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Of course not, but people generally do know more or less around which date the baby's supposed to come. If you're planning to give birth at home, and you have neighbours who will definitely hear you, I'd think it would be normal to let them know when it will probably happen. If she did inform OP, they should've at least been aware of the possibility that it would happen in the night before the exam. Doesn't mean OP could've done much about it, but at least it's not a surprise. I would be very pi

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Sorry, I misunderstood you a bit - but I agree completely. For her it was a wonderful event, but for the neighbours it's excruciating. If they warn OP, OP should've gone to a hotel and present her with a bill afterwards.Or even if they did warn OP, nobody should be forced to tolerate it at their own home all night long.

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I'm sure I'll be downvoted for this, but people who live in apartments should just give birth at the fucking hospital. You really don't know who you're disrupting otherwise.

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I know a bunch of people who have or plan on having home births and they all mention letting their neighbors know, not only out of courtesy, but so that no one thinks there is a domestic dispute or a homicide or something awful happening. Police have been called on home births by concerned neighbors who weren't informed of the mother's intention to deliver at home.

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...or OP could have gotten ear plugs. I would not present a new mother with a hotel bill either. It's loud and a bit rude to your neighbors, but at that point, it's also over. Time for the baby to keep you up instead.

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What could OP have done that was inconsiderate? They were trying to sleep, which is not only daily and necessary, but typically a quiet activity. Unless they went banging on the neighbors door, the woman giving birth was the inconsiderate one. I understand wanting a home birth, so that's not the issue. If anything it's beautiful It's that she was in an apartment complex, and her wanting it in her apartment probably kept minimum people awake (two on each side and the above apartments). It could h

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You seriously need to educate yourself before you try to tell people off, little miss. Believe it or not some births do take hours. Some women have difficulty pushing, or the contractions take a long time, or they have to wait hours on end to even dilate enough to get the baby out safely. Ergo, it does not "only take minutes." Please either do some research before you reply again, or just go away.

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My sister had her baby over a month ago and it took over twelve hours, and when my mom had my two younger siblings, it was 8 hours. Giving birth is different for every woman. basically what you said is in line with 'stop being dramatic about period pain, it's not bad at all' while many women mistake serious medical issues beyond their period as just severe cramps. You don't seem to know much about child birth.

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There are a few things the neighbour could have done to be fair. Prior warning, handing out ear plugs, a hospital? I can understand not wanting to give birth in a hospital, but Birth Centers exist for that reason. To have a home birth that lasts all night in an apartment building where your neighbours are so close is unbelievably inconsiderate.

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Yeah the vast majority of people don't give birth at home. How do you think they all manage? You're talking like women suddenly become incapable of moving when labour starts. As the FML states, it can last hours, most women have tonnes of time to get to wherever they're going to give birth. My sister went into labour, went to the hospital, and got sent home and told to come back later because she was only 4cm dilated.

Only nine hours? Believe me it could have been a lot worse. But I share your discomfort at having to listen to someone giving birth. When I was in the maternity ward with my son 26 years ago, a women from my pre-natal class spent about 16 hours giving birth to a 14 pounder, courtesy of its mother's gestational diabetes. She chose to go without pain relief, and by the time the kid was born, even the medical staff were nervous wrecks. Hope the exam went well anyway, OP.

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You're right, it could've been much more than 9 hours. For my 1st child I was in labor at the hospital (few hours at home before that) for over 19 hours before I was finally taken for an emergency C-section.

Fyl. This is why I hated the idea of a home birth. No matter how comfortable a woman may be in her own home it's just selfish to expect your neighbours to listen to them screaming for hours on end. Especially since the neighbours are going to have to listen to the baby cry for months after.

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I'm conflicted with this, because a woman giving birth should always be comfortable, and if that means a home birth, then I support that. But when it comes to living in an apartment, I just don't think it's a good idea, thin walls and neighbours attached to you from all sides, it's just too much for such an enclosed and small space. I mean, most apartments where I live have noise bylaws for after 10pm, where tenants aren't allowed to vacuum, use the washer and dryer, play loud music, yell, etc,

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Are you serious? The sick patients in the hospital are not disturbed by birthing moms. The maternity wards are typically on a floor all their own. I'm sure it's partly for the noise, but also to avoid exposure of newborns to disease and illness.

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