44
FML - The follow-up

Today, my mom figured that the best time to announce that I'm adopted was during her speech at my wedding. FML

DidNotExpectThat Say more :
OP here. My wedding was 3 weeks ago. Thanks for your kind comments, but no my mom wasn't drunk (she never drinks). I had a long conversation with her and my dad. Turns out she couldn't keep it to herself any longer. I'm no longer mad at her since she told me the whole story. Both my parents always told me a lot about their deceased best friend whom I'm named after. I'm actually that friend's daughter and my family took me in when both my biological parents died in a car accident when I was 3 months old. In a way, I know my biological parents through the memories of my adoptive parents. I've never suspected a thing since I have two little brothers and I kind of look like my mom. Telling me and everyone I love at my wedding was a way for her to honor her dear friend and 'share' that special moment in my life with her.
By DidNotExpectThat - / Monday 18 July 2016 07:30 / United States - Palo Alto
Add a comment
You must be logged in to be able to post comments!
Create my account Sign in
Top comments
By  almost_there44  |  19

What was she thinking?! Usually speeches at weddings are supposed to be funny and heartwarming, but your mom took it to another level. I hope this didn't ruin your day; then again, I don't know how it couldn't have.

Comments
Reply
  MissRaindrop  |  20

It's not that it's a bad thing but that is a pretty big bomb to drop on somebody in front of a big crowd of people. Also highly inappropriate to do at a wedding of all places. That's a family discussion to be had at home first.

Reply
  Kitten_love  |  22

Being adopted, I could see how not knowing until later would be horribly emotional. I always knew. If my parents told me at my wedding, I would feel lied to about my entire identity and would be extremely angered. Being adopted isn't bad; parents telling you at inappropriate or late times is.

By  NeatNit  |  32

Reply
  NeatNit  |  32

#27 yeah. besides, I've noticed a trend in the comments in recent years to be all serious and understanding and supportive and whatnot instead of making jokes, completely missing the point of this website. Oh well.

By  almost_there44  |  19

What was she thinking?! Usually speeches at weddings are supposed to be funny and heartwarming, but your mom took it to another level. I hope this didn't ruin your day; then again, I don't know how it couldn't have.

Reply
  DoomedGemini  |  35

I think it's pretty normal to feel at least initial sadness when you find out. There's nothing wrong with it, but still. They might need time to come to terms with it and fully accept it. It should be obvious a wedding is a terrible time to drop something like that.

Reply

Of course it's obvious it was an inappropriate time; I said nothing to suggest otherwise. I don't understand sadness though. I perfectly understand anger at this information being hidden and I can understand confusion at the life that has already passed, but I just don't understand sadness. Maybe because I found out early in life I can't relate.

By  I_am_TheSixth  |  15

Too many negative votes, comment buried. Show the comment

By  Rozeyyy  |  25

Oh no! That's literally the worst possible moment to announce that....especially infront if all the guests. I'm sorry OP On the bright side..you can now have a fresh start with ur husband!

Loading data…