By RabbitOfAurora - 12/12/2012 15:56 - United Kingdom - Feltham

Today, I flew from Australia to the UK to meet the woman I love. After two years of talking, and having gotten a love letter for my birthday a few months prior, I was convinced we'd have a great time. Turns out she doesn't know what she feels for me. I'm staying with her for the next 35 days. FML
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Okay, for all of you who were wondering how this thing ended? With her mother screaming at me to "Get out right now or I'll call the police" Apparently the whole time I was there I "offended everyone" and made "the atmosphere absolutely unbearable" I was also "Vile" an "ungrateful" She knows this FML is here, and so I won't even try defending myself because I don't want an argument or something to break out over it. The last straw pretty much came when I posted a status on facebook about a conversation her mother and I had. I didn't name names, and only stated that I didn't care how overly cautious I looked for not doing X because I could hurt myself pretty badly doing it (because I am overweight and so risk of injury increases). she took this as me having a "Dig" at her. As her opinion was pretty much I should do it anyway, or that I should loose weight with diet and exercise and then do it. I found this so offensive because over the last 15 weeks or so I've lost 12 kilos, I'm also recovering from a bulging disk pressing against my sciatic nerve. I don't know if you all know how much that hurts, but at the worst I was almost passing out, vomiting, and loosing control of both my bladder and bowels, all at once, just standing up. The only reason I was okay is because I used some serious will power. That was 9 months ago. Three months ago, I couldn't even stand long enough to heat up soup because the pain was so bad. I'm actually surprised I was okay enough to do this trip anyway. I had some decent pain killers that really helped. I'm getting there in my own time. I honestly think that by this point they were looking for reasons to kick me to the curb. This girl is very, VERY different in person. Still not a bad person by any definition of the word, but so different to how I ever expected.. I'm actually still rather shocked. Guess she felt the same about me too. Pretty much the whole time, we were all pretty miserable so I came home a week early. I've been home for almost 8 hours and will be celebrating the new year with my mum. I have chosen to no longer have contact with her or her family. I'm ready to put this all behind me and start next year all new and fresh. All this was just a play by play of the last day or so, obviously things go way deeper, but this is not the place for that. If I could go back in time, I probably would cancel the trip and save all the money I spent.. Possibly salvage the friendship too. But at least on the up side, I learned a lot about who I am through this. It could have been an amazing love story, now it's a tragic romance that pretty much equates to "At least I did something with my life at one point, even if it didn't work" My fellow FMLers, I think it's important to go after what you want, even if you don't want the same thing by the end. you need to take risks and put them behind you if they don't pay off. Forward is the best way to go. I wish you all a happy new year full of wonderful stories too good to submit on this site. XOXO - Rabbit Of Aurora <3

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There is a huge difference between online & being right there with a person. 35 days was probably a bit optimistic for a first date... Hope it goes well, OP

onorexveritas 23

well it seems she's got plenty of time to figure it out

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Not necessarily. I met my boyfriend of over 2 years online as well. We had a great connection online, and as it turns out, in real life as well. True, I never thought I would be one of 'those people', but it turns out I am. You can't judge when it hasn't happened to you.

Not everyone is fortunate enough to find love locally. Heck, I'm always grateful I have someone special in my life at age 19. Who knows if it'll be forever but for now we can enjoy what we have at this point in life. I've seen people have great results from online dating. I consider it very much the same kind of dating as in person because on line daters end up doing the exact same thing. Going out for dinner & movies & such. You wouldn't be able to tell who met on line or knew each other based on a dinner date. Plus, my friends are just as happy as me so clearly on line dating can work for some people.

CharresBarkrey 15

It's pretty shallow to think you can't love someone online.

If it was up to me, I would use the 35 days to impress her and win her over

I don't understand how it's possible to love someone you've never seen in real life...

MadisonB96 6

It's their personality, who they really are, that you fall in love with.

Agreed. It's the ultimate test to see if you fall in love with looks or character - especially when you haven't chatted with cam before.

Also there's a little invention called Skype...

florido_fml 10
unknown_user5566 26

I'm watching that show right now. I've yet to see any of the meetings work out well, which is kind of sad.

CharresBarkrey 15

I don't know, I think that one who had been speaking for over ten years turned out pretty well. She got closure and they're still friends.

akg98 13

My favorite show!! I was thinking the exact same thing :3

Did you expect her to run and jump in your arms with a big kiss? You just met her. Your online life together does not really exist in real life. You are going to have to get to know each other all over again. You just get a head start because you know some history on each other.

It's not an easy situation and you did nothing wrong by pursuing this love. But sometimes a sudden big change such as having someone stay over at your place can throw you off. Maybe it's not that she's not sure about her love for you, she's just not sure how she feels about you sharing her life routine with her for 35 days, day and night? Maybe find another place to stay and go sightseeing and see her when she has the time?

Ambellina_ 7

I may be one of the few, but my fiance and I met online in a chat room when we were teenagers. We weren't looking for anything, just became friends by talking all the time. It grew from there, just like some friendships do. We didn't meet in real life for a couple of years, but I never considered it a "fake" relationship. We talked all the time, and I feel, it helped us, without having the physical aspect of a relationship. We learned how to communicate and we learned more about each other than anyone else ever has. We are still going strong, after living together for almost five years, and together overall for eight. :)

I know what you mean, my fiance and I met on an online game. Our relationship is extremely strong, even though I have to stay in the US until my Canadian paperwork goes through, so we see each other about once ever 1-3 months. Some people have what it takes to be able to have a long distance relationship and others just NEED that physical part of it. It does happen, but I find it is pretty rare.

Indeed. I've been with my bf for over 2 years now. We met on an online game as well. He wants me to move in with him, but I need/want to finish my psychology degree in Belgium, so we see each other a few times per year as well. I am usually okay with it not being a completely physical relationship, but it seems he's got a bit more trouble with it. So failing a year would be pretty bad xD

Yeah, next time don't send her 20 year old pictures of yourself before cheesecake became your favorite food.