I'm always right

By Anonymous - 15/01/2023 14:00

Today, my mom got mad at me. She told me that the neighbor was stupid for letting their kids play all over the street alone. I said it was fine, because the mom walked right next to the daughter as she played on her scooter. She argued, “Why do you always have to disagree with me?” FML
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Chazzster 28

Sigh… With little kids, parents get used to being the unquestioned authority because they always know better than a 4 year old does. As your children grow up you want them to develop their own capacity for reasoning and exercising judgement, but you also still want to be the “expert”… As children grow they start developing their own judgement which is sometimes right and sometimes wrong, and they also start carving out their own life within the family unit. That can lead to confrontation and arguments. It doesn’t have to, it is possible to keep your thoughts to yourself when you disagree about something that doesn’t really affect you. And it’s equally possible to accept that your child has a different point of view where it doesn’t really affect either of you. My son was apparently unable to have an unexpressed idea until he was a teenager. (My children were 11 years apart, with different mothers - My daughter is the oldest.) My daughter once she got older, became apparently unwilling or incapable of expressing anything that was really important to her. Neither is ideal as a parent, but everyone has their own personality… There is only one human being on this whole planet that any of us can charge - ourselves. Sometimes you have to compensate for someone else even when you think you are right. Learn to pick your battles to things that matter and you have a good shot at being right about. Sometimes we have to just let things slide that aren’t important with a non-committal gesture or “uh-huh”…

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Chazzster 28

By the way, I think that in their own ways both OP and her Mom were correct. Assuming it’s a quiet residential street with little traffic, mom and child on scooter were safe enough. But, you don’t want to encourage children to play in the street - Because some time they might think it was OK to do so when they are by themselves before they are responsible enough to be very careful… When I was young, many children were “free range” coming and going in the neighborhood while only checking in at certain times. Parents bought you a bike or scooter so you could get around by yourself or with friends in your neighborhood. I honestly do not know where that world went…

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RichardPencil 30

Answer: Because you always spew ignorant shit.

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Chazzster 28

Sigh… With little kids, parents get used to being the unquestioned authority because they always know better than a 4 year old does. As your children grow up you want them to develop their own capacity for reasoning and exercising judgement, but you also still want to be the “expert”… As children grow they start developing their own judgement which is sometimes right and sometimes wrong, and they also start carving out their own life within the family unit. That can lead to confrontation and arguments. It doesn’t have to, it is possible to keep your thoughts to yourself when you disagree about something that doesn’t really affect you. And it’s equally possible to accept that your child has a different point of view where it doesn’t really affect either of you. My son was apparently unable to have an unexpressed idea until he was a teenager. (My children were 11 years apart, with different mothers - My daughter is the oldest.) My daughter once she got older, became apparently unwilling or incapable of expressing anything that was really important to her. Neither is ideal as a parent, but everyone has their own personality… There is only one human being on this whole planet that any of us can charge - ourselves. Sometimes you have to compensate for someone else even when you think you are right. Learn to pick your battles to things that matter and you have a good shot at being right about. Sometimes we have to just let things slide that aren’t important with a non-committal gesture or “uh-huh”…

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Chazzster 28

By the way, I think that in their own ways both OP and her Mom were correct. Assuming it’s a quiet residential street with little traffic, mom and child on scooter were safe enough. But, you don’t want to encourage children to play in the street - Because some time they might think it was OK to do so when they are by themselves before they are responsible enough to be very careful… When I was young, many children were “free range” coming and going in the neighborhood while only checking in at certain times. Parents bought you a bike or scooter so you could get around by yourself or with friends in your neighborhood. I honestly do not know where that world went…

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Studious_Gluteus 18

That world was sacrificed to appease our planet's dominant species: the automobile.

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