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By  xrudeboyrock  |  28

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By  taytoc  |  10

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  NeatNit  |  32

Handle what? The boyfriend probably can't handle it, but if the mother tells him that would be illegal. Clearly there is now a ton of tension between the mother and the girlfriend and it affects both of them. This is an unbelievably horrible start. Not to mention that the girlfriend might actually be gay, but that would make the whole thing moot. But now she has to find a new therapist, of course, since a therapist must be neutral and unbiased which the mother now clearly isn't. All in all her life is fucked, a lot more than most FMLs.

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  imagineapc  |  11

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  dancinwookie  |  21

#56- She can't continue seeing her therapist. This has surpassed the level of conflict of interest. If her therapist were to continue to see her it would be considered unethical and she would probably lose her license to practice. They're pretty strict when it comes to mental health practices.

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Looking back on it, I realise how stupid my previous comment was and I apologise completely. Although OP maybe you should take some time out, find a new therapist and find yourself first I have often doubted my sexuality and have found it difficult but you will find yourself eventually, there is no doubt about that.

By  xrudeboyrock  |  28

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  rattusrattus  |  18

Have you seen society's general take on sexuality? There's the fact that a lot of it seems to rest on gender. Then there's the fact that you 'can' only be attracted to one gender, and anything else is seen as just weird. Then there's stuff like kink which isn't universally approved of. I mean, it could be embarressing but it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with the relationship. It's just that now boyfriend's mum knows that "I love my boyfriend but I may be attracted to girls but I'm not sure" or "I want my boyfriend to spank me, is that wrong?" or "I want to try polyamory but it scares me" or something.

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  jem970  |  19

Ok 17 look at it this way. They continue on and OP continues to question herself but stays in the relationship. He ends up wanting to marry her and proposes and she says no and leaves him because she realizes that she is not attracted to men (which is questioning sexuality, not if you like kink)

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  xrudeboyrock  |  28

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  mrkp  |  14

It's completely possible she's trying to figure out if she's bi-sexual or not. Maybe she still really likes the guy, but still finds herself attracted to girls every now and then, and until she's completely sure about it she doesn't want to freak out this person she obviously cares for over something that could be nothing.

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  jem970  |  19

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  janelly16  |  7

She's not leading him on. Like try said she might just be confused that she is bi-sexual. Last time I checked it wasn't illegal for bi-sexuals to date one gender and still have an attraction to the other.

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  jem970  |  19

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  jem970  |  19

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Questioning her sexuality may be nothing more than thinking she is bisexual. If that is the case then there would be no need to dump her boyfriend, if she thinks she may be a lesbian though then that is a completely different case and she should probably talk to her boyfriend and figure it out.

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  RobManB  |  4

Would you enjoy finding out that someone you've been in a relationship with has been questioning whether or not they're bi the whole time? I think I would be pretty upset that they thought it was appropriate to keep me in the dark on this type of situation.

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  Anai08  |  17

#2- For some people, meeting the parents is not such a huge milestone. I met my current boyfriend of four year's mother on day two of us dating. I've alway found it a little strange actually that people wait until they deem themselves to be "serious". Parents are a big part of someone's life, and it seems unnatural to make a big production out of meeting them. Like, the whole thing seems less genuine. But that's just me speaking from my own personal experience.

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  Fooberry  |  9

104, many people who aren't related have the same last name. Maybe she thought it was a coincidence or didn't even think about it. OP, looks like it's time to get a new therapist.

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  ninneyfooda  |  16

To be fair, there are two people involved here who would be able to give advice/help make a decision on whether or not she should continue the relationship... The person herself and her therapist... I wonder if she encouraged her to keep the dating going, I imagine she would of told the therapist about being in the relationship with a boy lol.

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Just because you're confused about your sexuality doesn't mean you're leading someone on. And it also doesn't mean that it'll affect the relationship negatively. My boyfriend had been struggling with his sexuality and didn't tell me he might be bi until about 8 months together, but him telling me only strengthened our relationship.

By  Llamacod  |  11

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  LColt  |  7

there are doctors, nurses, police officers and firefighters that all have confidentiality, but still tell their family what happened that day at work without mentioning names. he might figure it out anyway if the gf told him she had a therapist appt and his mom came home and told him about a patient she had..

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  Success4444  |  12

It is perfectly acceptable for the girlfriend to tell him. If he hears anything at all from the mom that allows him to out two and two together, then the mom is the only one at fault. The girlfriend then has all sports of laws backing her up, and the mom can lose her license. She should, in my opinion. It would be like the mom going up to a random person on the street and saying "I had a patient today that is concerned about her sexuality. The guy she is dating doesn't know, and I think it is a recipe for destruction." Because that stranger doesn't know her, wouldn't they think about it a little bit harder, possibly figuring it out? My point is, if she doesn't tell everyone involved in her patients' lives about their condition, she has no right to tell her son anything! (phew...)

By  gribbles  |  12

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  DanielleinDC  |  27

Well, if the boyfriend has a common name, she might not make the connection. Or maybe the mother has a different last name from her son (it's not that uncommon). That said, OP, if you are questioning your attraction to the guy, you really need to tell him. As someone else pointed out, you could be bisexual and more attracted to men than women. And if you are going to keep seeing him, you'll need to find another therapist.

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  Jessj958  |  19

Agree with #7. Being able to share things with your partner is a big part of a relationship. I hope that you get things figured out OP! Not only for you, but for your boyfriend too. It's important to be honest and up front with him, rather than stringing him along. Good luck!!

By  Pleonasm  |  31

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  countryrose92  |  23

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