
#24 - On 07/09/2009 at 4:29am by christopherlove
(+3)If you gained those 68 pounds while you were with him in the first place, YDI. If a person lets themselves go and you're not even in a committed relationship, they have a right to end it if they're not attracted to you anymore. Who knows, if he hadn't done it, maybe you would never have been inspired to drop the weight again.
(0)Exactly. Everyone rushes to the defense of people who get dumped because they put on weight, but what happens to a person's health once they enter a relationship says a lot about them as a person. Either they aren't capable of looking after themselves well enough to maintain a healthy weight, or they don't care enough about their partner to maintain a healthy weight. Either way, they shouldn't be in the relationship. Appearance matters, you don't date a person to whom feel no physical attraction. "Letting yourself go" once you enter a relationship shows an incredible amount of disrespect to your partner. Learn to look after yourself before you get into a relationship, and don't stop once you're in one.
(+1)what's in the cart shouldn't matter...it's all about the junk in the trunk
#28 - On 07/09/2009 at 4:42am by mjsmclaren
(+1)you GO girl! Good job for losing the 68 pounds! I'm proud of you!
#29 - On 07/09/2009 at 5:10am by The_Dreamer
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omg how much did you weigh when he dumped you if you lost 68 Lbs
LOL i would have dumped you 40Lbs before that
bahahahhahahaha
(0)Dnb23- go fuck your self, you ugly piece of shit. It's sad that I know you're ugly by not even knowing what you look like.
(0)so how is this a fml again? you wanted to be a bitch to your ex and it backfired?
#33 - On 07/09/2009 at 5:31am by Nightfallz
(0)i really don't see how she was being a bitch. so what if she wanted to show him what he was missing. he deserved it for being so unsupportive by dumping her.
congratulations on losing the weight btw.
#53 - On 07/09/2009 at 10:53am by kcslgvr
(0)and 32 in no way can you base hid looks off of his comment. you apparently have some anger issues to work out
#34 - On 07/09/2009 at 5:34am by Nightfallz
(0)I hope you didn't want to get back together with him! Screw him
#35 - On 07/09/2009 at 6:09am by spillproof
(0)I think the concern is that if he notices her weight so much to the point that he dumped her because of it, then he might notice what she had in her cart. it's just a bit of an ironic situation - she wants to show off how thin and healthy she's been but she has something unhealthy in her cart. he sounds like a douche, so good for you for losing the weight AND him!
#38 - On 07/09/2009 at 7:06am by heyyou1203
(0)If you were as happy as you said, you wouldn't even care about this guy anymore.
#41 - On 07/09/2009 at 8:47am by fenrisulfr
(0)YDI for trying to impress a guy who dumped you just because you became fat!
#42 - On 07/09/2009 at 8:50am by Oqueeumeri
(0)Screw him. Be happy for yourself and don't base it on other people.
#45 - On 07/09/2009 at 9:25am by Essentials
(0)Obviously your ex is a shallow jackass. Why the hell do you even care what he thinks?
#46 - On 07/09/2009 at 9:45am by Kandyland
(0)Shallow for not wanting to date a fat fuck? I'd do the same thing. I hope you thanked him for getting you to lose the weight.
(+1)Lol. That's when you grin and say, "See, I told you it wasn't the ice cream; this is all I eat now and just look at me!" Haha.
#48 - On 07/09/2009 at 10:17am by FreedomFirst
(0)let me clarify this: In order to celebrate the fact that you have slimmed down, you are going to party and eat a lot of things (ice-cream being one of them), which would end up in you gaining weight?
(0)Congrats on the weight loss! Takes alot of discipline to do that!
and #49, She's buys ice cream for a party she's throwing... When I throw a party, I buy alot of things I dont have myself, like Cranberry juice to mix with vodka, I dont drink it though!! Or chocolate cake (I only eat vanilla) just because you're having a party, doesnt mean you're eating everything you're serving! Idiocy..
#51 - On 07/09/2009 at 10:48am by PakiPakiPaki
(0)he made you a better person.
and you were 68 pounds thinner when he saw you!
#52 - On 07/09/2009 at 10:48am by sarahlaplante
(0)if he dumped you just because of your size, he obviously didn't care about you. if he really loved you he would stay with you despite gaining weight because he would be so attracted to your personality that you gaining weight would not make him leave. it's better off that he left you. now, 68 pounds lighter, you can get back out there and find a real man to love you.
hope you had fun at your party!
#55 - On 07/09/2009 at 10:59am by kcslgvr
(0)Just what world are you living in? I bet you're one of those douchebags who goes around prattling about how we should love other people for who they are and for what they look like without realizing that what you look like IS a part of who you are.
OP: YDI for being an insecure bitch who had to hang onto this grudge for two years just to try to throw it back in his face. YDI it even more if you got fat while you were dating him and then expected him to neither notice nor care.
(0)I agree that he was a jerk for dumping you because you gained weight. But at the same time why do you decide to try hard to lose the weight after he breaks up with you. Even though a good relationship stuff like that doesnt matter, but it is always nice if both people take care of themselves, so you have the love part of the relationship and the physical attraction part. But then again i dont know your relationship and he could of been an a hole and not even supporting you to lose the weight and be healthier.
(0)maybe she wanted to boost her self esteem, maybe she wanted to change her thoughts, keep herself busy... God, you're not the brightest light in the Christmas tree are you?
#71 - On 07/09/2009 at 2:05pm by PakiPakiPaki
(0)Who cares? You lost weight, good for you. He's a douche, what good guy dumps someone because they put on some weight? You deserve better, or rather, no one deserves such a shallow guy. And why should you care what he thinks about what is in your cart? I gave this a YDI for caring what someone equally as shallow thinks.
(0)It shouldn't be weight gain that ends a relationship, but at the same time it shouldn't take a breakup to convince someone to lose weight. No matter what anyone says, there's nothing shallow about dumping someone because they've let themselves go. When you're not in a committed relationship, mutual attraction is extremely important and when that fades, the person is left to decide if this is what they want to spend the rest of their life with.
No one would be calling a woman a shallow cunt for dumping an alcoholic or 24/7 gamer, even if they were all-around nice guys. If they're unwilling to change while in the relationship, then the significant other has every right to get out before a commitment's been made.
I also find it nigh impossible to click FYL when you wanted to "throw that in his face." Looks like you were not only fat, but very immature and petty. There were probably multiple reasons he dumped you.
#62 - On 07/09/2009 at 12:15pm by Nakedsquirrel
(0)2 1/2 years is a long time to lose 68 Lbs unless your not exerising everyday I used to weight 397 now I wiegh about 214 in about 1 1/4 years ( diet, bicyling and swimming)
(0)I think she dated the guy for 2 1/2 years not they broke up 2 1/2 years ago, not positive but thats what it sounds like
#68 - On 07/09/2009 at 1:49pm by itsallgood123
(0)don't you worry about that sweetie ;-)
who cares about what that bastard thinks? the hell with him!
#65 - On 07/09/2009 at 1:25pm by who_rollerpig
(0)You have got to be kidding me, I am pretty sure that if he didn't dump you, you wouldn't have lost that weight. It serves you right if you think just because you have your "man" that you can let yourself go and get fat, kudos to him for realizing what was happening and getting out of it as fast as possible. hopefully you learned your lesson and the next time you get a boyfriend you wont buy all that ice cream for yourself again
(0)Have you not noticed, that MEN mostly, let themselves go in a commited relationship? After a man gets married, he usually gets fat. Why? Well.... Wifey cooks, he aint only making hot dogs and KD for himself no more... Work gets more stressfull when you have to provide for a family, they indulge in comfort food. If you're telling me that you will be skinny your whole life, well good luck my friend.
#72 - On 07/09/2009 at 2:07pm by PakiPakiPaki
(0)WOW... it's been 2 1/2 years and you still "can't wait to shove that in his face."
You have issues if you still are resentful more than 2 years later. Look at the facts here:
1. You were very overweight, if you lost 68 pounds.
2. He did you a favor, if dumping you motivated you to lose 68 pounds.
3. If you really are happier now, you should be thankful that he dumped you.
There is nothing to "shove in his face". Get over it, or get some therapy for your repressed anger.
(+1)They dated 2 1/2 years. It's been two years since they broke up.
Of course there was something to shove in his face, he dumped her after 2 1/2 years because of her weight. Sure, looks are important, but he could have suggested they go to the gym together or diet. He didn't have to dump her. That's an asshole thing to do to somebody after 2 1/2 years of being together. Apparently, he didn't really love her enough to stay with her and help her with her weight.
Obviously he wasn't in it for the long haul because once you've been with someone for, oh let's say, 50 years, you're both probably a little fatter, saggier, wrinklier, greyer, hairier (except on your head). It would have been worse if OP had stayed with him that long and got dumped then.
(0)lol, i think my friends girl friend should start doing what you did and loose some damn extra weight. i'm tired of her weighing my car down when i drive her places.
and good for you loosing weight =)
#70 - On 07/09/2009 at 2:03pm by missyedges1
(+1)why are you driving her places if you dont like her? She's not your GF, shes your friends GF.
#73 - On 07/09/2009 at 2:13pm by PakiPakiPaki
(0)i never said i didnt like her. shes just annoyingly fat.
she also pays me a lot of money for gas.
#86 - On 07/10/2009 at 1:56am by missyedges1
(+1)Well, what if he thinks the ice cream is for you? I bet u look amazing, that's what counts. I'm sure he's regreting dmping u
#75 - On 07/09/2009 at 3:29pm by ilovekarma
(0)Oh, yeah, sure, pretend the ice cream was for a *Party.*
Don't worry, we all know that you're gonna dip into a carton or two after that encounter.
#76 - On 07/09/2009 at 4:14pm by Shlizabeth
(0)As many of you know, I don't go in for poking fun of the fat people and I have had some arguments with other commenters over it. And you can claim it is on par with pouncing on drug addicts, alcoholics, etc (being fat doesn't impair you to a degree where you can hurt others). But it's not the same, because we have at least 2 categories - fat due to illness or fat due to overeating. The first category can't help it, and the second one is moving the US economy forward much faster than the stick people, some examples:
1) More groceries! Those chains are in the black because of the fat people. Just look at OP, she is buying out the whole damned ice cream section! PROFITS...
2) Greater tendency for health problems. The doctors are cashing in, and the labs, and the hospitals, and the pharmaceuticals. When the OP eats enough of that Ice Cream, her arteries are going to clog and that will result in hospital fees, blood work, doctor's fees, surgical costs and RXs.
3) Therapists! Just look here, obviously this lady needs some intensive therapy if she gives two shits about some asshole boyfriend that dumped her 2.5 years ago. She could keep some Dr. in summer vacations for years to come. And then she will be bolstering the economy of the vacation community as well.
4) Bigger cars that cost more! Fat people don't fit in a Kia Accent peeps. The bloating alone from eating a cart full of Ice Cream will make it impossible to mount the driver's seat of that Toyota Echo.
5) Jobs! The weight loss industry employs thousands upon thousands - and those snake oil salesmen are propping up dozens of industries (real estate, shipping, packaging, advertising, etc etc etc).
I could go on and on. But, OP, I have to tell you I'm not buying this whole *party* concept. I say pack on the pounds!!! It's just more of you to love. And they don't call them love handles for nothing, what is your man going to grab on to while he is pounding you in the ass? Don't be ashamed, you go ahead and eat every last drop of that Ice Cream no matter what these insensitive bastards may say!
#78 - On 07/09/2009 at 4:41pm by skullbuster
(0)You are a real as*hole. I'm so glad I don't know you. This class of 8th grade boys I was chaperoning yesterday had one like you in the bunch and everyone hates him because even 8th grade boys know that people like you are unbearable.
(0)oh well atleast u lost weight.... and fuck him if he dumped u for being fat...... its not what u look like its who u are...... ulll find a good dude some day ahaha :D
#80 - On 07/09/2009 at 7:43pm by smileygirl123
(0)So what, don't let him make you feel bad! You really shouldn't care what he thinks of you now. It was shallow of him to dump you for being fat and cruel for him to tell you that was the reason.
At least you took it as motivation to get healthier, so next time you see him just ignore his dumb ass.
#81 - On 07/09/2009 at 9:29pm by weirdgirl_sf
(0)I don't undestand some of you people. Maybe her ex had been telling her to lose weight and she hadn't or possibly she didnt need to lose all that weight. Maybe she was only really 40 pounds over weight and decided to lose the extra 28 that she didnt necessarily need to. They both have some growing up to do. Her ex needs to stop being a physical attraction dick and the OP needs to let a freakin' grudge go! But by all means, congrats on the excellent weight loss.
#84 - On 07/09/2009 at 11:13pm by just_because19
(0)OP, as long as your happy about how you look, that's what matters.
#88 - On 07/10/2009 at 6:56am by itouchguy360
(0)68 lbs? I sincerely hope you were really, *really* fat beforehand...because that's a lot.
#90 - On 07/10/2009 at 11:12pm by l33tm0nk3y
(0)Who cares if he saw you with ice cream. He doesnt and shouldnt matter anymore....If someone really loves you they dont dump you for getting 'fat'. They help you through and love you all the same. Yes hes shallow and as long as shes happy and healthy who cares if she wants to splurge on ice cream everynow and then.
(0)i really, really hope 78 was bing sarcastic....
and...who cares? i wouldn't care about my ex from 2 years back
(0)Oh, believe me, OP, all he saw was you looking awesome. You can't miss -68 pounds on a person. :)
