You must be kidding

By Hurt - 30/12/2022 18:00

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Today, my husband of 6 years told me he has a 5 year-old. In fact, she was conceived the night before our wedding. Apparently, the “one last time fuck as a single man” with his female bestie was too good of an opportunity to pass up. He doesn’t get why I’m not speaking to him. FML
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Habacadavarus 12

Don't let anyone tell you leave him or stay. anything you do is something you have to accept one way or the other. If he had told you then, how would you have felt? He never gave you the chance to decide, instead he betrayed you and kept that truth from you to protect his interests. It's not something anyone should dismiss lightly. You don't have to forgive him and you don't have to let it go. How you deal with it needs to feel right for you and only if you choose to include him in that, should how he feel even matter.

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1known 30

No further involvement? He has a child, so yes there is an ongoing involvement. One that will last all his life. As for people who say he didn’t cheat, I doubt they were in an open relationship.

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Chazzster 28

I understand your feelings - You just recently found out you were cheated on 6 years ago… But as bad as this was, if it was 6 years ago with no further involvement, maybe you should learn to let it go. I know feelings are not logical, but if you cannot get past this it’s going to cost you and your husband a marriage.

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1known 30

No further involvement? He has a child, so yes there is an ongoing involvement. One that will last all his life. As for people who say he didn’t cheat, I doubt they were in an open relationship.

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Habacadavarus 12

Don't let anyone tell you leave him or stay. anything you do is something you have to accept one way or the other. If he had told you then, how would you have felt? He never gave you the chance to decide, instead he betrayed you and kept that truth from you to protect his interests. It's not something anyone should dismiss lightly. You don't have to forgive him and you don't have to let it go. How you deal with it needs to feel right for you and only if you choose to include him in that, should how he feel even matter.

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RichardPencil 30

Well, he didn't cheat on you before he made the official promise not to. So, there's that.

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vchan 20

So according to him being in a relationship, being engaged is « being single »? And unmarried couples don’t know the concept of fidelity ? Furthermore, unless his best friend just told him he was the father, it means he LIED to you for years about the existence of HIS child. Would he have accepted the reverse (you having a child from a pre-marriage one night stand)? Do you want to spend the rest of your life with someone with that mindset ?

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ODBeefalo 10

I don't get his line of thinking. is it not cheating while officially dating? or being engaged? is there some dictionary definition I am missing where it only applies to married people? also, if he is finding loopholes in basic decency, op may want to figure out exactly how many loop holes he thinks he found...

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Sonotsuave 35

Yeah that’s ex husband you mean

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